Studies in the Psychology of Sex, Volume 6
CHAPTER X.
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MARRIAGE.
The Definition of Marriage--Marriage Among Animals--The Predominance of
Monogamy--The Question of Group Marriage--Monogamy a Natural Fact, Not
Based on Human Law--The Tendency to Place the Form of Marriage Above the
Fact of Marriage--The History of Marriage--Marriage in Ancient
Rome--Germanic Influence on Marriage--Bride-Sale--The Ring--The Influence
of Christianity on Marriage--The Great Extent of This Influence--The
Sacrament of Matrimony--Origin and Growth of the Sacramental
Conception--The Church Made Marriage a Public Act--Canon Law--Its Sound
Core--Its Development--Its Confusions and Absurdities--Peculiarities of
English Marriage Law--Influence of the Reformation on Marriage--The
Protestant Conception of Marriage as a Secular Contract--The Puritan
Reform of Marriage--Milton as the Pioneer of Marriage Reform--His Views on
Divorce--The Backward Position of England in Marriage Reform--Criticism of
the English Divorce Law--Traditions of the Canon Law Still Persistent--The
Question of Damages for Adultery--Collusion as a Bar to
Divorce--Divorce in France, Germany, Austria, Russia, etc.--The United
States--Impossibility of Deciding by Statute the Causes for
Divorce--Divorce by Mutual Consent--Its Origin and Development--Impeded by
the Traditions of Canon Law--Wilhelm von Humboldt--Modern Pioneer
Advocates of Divorce by Mutual Consent--The Arguments Against Facility of
Divorce--The Interests of the Children--The Protection of Women--The
Present Tendency of the Divorce Movement--Marriage Not a Contract--The
Proposal of Marriage for a Term of Years--Legal Disabilities and
Disadvantages in the Position of the Husband and the Wife--Marriage Not a
Contract But a Fact--Only the Non-Essentials of Marriage, Not the
Essentials, a Proper Matter for Contract--The Legal Recognition of
Marriage as a Fact Without Any Ceremony--Contracts of the Person Opposed
to Modern Tendencies--The Factor of Moral Responsibility--Marriage as an
Ethical Sacrament--Personal Responsibility Involves Freedom--Freedom the
Best Guarantee of Stability--False Ideas of Individualism--Modern Tendency
of Marriage--With the Birth of a Child Marriage Ceases to be a Private
Concern--Every Child Must Have a Legal Father and Mother--How This Can be
Effected--The Firm Basis of Monogamy--The Question of Marriage
Variations--Such Variations Not Inimical to Monogamy--The Most Common
Variations--The Flexibility of Marriage Holds Variations in
Check--Marriage Variations _versus_ Prostitution--Marriage on a Reasonable
and Humane Basis--Summary and Conclusion.
The discussion in the previous chapter of the nature of sexual morality,
with the brief sketch it involved of the direction in which that morality
is moving, has necessarily left many points vague. It may still be asked
what definite and precise forms sexual unions are tending to take among
us, and what relation these unions bear to the religious, social, and
legal traditions we have inherited. These are matters about which a very
considerable amount of uncertainty seems to prevail, for it is not unusual
to hear revolutionary or eccentric opinions concerning them.
Sexual union, involving the cohabitation, temporary or permanent, of two
or more persons, and having for one of its chief ends the production and
care of offspring, is commonly termed marriage. The group so constituted
forms a family. This is the sense in which the words "marriage" and the
"family" are most properly used, whether we speak of animals or of Man.
There is thus seen to be room for variation as regards both the time
during which the union lasts, and the number of individuals who form it,
the chief factor in the determination of these points being the interests
of the offspring. In actual practice, however, sexual unions, not only in
Man but among the higher animals, tend to last beyond the needs of the
offspring of a single season, while the fact that in most species the
numbers of males and females are approximately equal makes it inevitable
that both among animals and in Man the family is produced by a single
sexual couple, that is to say that monogamy is, with however many
exceptions, necessarily the fundamental rule.
It will thus be seen that marriage centres in the child, and has at the
outset no reason for existence apart from the welfare of the offspring.
Among those animals of lowly organization which are able to provide for
themselves from the beginning of existence there is no family and no need
for marriage. Among human races, when sexual unions are not followed by
offspring, there may be other reasons for the continuance of the union
but they are not reasons in which either Nature or society is in the
slightest degree directly concerned. The marriage which grew up among
animals by heredity on the basis of natural selection, and which has been
continued by the lower human races through custom and tradition, by the
more civilized races through the superimposed regulative influence of
legal institutions, has been marriage for the sake of the offspring.[312]
Even in civilized races among whom the proportion of sterile marriages is
large, marriage tends to be so constituted as always to assume the
procreation of children and to involve the permanence required by such
procreation.
Among birds, which from the point of view of erotic development
stand at the head of the animal world, monogamy frequently
prevails (according to some estimates among 90 per cent.), and
unions tend to be permanent; there is an approximation to the
same condition among some of the higher mammals, especially the
anthropoid apes; thus among gorillas and oran-utans permanent
monogamic marriages take place, the young sometimes remaining
with the parents to the age of six, while any approach to loose
behavior on the part of the wife is severely punished by the
husband. The variations that occur are often simply matters of
adaptation to circumstances; thus, according to J.G. Millais
(_Natural History of British Ducks_, pp. 8, 63), the Shoveler
duck, though normally monogamic, will become polyandric when
males are in excess, the two males being in constant and amicable
attendance on the female without signs of jealousy; among the
monogamic mallards, similarly, polygyny and polyandry may also
occur. See also R.W. Shufeldt, "Mating Among Birds," _American
Naturalist_, March, 1907; for mammal marriages, a valuable paper
by Robert Müller, "Säugethierehen," _Sexual-Probleme_, Jan.,
1909, and as regards the general prevalence of monogamy, Woods
Hutchinson, "Animal Marriage," _Contemporary Review_, Oct., 1904,
and Sept., 1905.
There has long been a dispute among the historians of marriage as
to the first form of human marriage. Some assume a primitive
promiscuity gradually modified in the direction of monogamy;
others argue that man began where the anthropoid apes left off,
and that monogamy has prevailed, on the whole, throughout. Both
these opposed views, in an extreme form, seem untenable, and the
truth appears to lie midway. It has been shown by various
writers, and notably Westermarck (_History of Human Marriage_,
Chs. IV-VI), that there is no sound evidence in favor of
primitive promiscuity, and that at the present day there are few,
if any, savage peoples living in genuine unrestricted sexual
promiscuity. This theory of a primitive promiscuity seems to have
been suggested, as J.A. Godfrey has pointed out (_Science of
Sex_, p. 112), by the existence in civilized societies of
promiscuous prostitution, though this kind of promiscuity was
really the result, rather than the origin, of marriage. On the
other hand, it can scarcely be said that there is any convincing
evidence of primitive strict monogamy beyond the assumption that
early man continued the sexual habits of the anthropoid apes. It
would seem probable, however, that the great forward step
involved in passing from ape to man was associated with a change
in sexual habits involving the temporary adoption of a more
complex system than monogamy. It is difficult to see in what
other social field than that of sex primitive man could find
exercise for the developing intellectual and moral aptitudes, the
subtle distinctions and moral restraints, which the strict
monogamy practiced by animals could afford no scope for. It is
also equally difficult to see on what basis other than that of a
more closely associated sexual system the combined and harmonious
efforts needed for social progress could have developed. It is
probable that at least one of the motives for exogamy, or
marriage outside the group, is (as was probably first pointed out
by St. Augustine in his _De Civitate Dei_) the need of creating a
larger social circle, and so facilitating social activities and
progress. Exactly the same end is effected by a complex marriage
system binding a large number of people together by common
interests. The strictly small and confined monogamic family,
however excellently it subserved the interests of the offspring,
contained no promise of a wider social progress. We see this
among both ants and bees, who of all animals, have attained the
highest social organization; their progress was only possible
through a profound modification of the systems of sexual
relationship. As Espinas said many years ago (in his suggestive
work, _Des Sociétés Animales_): "The cohesion of the family and
the probabilities for the birth of societies are inverse." Or, as
Schurtz more recently pointed out, although individual marriage
has prevailed more or less from the first, early social
institutions, early ideas and early religion involved sexual
customs which modified a strict monogamy.
The most primitive form of complex human marriage which has yet
been demonstrated as still in existence is what is called
group-marriage, in which all the women of one class are regarded
as the actual, or at all events potential, wives of all the men
in another class. This has been observed among some central
Australian tribes, a people as primitive and as secluded from
external influence as could well be found, and there is evidence
to show that it was formerly more widespread among them. "In the
Urabunna tribe, for example," say Spencer and Gillen, "a group of
men actually do have, continually and as a normal condition,
marital relations with a group of women. This state of affairs
has nothing whatever to do with polygamy any more than it has
with polyandry. It is simply a question of a group of men and a
group of women who may lawfully have what we call marital
relations. There is nothing whatever abnormal about it, and, in
all probability, this system of what has been called group
marriage, serving as it does to bind more or less closely
together groups of individuals who are mutually interested in one
another's welfare, has been one of the most powerful agents in
the early stages of the upward development of the human race"
(Spencer and Gillen, _Northern Tribes of Central Australia_, p.
74; cf. A.W. Howitt, _The Native Tribes of South-East
Australia_). Group-marriage, with female descent, as found in
Australia, tends to become transformed by various stages of
progress into individual marriage with descent in the male line,
a survival of group-marriage perhaps persisting in the
much-discussed _jus primæ noctis_. (It should be added that Mr.
N.W. Thomas, in his book on _Kinship and Marriage in Australia_,
1908, concludes that group-marriage in Australia has not been
demonstrated, and that Professor Westermarck, in his _Origin and
Development of the Moral Ideas_, as in his previous _History of
Human Marriage_, maintains a skeptical opinion in regard to
group-marriage generally; he thinks the Urabunna custom may have
developed out of ordinary individual marriage, and regards the
group-marriage theory as "the residuary legatee of the old theory
of promiscuity." Durkheim also believes that the Australian
marriage system is not primitive, "Organisation Matrimoniale
Australienne," _L'Année Sociologique_, eighth year, 1905). With
the attainment of a certain level of social progress it is easy
to see that a wide and complicated system of sexual relationships
ceases to have its value, and a more or less qualified monogamy
tends to prevail as more in harmony with the claims of social
stability and executive masculine energy.
The best historical discussion of marriage is still probably
Westermarck's _History of Human Marriage_, though at some points
it now needs to be corrected or supplemented; among more recent
books dealing with primitive sexual conceptions may be specially
mentioned Crawley's _Mystic Rose_, while the facts concerning the
transformation of marriage among the higher human races are set
forth in G.E. Howard's _History of Matrimonial Institutions_ (3
vols.), which contains copious bibliographical references. There
is an admirably compact, but clear and comprehensive, sketch of
the development of modern marriage in Pollock and Maitland,
_History of English Law_, vol. ii.
It is necessary to make allowance for variations, thereby shunning the
extreme theorists who insist on moulding all facts to their theories, but
we may conclude that--as the approximately equal number of the sexes
indicates--in the human species, as among many of the higher animals, a
more or less permanent monogamy has on the whole tended to prevail. That
is a fact of great significance in its implications. For we have to
realize that we are here in the presence of a natural fact. Sexual
relationships, in human as in animal societies, follow a natural law,
oscillating on each side of the norm, and there is no place for the theory
that that law was imposed artificially. If all artificial "laws" could be
abolished the natural order of the sexual relationships would continue to
subsist substantially as at present. Virtue, said Cicero, is but Nature
carried out to the utmost. Or, as Holbach put it, arguing that our
institutions tend whither Nature tends, "art is only Nature acting by the
help of the instruments she has herself made." Shakespeare had already
seen much the same truth when he said that the art which adds to Nature
"is an art that Nature makes." Law and religion have buttressed monogamy;
it is not based on them but on the needs and customs of mankind, and these
constitute its completely adequate sanctions.[313] Or, as Cope put it,
marriage is not the creation of law but the law is its creation.[314]
Crawley, again, throughout his study of primitive sex relationships,
emphasizes the fact that our formal marriage system is not, as so many
religious and moral writers once supposed, a forcible repression of
natural impulses, but merely the rigid crystallization of those natural
impulses, which in a more fluid form have been in human nature from the
first. Our conventional forms, we must believe, have not introduced any
elements of value, while in some respects they have been mischievous.
It is necessary to bear in mind that the conclusion that
monogamic marriage is natural, and represents an order which is
in harmony with the instincts of the majority of people, by no
means involves agreement with the details of any particular legal
system of monogamy. Monogamic marriage is a natural biological
fact, alike in many animals and in man. But no system of legal
regulation is a natural biological fact. When a highly esteemed
alienist, Dr. Clouston, writes (_The Hygiene of Mind_, p. 245)
"there is only one natural mode of gratifying sexual _nisus_ and
reproductive instinct, that of marriage," the statement requires
considerable exegesis before it can be accepted, or even receive
an intelligible meaning, and if we are to understand by
"marriage" the particular form and implications of the English
marriage law, or even of the somewhat more enlightened Scotch
law, the statement is absolutely false. There is a world of
difference, as J.A. Godfrey remarks (_The Science of Sex_, 1901,
p. 278), between natural monogamous marriage and our legal
system; "the former is the outward expression of the best that
lies in the sexuality of man; the latter is a creation in which
religious and moral superstitions have played a most important
part, not always to the benefit of individual and social health."
We must, therefore, guard against the tendency to think that
there is anything rigid or formal in the natural order of
monogamy. Some sociologists would even limit the naturalness of
monogamy still further. Thus Tarde ("La Morale Sexuelle,"
_Archives d'Anthropologie Criminelle_, Jan., 1907), while
accepting as natural under present conditions the tendency for
monogamy, mitigated by more or less clandestine concubinage, to
prevail over all other forms of marriage, considers that this is
not due to any irresistible influence, but merely to the fact
that this kind of marriage is practiced by the majority of
people, including the most civilized.
With the acceptance of the tendency to monogamy we are not at the
end of sexual morality, but only at the beginning. It is not
monogamy that is the main thing, but the kind of lives that
people lead in monogamy. The mere acceptance of a monogamic rule
carries us but a little way. That is a fact which cannot fail to
impress itself on those who approach the questions of sex from
the psychological side.
If monogamy is thus firmly based it is unreasonable to fear, or to hope
for, any radical modification in the institution of marriage, regarded,
not under its temporary religious and legal aspects but as an order which
appeared on the earth even earlier than man. Monogamy is the most natural
expression of an impulse which cannot, as a rule, be so adequately
realized in full fruition under conditions involving a less prolonged
period of mutual communion and intimacy. Variations, regarded as
inevitable oscillations around the norm, are also natural, but union in
couples must always be the rule because the numbers of the sexes are
always approximately equal, while the needs of the emotional life, even
apart from the needs of offspring, demand that such unions based on mutual
attraction should be so far as possible permanent.
It must here again be repeated that it is the reality, and not
the form or the permanence of the marriage union, which is its
essential and valuable part. It is not the legal or religious
formality which sanctifies marriage, it is the reality of the
marriage which sanctifies the form. Fielding has satirized in
Nightingale, Tom Jones's friend, the shallow-brained view of
connubial society which degrades the reality of marriage to exalt
the form. Nightingale has the greatest difficulty in marrying a
girl with whom he has already had sexual relations, although he
is the only man who has had relations with her. To Jones's
arguments he replies: "Common-sense warrants all you say, but yet
you well know that the opinion of the world is so contrary to it,
that were I to marry a whore, though my own, I should be ashamed
of ever showing my face again." It cannot be said that Fielding's
satire is even yet out of date. Thus in Prussia, according to
Adele Schreiber ("Heirathsbeschränkungen," _Die Neue Generation_,
Feb., 1909), it seems to be still practically impossible for a
military officer to marry the mother of his own illegitimate
child.
The glorification of the form at the expense of the reality of
marriage has even been attempted in poetry by Tennyson in the
least inspired of his works, _The Idylls of the King_. In
"Lancelot and Elaine" and "Guinevere" (as Julia Magruder points
out, _North American Review_, April, 1905) Guinevere is married
to King Arthur, whom she has never seen, when already in love
with Lancelot, so that the "marriage" was merely a ceremony, and
not a real marriage (cf., May Child, "The Weird of Sir Lancelot,"
_North American Review_, Dec., 1908).
It may seem to some that so conservative an estimate of the tendencies of
civilization in matters of sexual love is due to a timid adherence to mere
tradition. That is not the case. We have to recognize that marriage is
firmly held in position by the pressure of two opposing forces. There are
two currents in the stream of our civilization: one that moves towards an
ever greater social order and cohesion, the other that moves towards an
ever greater individual freedom. There is real harmony underlying the
apparent opposition of these two tendencies, and each is indeed the
indispensable complement of the other. There can be no real freedom for
the individual in the things that concern that individual alone unless
there is a coherent order in the things that concern him as a social unit.
Marriage in one of its aspects only concerns the two individuals involved;
in another of its aspects it chiefly concerns society. The two forces
cannot combine to act destructively on marriage, for the one counteracts
the other. They combine to support monogamy, in all essentials, on its
immemorial basis.
It must be added that in the circumstances of monogamy that are not
essential there always has been, and always must be, perpetual
transformation. All traditional institutions, however firmly founded on
natural impulses, are always growing dead and rigid at some points and
putting forth vitally new growths at other points. It is the effort to
maintain their vitality, and to preserve their elastic adjustment to the
environment, which involves this process of transformation in
non-essentials.
The only way in which we can fruitfully approach the question of the value
of the transformations now taking place in our marriage-system is by
considering the history of that system in the past. In that way we learn
the real significance of the marriage-system, and we understand what
transformations are, or are not, associated with a fine civilization. When
we are acquainted with the changes of the past we are enabled to face more
confidently the changes of the present.
The history of the marriage-system of modern civilized peoples begins in
the later days of the Roman Empire at the time when the foundations were
being laid of that Roman law which has exerted so large an influence in
Christendom. Reference has already been made[315] to the significant fact
that in late Rome women had acquired a position of nearly complete
independence in relation to their husbands, while the patriarchal
authority still exerted over them by their fathers had become, for the
most part, almost nominal. This high status of women was associated, as it
naturally tends to be, with a high degree of freedom in the marriage
system. Roman law had no power of intervening in the formation of
marriages and there were no legal forms of marriage. The Romans recognized
that marriage is a fact and not a mere legal form; in marriage by _usus_
there was no ceremony at all; it was constituted by the mere fact of
living together for a whole year; yet such marriage was regarded as just
as legal and complete as if it had been inaugurated by the sacred rite of
_confarreatio_. Marriage was a matter of simple private agreement in which
the man and the woman approached each other on a footing of equality. The
wife retained full control of her own property; the barbarity of admitting
an action for restitution of conjugal rights was impossible, divorce was a
private transaction to which the wife was as fully entitled as the
husband, and it required no inquisitorial intervention of magistrate or
court; Augustus ordained, indeed, that a public declaration was necessary,
but the divorce itself was a private legal act of the two persons
concerned.[316] It is interesting to note this enlightened conception of
marriage prevailing in the greatest and most masterful Empire which has
ever dominated the world, at the period not indeed of its greatest
force,--for the maximum of force and the maximum of expansion, the bud and
the full flower, are necessarily incompatible,--but at the period of its
fullest development. In the chaos that followed the dissolution of the
Empire Roman law remained as a precious legacy to the new developing
nations, but its influence was inextricably mingled with that of
Christianity, which, though not at the first anxious to set up marriage
laws of its own, gradually revealed a growing ascetic feeling hostile
alike to the dignity of the married woman and the freedom of marriage and
divorce.[317] With that influence was combined the influence, introduced
through the Bible, of the barbaric Jewish marriage-system conferring on
the husband rights in marriage and divorce which were totally denied to
the wife; this was an influence which gained still greater force at the
Reformation when the authority once accorded to the Church was largely
transformed to the Bible. Finally, there was in a great part of Europe,
including the most energetic and expansive parts, the influence of the
Germans, an influence still more primitive than that of the Jews,
involving the conception of the wife as almost her husband's chattel, and
marriage as a purchase. All these influences clashed and often appeared
side by side, though they could not be harmonized. The result was that the
fifteen hundred years that followed the complete conquest of Christianity
represent on the whole the most degraded condition to which the marriage
system has ever been known to fall for so long a period during the whole
course of human history.
At first indeed the beneficent influence of Rome continued in some degree
to prevail and even exhibited new developments. In the time of the
Christian Emperors freedom of divorce by mutual consent was alternately
maintained, and abolished.[318] We even find the wise and far-seeing
provision of the law enacting that a contract of the two parties never to
separate could have no legal validity. Justinian's prohibition of divorce
by consent led to much domestic unhappiness, and even crime, which appears
to be the reason why it was immediately abrogated by his successor,
Theodosius, still maintaining the late Roman tradition of the moral
equality of the sexes, allowed the wife equally with the husband to obtain
a divorce for adultery; that is a point we have not yet attained in
England to-day.
It seems to be admitted on all sides that it was largely the fatal
influence of the irruption of the barbarous Germans which degraded, when
it failed to sweep away, the noble conception of the equality of women
with men, and the dignity and freedom of marriage, slowly moulded by the
organizing genius of the Roman into a great tradition which still retains
a supreme value. The influence of Christianity had at the first no
degrading influence of this kind; for the ascetic ideal was not yet
predominant, priests married as a matter of course, and there was no
difficulty in accepting the marriage order established in the secular
world; it was even possible to add to it a new vitality and freedom. But
the Germans, with all the primitively acquisitive and combative instincts
of untamed savages, went far beyond even the early Romans in the
subjection of their wives; they allowed indeed to their unmarried girls a
large measure of indulgence and even sexual freedom,--just as the
Christians also reverenced their virgins,[319]--but the German marriage
system placed the wife, as compared to the wife of the Roman Empire, in a
condition little better than that of a domestic slave. In one form or
another, under one disguise or another, the system of wife-purchase
prevailed among the Germans, and, whenever that system is influential,
even when the wife is honored her privileges are diminished.[320] Among
the Teutonic peoples generally, as among the early English, marriage was
indeed a private transaction but it took the form of a sale of the bride
by the father, or other legal guardian, to the bridegroom. The _beweddung_
was a real contract of sale.[321] "Sale-marriage" was the most usual form
of marriage. The ring, indeed, probably was not in origin, as some have
supposed, a mark of servitude, but rather a form of bride-price, or
_arrha_, that is to say, earnest money on the contract of marriage and so
the symbol of it.[322] At first a sign of the bride's purchase, it was not
till later that the ring acquired the significance of subjection to the
bridegroom, and that significance, later in the Middle Ages, was further
emphasized by other ceremonies. Thus in England the York and Sarum manuals
in some of their forms direct the bride, after the delivery of the ring,
to fall at her husband's feet, and sometimes to kiss his right foot. In
Russia, also, the bride kissed her husband's feet. At a later period, in
France, this custom was attenuated, and it became customary for the bride
to let the ring fall in front of the altar and then stoop at her husband's
feet to pick it up.[323] Feudalism carried on, and by its military
character exaggerated, these Teutonic influences. A fief was land held on
condition of military service, and the nature of its influence on marriage
is implied in that fact. The woman was given with the fief and her own
will counted for nothing.[324]
The Christian Church in the beginning accepted the forms of marriage
already existing in those countries in which it found itself, the Roman
forms in the lands of Latin tradition and the German forms in Teutonic
lands. It merely demanded (as it also demanded for other civil contracts,
such as an ordinary sale) that they should be hallowed by priestly
benediction. But the marriage was recognized by the Church even in the
absence of such benediction. There was no special religious marriage
service, either in the East or the West, earlier than the sixth century.
It was simply the custom for the married couple, after the secular
ceremonies were completed, to attend the church, listen to the ordinary
service and take the sacrament. A special marriage service was developed
slowly, and it was no part of the real marriage. During the tenth century
(at all events in Italy and France) it was beginning to become customary
to celebrate the first part of the real nuptials, still a purely temporal
act, outside the church door. Soon this was followed by the regular
bride-mass, directly applicable to the occasion, inside the church. By the
twelfth century the priest directed the ceremony, now involving an
imposing ritual, which began outside the church and ended with the bridal
mass inside. By the thirteenth century, the priest, superseding the
guardians of the young couple, himself officiated through the whole
ceremony. Up to that time marriage had been a purely private business
transaction. Thus, after more than a millennium of Christianity, not by
law but by the slow growth of custom, ecclesiastical marriage was
established.[325]
It was undoubtedly an event of very great importance not merely for the
Church but for the whole history of European marriage even down to to-day.
The whole of our public method of celebrating marriage to-day is based on
that of the Catholic Church as established in the twelfth century and
formulated in the Canon law. Even the publication of banns has its origin
here, and the fact that in our modern civil marriage the public ceremony
takes place in an office and not in a Church may disguise but cannot
alter the fact that it is the direct and unquestionable descendant of the
public ecclesiastical ceremony which embodied the slow and subtle
triumph--so slow and subtle that its history is difficult to trace--of
Christian priests over the private affairs of men and women. Before they
set themselves to this task marriage everywhere was the private business
of the persons concerned; when they had completed their task,--and it was
not absolutely complete until the Council of Trent,--a private marriage
had become a sin and almost a crime.[326]
It may seem a matter for surprise that the Church which, as we know, had
shown an ever greater tendency to reverence virginity and to cast
contumely on the sexual relationship, should yet, parallel with that
movement and with the growing influence of asceticism, have shown so great
an anxiety to capture marriage and to confer on it a public, dignified,
and religious character. There was, however, no contradiction. The factors
that were constituting European marriage, taken as a whole, were indeed of
very diverse characters and often involved unreconciled contradictions.
But so far as the central efforts of the ecclesiastical legislators were
concerned, there was a definite and intelligible point of view. The very
depreciation of the sexual instinct involved the necessity, since the
instinct could not be uprooted, of constituting for it a legitimate
channel, so that ecclesiastical matrimony was, it has been said,
"analogous to a license to sell intoxicating liquors."[327] Moreover,
matrimony exhibited the power of the Church to confer on the license a
dignity and distinction which would clearly separate it from the general
stream of lust. Sexual enjoyment is impure, the faithful cannot partake of
it until it has been purified by the ministrations of the Church. The
solemnization of marriage was the necessary result of the sanctification
of virginity. It became necessary to sanctify marriage also, and hence
was developed the indissoluble sacrament of matrimony. The conception of
marriage as a religious sacrament, a conception of far-reaching influence,
is the great contribution of the Catholic Church to the history of
marriage.
It is important to remember that, while Christianity brought the
idea of marriage as a sacrament into the main stream of the
institutional history of Europe, that idea was merely developed,
not invented, by the Church. It is an ancient and even primitive
idea. The Jews believed that marriage is a magico-religious bond,
having in it something mystical resembling a sacrament, and that
idea, says Durkheim (_L'Année Sociologique_, eighth year, 1905,
p. 419), is perhaps very archaic, and hangs on to the generally
magic character of sex relations. "The mere act of union,"
Crawley remarks (_The Mystic Rose_, p. 318) concerning savages,
"is potentially a marriage ceremony of the sacramental kind....
One may even credit the earliest animistic men with some such
vague conception before any ceremony became crystallized." The
essence of a marriage ceremony, the same writer continues, "is
the 'joining together' of a man and a woman; in the words of our
English service, 'for this cause shall a man leave his father and
mother and shall be joined unto his wife; and they two shall be
one flesh.' At the other side of the world, amongst the Orang
Benuas, these words are pronounced by an elder, when a marriage
is solemnized: 'Listen all ye that are present; those that were
distant are now brought together; those that were separated are
now united.' Marriage ceremonies in all stages of culture may be
called religious with as much propriety as any ceremony whatever.
Those who were separated are now joined together, those who were
mutually taboo now break the taboo." Thus marriage ceremonies
prevent sin and neutralize danger.
The Catholic conception of marriage was, it is clear, in
essentials precisely the primitive conception. Christianity drew
the sacramental idea from the archaic traditions in popular
consciousness, and its own ecclesiastical contribution lay in
slowly giving that idea a formal and rigid shape, and in
declaring it indissoluble. As among savages, it was in the act of
consent that the essence of the sacrament lay; the intervention
of the priest was not, in principle, necessary to give marriage
its religiously binding character. The essence of the sacrament
was mutual acceptance of each other by the man and the woman, as
husband and wife, and technically the priest who presided at the
ceremony was simply a witness of the sacrament. The essential
fact being thus the mental act of consent, the sacrament of
matrimony had the peculiar character of being without any outward
and visible sign. Perhaps it was this fact, instinctively felt
as a weakness, which led to the immense emphasis on the
indissolubility of the sacrament of matrimony, already
established by St. Augustine. The Canonists brought forward
various arguments to account for that indissolubility, and a
frequent argument has always been the Scriptural application of
the term "one flesh" to married couples; but the favorite
argument of the Canonists was that matrimony represents the union
of Christ with the Church; that is indissoluble, and therefore
its image must be indissoluble (Esmein, op. cit., vol. i, p. 64).
In part, also, one may well believe, the idea of the
indissolubility of marriage suggested itself to the
ecclesiastical mind by a natural association of ideas: the vow of
virginity in monasticism was indissoluble; ought not the vow of
sexual relationship in matrimony to be similarly indissoluble? It
appears that it was not until 1164, in Peter Lombard's
_Sentences_, that clear and formal recognition is found of
matrimony as one of the seven sacraments (Howard, op. cit., vol.
i, p. 333).
The Church, however, had not only made marriage a religious act; it had
also made it a public act. The officiating priest, who had now become the
arbiter of marriage, was bound by all the injunctions and prohibitions of
the Church, and he could not allow himself to bend to the inclinations and
interests of individual couples or their guardians. It was inevitable that
in this matter, as in other similar matters, a code of ecclesiastical
regulations should be gradually developed for his guidance. This need of
the Church, due to its growing control of the world's affairs, was the
origin of Canon law. With the development of Canon law the whole field of
the regulation of the sexual relationships, and the control of its
aberrations, became an exclusively ecclesiastical matter. The secular law
could take no more direct cognizance of adultery than of fornication or
masturbation; bigamy, incest, and sodomy were not temporal crimes; the
Church was supreme in the whole sphere of sex.
It was during the twelfth century that Canon law developed, and Gratian
was the master mind who first moulded it. He belonged to the Bolognese
school of jurisprudence which had inherited the sane traditions of Roman
law. The Canons which Gratian compiled were, however, no more the mere
result of legal traditions than they were the outcome of cloistered
theological speculation. They were the result of a response to the
practical needs of the day before those needs had had time to form a
foundation for fine-spun subtleties. At a somewhat later period, before
the close of the century, the Italian jurists were vanquished by the
Gallic theologians of Paris as represented by Peter Lombard. The result
was the introduction of mischievous complexities which went far to rob
Canon law alike of its certainty and its adaptation to human necessities.
Notwithstanding, however, all the parasitic accretions which swiftly began
to form around the Canon law and to entangle its practical activity, that
legislation embodied--predominantly at the outset and more obscurely
throughout its whole period of vital activity--a sound core of real value.
The Canon law recognized at the outset that the essential fact of marriage
is the actual sexual union, accomplished with the intention of
inaugurating a permanent relationship. The _copula carnalis_, the making
of two "one flesh," according to the Scriptural phrase, a mystic symbol of
the union of the Church to Christ, was the essence of marriage, and the
mutual consent of the couple alone sufficed to constitute marriage, even
without any religious benediction, or without any ceremony at all. The
formless and unblessed union was still a real and binding marriage if the
two parties had willed it so to be.[328]
Whatever hard things may be said about the Canon law, it must
never be forgotten that it carried through the Middle Ages until
the middle of the sixteenth century the great truth that the
essence of marriage lies not in rites and forms, but in the
mutual consent of the two persons who marry each other. When the
Catholic Church, in its growing rigidity, lost that conception,
it was taken up by the Protestants and Puritans in their first
stage of ardent vital activity, though it was more or less
dropped as they fell back into a state of subservience to forms.
It continued to be maintained by moralists and poets. Thus George
Chapman, the dramatist, who was both moralist and poet, in _The
Gentleman Usher_ (1606), represents the riteless marriage of his
hero and heroine, which the latter thus introduces:--
"May not we now
Our contract make and marry before Heaven?
Are not the laws of God and Nature more
Than formal laws of men? Are outward rites
More virtuous than the very substance is
Of holy nuptials solemnized within?
.... The eternal acts of our pure souls
Knit us with God, the soul of all the world,
He shall be priest to us; and with such rites
As we can here devise we will express
And strongly ratify our hearts' true vows,
Which no external violence shall dissolve."
And to-day, Ellen Key, the distinguished prophet of marriage
reform, declares at the end of her _Liebe und Ehe_ that the true
marriage law contains only the paragraph: "They who love each
other are husband and wife."
The establishment of marriage on this sound and naturalistic basis had the
further excellent result that it placed the man and the woman, who could
thus constitute marriage by their consent in entire disregard of the
wishes of their parents or families, on the same moral level. Here the
Church was following alike the later Romans and the early Christians like
Lactantius and Jerome who had declared that what was licit for a man was
licit for a woman. The Penitentials also attempted to set up this same
moral law for both sexes. The Canonists finally allowed a certain
supremacy to the husband, though, on the other hand, they sometimes seemed
to assign even the chief part in marriage to the wife, and the attempt was
made to derive the word _matrimonium_ from _matris munium_, thereby
declaring the maternal function to be the essential fact of marriage.[329]
The sound elements in the Canon law conception of marriage were, however,
from a very early period largely if not altogether neutralized by the
verbal subtleties by which they were overlaid, and even by its own
fundamental original defects. Even in the thirteenth century it began to
be possible to attach a superior force to marriage verbally formed _per
verba de præsenti_ than to one constituted by sexual union, while so many
impediments to marriage were set up that it became difficult to know what
marriages were valid, an important point since a marriage even innocently
contracted within the prohibited degrees was only a putative marriage. The
most serious and the most profoundly unnatural feature of this
ecclesiastical conception of marriage was the flagrant contradiction
between the extreme facility with which the gate of marriage was flung
open to the young couple, even if they were little more than children, and
the extreme rigor with which it was locked and bolted when they were
inside. That is still the defect of the marriage system we have inherited
from the Church, but in the hands of the Canonists it was emphasized both
on the side of its facility for entrance and of its difficulty for
exit.[330] Alike from the standpoint of reason and of humanity the gate
that is easy of ingress must be easy of egress; or if the exit is
necessarily difficult then extreme care must be taken in admission. But
neither of these necessary precautions was possible to the Canonists.
Matrimony was a sacrament and all must be welcome to a sacrament, the more
so since otherwise they may be thrust into the mortal sin of fornication.
On the other side, since matrimony was a sacrament, when once truly
formed, beyond the permissible power of verbal quibbles to invalidate, it
could never be abrogated. The very institution that, in the view of the
Church, had been set up as a bulwark against license became itself an
instrument for artificially creating license. So that the net result of
the Canon law in the long run was the production of a state of things
which--in the eyes of a large part of Christendom--more than neutralized
the soundness of its original conception.[331]
In England, where from the ninth century, marriage was generally
accepted by the ecclesiastical and temporal powers as
indissoluble, Canon law was, in the main, established as in the
rest of Christendom. There were, however, certain points in which
Canon law was not accepted by the law of England. By English law
a ceremony before a priest was necessary to the validity of a
marriage, though in Scotland the Canon law doctrine was accepted
that simple consent of the parties, even exchanged secretly,
sufficed to constitute marriage. Again, the issue of a void
marriage contracted in innocence, and the issue of persons who
subsequently marry each other, are legitimate by Canon law, but
not by the common law of England (Geary, _Marriage and Family
Relations_, p. 3; Pollock and Maitland, loc. cit.). The Canonists
regarded the disabilities attaching to bastardy as a punishment
inflicted on the offending parents, and considered, therefore,
that no burden should fall on the children when there had been a
ceremony in good faith on the part of one at least of the
parents. In this respect the English law is less reasonable and
humane. It was at the Council of Merton, in 1236, that the barons
of England rejected the proposal to make the laws of England
harmonize with the Canon law, that is, with the ecclesiastical
law of Christendom generally, in allowing children born before
wedlock to be legitimated by subsequent marriage. Grosseteste
poured forth his eloquence and his arguments in favor of the
change, but in vain, and the law of England has ever since stood
alone in this respect (Freeman, "Merton Priory," _English Towns
and Districts_). The proposal was rejected in the famous formula,
"Nolumus leges Angliæ mutare," a formula which merely stood for
an unreasonable and inhumane obstinacy.
In the United States, while by common law subsequent marriage
fails to legitimate children born before marriage, in many of the
States the subsequent marriage of the parents effects by statute
the legitimacy of the child, sometimes (as in Maine)
automatically, more usually (as in Massachusetts) through special
acknowledgment by the father.
The appearance of Luther and the Reformation involved the decay of the
Canon law system so far as Europe as a whole was concerned. It was for
many reasons impossible for the Protestant reformers to retain formally
either the Catholic conception of matrimony or the precariously elaborate
legal structure which the Church had built up on that conception. It can
scarcely be said, indeed, that the Protestant attitude towards the
Catholic idea of matrimony was altogether a clear, logical, or consistent
attitude. It was a revolt, an emotional impulse, rather than a matter of
reasoned principle. In its inevitable necessity, under the circumstances
of the rise of Protestantism, lies its justification, and, on the whole,
its wholesome soundness. It took the form, which may seem strange in a
religious movement, of proclaiming that marriage is not a religious but a
secular matter. Marriage is, said Luther, "a worldly thing," and Calvin
put it on the same level as house-building, farming, or shoe-making. But
while this secularization of marriage represents the general and final
drift of Protestantism, the leaders of Protestantism were themselves not
altogether confident and clear-sighted in the matter. Even Luther was a
little confused on this point; sometimes he seems to call marriage "a
sacrament," sometimes "a temporal business," to be left to the state.[332]
It was the latter view which tended to prevail. But at first there was a
period of confusion, if not of chaos, in the minds of the Reformers; not
only were they not always convinced in their own minds; they were at
variance with each other, especially on the very practical question of
divorce. Luther on the whole belonged to the more rigid party, including
Calvin and Beza, which would grant divorce only for adultery and malicious
desertion; some, including many of the early English Protestants, were in
favor of allowing the husband to divorce for adultery but not the wife.
Another party, including Zwingli, were influenced by Erasmus in a more
liberal direction, and--moving towards the standpoint of Roman Imperial
legislation--admitted various causes of divorce. Some, like Bucer,
anticipating Milton, would even allow divorce when the husband was unable
to love his wife. At the beginning some of the Reformers adopted the
principle of self-divorce, as it prevailed among the Jews and was accepted
by some early Church Councils. In this way Luther held that the cause for
the divorce itself effected the divorce without any judicial decree,
though a magisterial permission was needed for remarriage. This question
of remarriage, and the treatment of the adulterer, were also matters of
dispute. The remarriage of the innocent party was generally accepted; in
England it began in the middle of the sixteenth century, was pronounced
valid by the Archbishop of Canterbury, and confirmed by Parliament. Many
Reformers were opposed, however, to the remarriage of the adulterous
party. Beust, Beza, and Melancthon would have him hanged and so settle the
question of remarriage; Luther and Calvin would like to kill him, but
since the civil rulers were slack in adopting that measure they allowed
him to remarry, if possible in some other part of the country.[333]
The final outcome was that Protestantism framed a conception of marriage
mainly on the legal and economic factor--a factor not ignored but strictly
subordinated by the Canonists--and regarded it as essentially a contract.
In so doing they were on the negative side effecting a real progress, for
they broke the power of an antiquated and artificial system, but on the
positive side they were merely returning to a conception which prevails in
barbarous societies, and is most pronounced when marriage is most
assimilable to purchase. The steps taken by Protestantism involved a
considerable change in the nature of marriage, but not necessarily any
great changes in its form. Marriage was no longer a sacrament, but it was
still a public and not a private function and was still, however
inconsistently, solemnized in Church. And as Protestantism had no rival
code to set up, both in Germany and England it fell back on the general
principles of Canon law, modifying them to suit its own special attitude
and needs.[334] It was the later Puritanic movement, first in the
Netherlands (1580), then in England (1653), and afterwards in New England,
which introduced a serious and coherent conception of Protestant marriage,
and began to establish it on a civil base.
The English Reformers under Edward VI and his enlightened
advisers, including Archbishop Cranmer, took liberal views of
marriage, and were prepared to carry through many admirable
reforms. The early death of that King exerted a profound
influence on the legal history of English marriage. The Catholic
reaction under Queen Mary killed off the more radical Reformers,
while the subsequent accession of Queen Elizabeth, whose attitude
towards marriage was grudging, illiberal, and old-fashioned,
approximating to that of her father, Henry VIII (as witnessed,
for instance, in her decided opposition to the marriage of the
clergy), permanently affected English marriage law. It became
less liberal than that of other Protestant countries, and closer
to that of Catholic countries.
The reform of marriage attempted by the Puritans began in England
in 1644, when an Act was passed asserting "marriage to be no
sacrament, nor peculiar to the Church of God, but common to
mankind and of public interest to every Commonwealth." The Act
added, notwithstanding, that it was expedient marriage should be
solemnized by "a lawful minister of the Word." The more radical
Act of 1653 swept away this provision, and made marriage purely
secular. The banns were to be published (by registrars specially
appointed) in the Church, or (if the parties desired) the
market-place. The marriage was to be performed by a Justice of
the Peace; the age of consent to marriage for a man was made
sixteen, for a woman fourteen (Scobell's _Acts and Ordinances_,
pp. 86, 236). The Restoration abolished this sensible Act, and
reintroduced Canon-law traditions, but the Puritan conception of
marriage was carried over to America, where it took root and
flourished.
It was out of Puritanism, moreover, as represented by Milton, that the
first genuinely modern though as yet still imperfect conception of the
marriage relationship was destined to emerge. The early Reformers in this
matter acted mainly from an obscure instinct of natural revolt in an
environment of plebeian materialism. The Puritans were moved by their
feeling for simplicity and civil order as the conditions for religious
freedom. Milton, in his _Doctrine and Discipline of Divorce_, published in
1643, when he was thirty-five years of age, proclaimed the supremacy of
the substance of marriage over the form of it, and the spiritual autonomy
of the individual in the regulation of that form. He had grasped the
meaning of that conception of personal responsibility which is the
foundation of sexual relationships as they are beginning to appear to men
to-day. If Milton had left behind him only his writings on marriage and
divorce they would have sufficed to stamp him with the seal of genius.
Christendom had to wait a century and a half before another man of genius
of the first rank, Wilhelm von Humboldt, spoke out with equal authority
and clearness in favor of free marriage and free divorce.
It is to the honor of Milton, and one of his chief claims on our
gratitude, that he is the first great protagonist in Christendom
of the doctrine that marriage is a private matter, and that,
therefore, it should be freely dissoluble by mutual consent, or
even at the desire of one of the parties. We owe to him, says
Howard, "the boldest defence of the liberty of divorce which had
yet appeared. If taken in the abstract, and applied to both sexes
alike, it is perhaps the strongest defence which can be made
through an appeal to mere authority;" though his arguments, being
based on reason and experience, are often ill sustained by his
authority; he is really speaking the language of the modern
social reformer, and Milton's writings on this subject are now
sometimes ranked in importance above all his other work (Masson,
_Life of Milton_, vol. iii; Howard, op. cit., vol. ii, p. 86,
vol. iii, p. 251; C.B. Wheeler, "Milton's Doctrine and Discipline
of Divorce," _Nineteenth Century_, Jan., 1907).
Marriage, said Milton, "is not a mere carnal coition, but a human
society; where that cannot be had there can be no true marriage"
(_Doctrine of Divorce_, Bk. i, Ch. XIII); it is "a covenant, the
very being whereof consists not in a forced cohabitation, and
counterfeit performance of duties, but in unfeigned love and
peace" (Ib., Ch. VI). Any marriage that is less than this is "an
idol, nothing in the world." The weak point in Milton's
presentation of the matter is that he never explicitly accords to
the wife the same power of initiative in marriage and divorce as
to the husband. There is, however, nothing in his argument to
prevent its equal application to the wife, an application which,
while never asserting he never denies; and it has been pointed
out that he assumes that women are the equals of men and demands
from them intellectual and spiritual companionship; however ready
Milton may have been to grant complete equality of divorce to the
wife, it would have been impossible for a seventeenth century
Puritan to have obtained any hearing for such a doctrine; his
arguments would have been received with, if that were possible,
even more neglect than they actually met. (Milton's scornful
sonnet concerning the reception of his book is well known.)
Milton insists that in the conventional Christian marriage
exclusive importance is attached to carnal connection. So long as
that connection is possible, no matter what antipathy may exist
between the couple, no matter how mistaken they may have been
"through any error, concealment, or misadventure," no matter if
it is impossible for them to "live in any union or contentment
all their days," yet the marriage still holds good, the two must
"fadge together" (op. cit., Bk. i). It is the Canon law, he says,
which is at fault, "doubtless by the policy of the devil," for
the Canon law leads to licentiousness (op. cit.). It is, he
argues, the absence of reasonable liberty which causes license,
and it is the men who desire to retain the privileges of license
who oppose the introduction of reasonable liberty.
The just ground for divorce is "indisposition, unfitness, or
contrariety of mind, arising from a cause in nature unchangeable,
hindering, and ever likely to hinder, the main benefits of
conjugal society, which are solace and peace." Without the "deep
and serious verity" of mutual love, wedlock is "nothing but the
empty husks of a mere outside matrimony," a mere hypocrisy, and
must be dissolved (op. cit.).
Milton goes beyond the usual Puritan standpoint, and not only
rejects courts and magistrates, but approves of self-divorce; for
divorce cannot rightly belong to any civil or earthly power,
since "ofttimes the causes of seeking divorce reside so deeply in
the radical and innocent affections of nature, as is not within
the diocese of law to tamper with." He adds that, for the
prevention of injustice, special points may be referred to the
magistrate, who should not, however, in any case, be able to
forbid divorce (op. cit., Bk. ii, Ch. XXI). Speaking from a
standpoint which we have not even yet attained, he protests
against the absurdity of "authorizing a judicial court to toss
about and divulge the unaccountable and secret reason of
disaffection between man and wife."
In modern times Hinton was accustomed to compare the marriage law
to the law of the Sabbath as broken by Jesus. We find exactly the
same comparison in Milton. The Sabbath, he believes, was made for
God. "Yet when the good of man comes into the scales, we have
that voice of infinite goodness and benignity, that 'Sabbath was
made for man and not man for Sabbath.' What thing ever was made
more for man alone, and less for God, than marriage?" (_op.
cit._, Bk. i, Ch. XI). "If man be lord of the Sabbath, can he be
less than lord of marriage?"
Milton, in this matter as in others, stood outside the currents of his
age. His conception of marriage made no more impression on contemporary
life than his _Paradise Lost_. Even his own Puritan party who had passed
the Act of 1653 had strangely failed to transfer divorce and nullity cases
to the temporal courts, which would at least have been a step on the right
road. The Puritan influence was transferred to America and constituted the
leaven which still works in producing the liberal though too minutely
detailed divorce laws of many States. The American secular marriage
procedure followed that set up by the English Commonwealth, and the dictum
of the great Quaker, George Fox, "We marry none, but are witnesses of
it,"[335] (which was really the sound kernel in the Canon law) is regarded
as the spirit of the marriage law of the conservative but liberal State of
Pennsylvania, where, as recently as 1885, a statute was passed expressly
authorizing a man and woman to solemnize their own marriage.[336]
In England itself the reforms in marriage law effected by the Puritans
were at the Restoration largely submerged. For two and a half centuries
longer the English spiritual courts administered what was substantially
the old Canon law. Divorce had, indeed, become more difficult than before
the Reformation, and the married woman's lot was in consequence harder.
From the sixteenth century to the second half of the nineteenth, English
marriage law was peculiarly harsh and rigid, much less liberal than that
of any other Protestant country. Divorce was unknown to the ordinary
English law, and a special act of Parliament, at enormous expense, was
necessary to procure it in individual cases.[337] There was even an
attitude of self-righteousness in the maintenance of this system. It was
regarded as moral. There was complete failure to realize that nothing is
more immoral than the existence of unreal sexual unions, not only from
the point of view of theoretical but also of practical morality, for no
community could tolerate a majority of such unions.[338] In 1857 an act
for reforming the system was at last passed with great difficulty. It was
a somewhat incoherent and make-shift measure, and was avowedly put forward
only as a step towards further reform; but it still substantially governs
English procedure, and in the eyes of many has set a permanent standard of
morality. The spirit of blind conservatism,--_Nolumus leges Angliæ
mutare_,--which in this sphere had reasserted itself after the vital
movement of Reform and Puritanism, still persists. In questions of
marriage and divorce English legislation and English public feeling are
behind alike both the Latin land of France and the Puritanically moulded
land of the United States.
The author of an able and temperate essay on _The Question of
English Divorce_, summing up the characteristics of the English
divorce law, concludes that it is: (1) unequal, (2) immoral, (3)
contradictory, (4) illogical, (5) uncertain, and (6) unsuited to
present requirements. It was only grudgingly introduced in a
bill, presented to Parliament in 1857, which was stubbornly
resisted during a whole session, not only on religious grounds by
the opponents of divorce, but also by the friends of divorce, who
desired a more liberal measure. It dealt with the sexes
unequally, granting the husband but not the wife divorce for
adultery alone. In introducing the bill the Attorney-General
apologized for this defect, stating that the measure was not
intended to be final, but merely as a step towards further
legislation. That was more than half a century ago, but the
further step has not yet been taken. Incomplete and
unsatisfactory as the measure was, it seems to have been regarded
by many as revolutionary and dangerous in the highest degree. The
author of an article on "Modern Divorce" in the _Universal
Review_ for July, 1859, while approving in principle of the
establishment of a special Divorce Court, yet declared that the
new court was "tending to destroy marriage as a social
institution and to sap female chastity," and that "everyone now
is a husband and wife at will." "No one," he adds, "can now
justly quibble at a deficiency of matrimonial vomitories."
Yet, according to this law, it is not even possible for a wife to
obtain a divorce for her husband's adultery, unless he is also
cruel or deserts her. At first "cruelty" meant physical cruelty
and of a serious kind. But in course of time the meaning of the
word was extended to pain inflicted on the mind, and now coldness
and neglect may almost of themselves constitute cruelty, though
the English court has sometimes had the greatest hesitation in
accepting the most atrocious forms of refined cruelty, because it
involved no "physical" element. "The time may very reasonably be
looked forward to, however," a legal writer has stated
(Montmorency, "The Changing Status of a Married Woman," _Law
Quarterly Review_, April, 1897), "when almost any act of
misconduct will, in itself, be considered to convey such mental
agony to the innocent party as to constitute the cruelty
requisite under the Act of 1857." (The question of cruelty is
fully discussed in J.R. Bishop's _Commentaries on Marriage,
Divorce and Separation_, 1891, vol. i, Ch. XLIX; cf. Howard, op.
cit., vol. ii, p. 111).
There can be little doubt, however, that cruelty alone is a
reasonable cause for divorce. In many American States, where the
facilities for divorce are much greater than in England, cruelty
is recognized as itself sufficient cause, whether the wife or the
husband is the complainant. The acts of cruelty alleged have
sometimes been seemingly very trivial. Thus divorces have been
pronounced in America on the ground of the "cruel and inhuman
conduct" of a wife who failed to sew her husband's buttons on, or
because a wife "struck plaintiff a violent blow with her bustle,"
or because a husband does not cut his toe-nails, or because
"during our whole married life my husband has never offered to
take me out riding. This has been a source of great mental
suffering and injury." In many other cases, it must be added, the
cruelty inflicted by the husband, even by the wife--for though
usually, it is not always, the husband who is the brute--is of an
atrocious and heart-rending character (_Report on Marriage and
Divorce in the United States_, issued by Hon. Carroll D. Wright,
Commissioner of Labor, 1889). But even in many of the apparently
trivial cases--as of a husband who will not wash, and a wife who
is constantly evincing a hasty temper--it must be admitted that
circumstances which, in the more ordinary relationships of life
may be tolerated, become intolerable in the intimate relationship
of sexual union. As a matter of fact, it has been found by
careful investigation that the American courts weigh well the
cases that come before them, and are not careless in the granting
of decrees of divorce.
In 1859 an exaggerated importance was attached to the gross
reasons for divorce, to the neglect of subtle but equally fatal
impediments to the continuance of marriage. This was pointed out
by Gladstone, who was opposed to making adultery a cause of
divorce at all. "We have many causes," he said, "more fatal to
the great obligation of marriage, as disease, idiocy, crime
involving punishment for life." Nowadays we are beginning to
recognize not only such causes as these, but others of a far more
intimate character which, as Milton long ago realized, cannot be
embodied in statutes, or pleaded in law courts. The matrimonial
bond is not merely a physical union, and we have to learn that,
as the author of _The Question of English Divorce_ (p. 49)
remarks, "other than physical divergencies are, in fact, by far
the most important of the originating causes of matrimonial
disaster."
In England and Wales more husbands than wives petition for
divorce, the wives who petition being about 40 per cent, of the
whole. Divorces are increasing, though the number is not large,
in 1907 about 1,300, of whom less than half remarried. The
inadequacy of the divorce law is shown by the fact that during
the same year about 7,000 orders for judicial separation were
issued by magistrates. These separation orders not only do not
give the right to remarry, but they make it impossible to obtain
divorce. They are, in effect, an official permission to form
relationships outside State marriage.
In the United States during the years 1887-1906 nearly 40 per
cent, of the divorces granted were for "desertion," which is
variously interpreted in different States, and must often mean a
separation by mutual consent. Of the remainder, 19 per cent, were
for unfaithfulness, and the same proportion for cruelty; but
while the divorces granted to husbands for the infidelity of
their wives are nearly three times as great proportionately as
those granted to wives for their husband's adultery, with regard
to cruelty it is the reverse, wives obtaining 27 per cent, of
their divorces on that ground and husbands only 10 per cent.
In Prussia divorce is increasing. In 1907 there were eight
thousand divorces, the cause in half the cases being adultery,
and in about a thousand cases malicious desertion. In cases of
desertion the husbands were the guilty parties nearly twice as
often as the wives, in cases of adultery only a fifth to an
eighth part.
There cannot be the slightest doubt that the difficulty, the confusion,
the inconsistency, and the flagrant indecency which surround divorce and
the methods of securing it are due solely and entirely to the subtle
persistence of traditions based, on the one hand, on the Canon law
doctrines of the indissolubility of marriage and the sin of sexual
intercourse outside marriage, and, on the other hand, on the primitive
idea of marriage as a contract which economically subordinates the wife to
the husband and renders her person, or at all events her guardianship, his
property. It is only when we realize how deeply these traditions have
become embedded in the religious, legal, social and sentimental life of
Europe that we can understand how it is that barbaric notions of marriage
and divorce can to-day subsist in a stage of civilization which has, in
many respects, advanced beyond such notions.
The Canon law conception of the abstract religious sanctity of matrimony,
when transferred to the moral sphere, makes a breach of the marriage
relationship seem a public wrong; the conception of the contractive
subordination of the wife makes such a breach on her part, and even, by
transference of ideas, on his part, seem a private wrong. These two ideas
of wrong incoherently flourish side by side in the vulgar mind, even
to-day.
The economic subordination of the wife as a species of property
significantly comes into view when we find that a husband can claim, and
often secure, large sums of money from the man who sexually approaches his
property, by such trespass damaging it in its master's eyes.[339] To a
psychologist it would be obvious that a husband who has lacked the skill
so to gain and to hold his wife's love and respect that it is not
perfectly easy and natural to her to reject the advances of any other man
owes at least as much damages to her as she or her partner owes to him;
while if the failure is really on her side, if she is so incapable of
responding to love and trust and so easy a prey to an outsider, then
surely the husband, far from wishing for any money compensation, should
consider himself more than fully compensated by being delivered from the
necessity of supporting such a woman. In the absence of any false
traditions that would be obvious. It might not, indeed, be unreasonable
that a husband should pay heavily in order to free himself from a wife
whom, evidently, he has made a serious mistake in choosing. But to ordain
that a man should actually be indemnified because he has shown himself
incapable of winning a woman's love is an idea that could not occur in a
civilized society that was not twisted by inherited prejudice.[340] Yet as
matters are to-day there are civilized countries in which it is legally
possible for a husband to enter a prayer for damages against his wife's
paramour in combination with either a petition for judicial separation or
for dissolution of wedlock. In this way adultery is not a crime but a
private injury.[341]
At the same time, however, the influence of Canon law comes inconsistently
to the surface and asserts that a breach of matrimony is a public wrong, a
sin transformed by the State into something almost or quite like a crime.
This is clearly indicated by the fact that in some countries the adulterer
is liable to imprisonment, a liability scarcely nowadays carried into
practice. But exactly the same idea is beautifully illustrated by the
doctrine of "collusion," which, in theory, is still strictly observed in
many countries. According to the doctrine of "collusion" the conditions
necessary to make the divorce possible must on no account be secured by
mutual agreement. In practice it is impossible to prevent more or less
collusion, but if proved in court it constitutes an absolute impediment to
the granting of a divorce, however just and imperative the demand for
divorce may be.
The English Divorce Act of 1857 refused divorce when there was
collusion, as well as when there was any countercharge against
the petitioner, and the Matrimonial Causes Act of 1860 provided
the machinery for guaranteeing these bars to divorce. This
question of collusion is discussed by G.P. Bishop (op. cit.,
vol. ii, Ch. IX). "However just a cause may be," Bishop remarks,
"if parties collude in its management, so that in real fact both
parties are plaintiffs, while by the record the one appears as
plaintiff and the other as defendant, it cannot go forward. All
conduct of this sort, disturbing to the course of justice, falls
within the general idea of fraud on the court. Such is the
doctrine in principle everywhere."
It is quite evident that from the social or the moral point of view, it is
best that when a husband and wife can no longer live together, they should
part amicably, and in harmonious agreement effect all the arrangements
rendered necessary by their separation. The law ridiculously forbids them
to do so, and declares that they must not part at all unless they are
willing to part as enemies. In order to reach a still lower depth of
absurdity and immorality the law goes on to say that if as a matter of
fact they have succeeded in becoming enemies to each other to such an
extent that each has wrongs to plead against the other party they cannot
be divorced at all![342] That is to say that when a married couple have
reached a degree of separation which makes it imperatively necessary, not
merely in their own interests but in the moral interests of society, that
they should be separated and their relations to other parties concerned
regularized, then they must on no account be separated.
It is clear how these provisions of the law are totally opposed to the
demands of reason and morality. Yet at the same time it is equally clear
how no efforts of the lawyers, however skilful or humane those efforts may
be, can bring the present law into harmony with the demands of modern
civilization. It is not the lawyers who are at fault; they have done
their best, and, in England, it is entirely owing to the skilful and
cautious way in which the judges have so far as possible pressed the law
into harmony with modern needs, that our antiquated divorce laws have
survived at all. It is the system which is wrong. That system is the
illegitimate outgrowth of the Canon law which grew up around conceptions
long since dead. It involves the placing of the person who imperils the
theoretical indissolubility of the matrimonial bond in the position of a
criminal, now that he can no longer be publicly condemned as a sinner. To
aid and abet that criminal is itself an offence, and the aider and abettor
of the criminal must, therefore, be inconsequently punished by the curious
method of refraining from punishing the criminal. We do not openly assert
that the defendant in a divorce case is a criminal; that would be to
render the absurdity of it too obvious, and, moreover, would be hardly
consistent with the permission to claim damages which is based on a
different idea. We hover uncertainly between two conceptions of divorce,
both of them bad, each inconsistent with the other, and neither of them
capable of being pushed to its logical conclusions.
The result is that if a perfectly virtuous married couple comes forward to
claim divorce, they are told that it is out of the question, for in such a
case there must be a "defendant." They are to be punished for their
virtue. If each commits adultery and they again come forward to claim
divorce, they are told that it is still out of the question, for there
must be a "plaintiff." Before they were punished for their virtue; now
they are to be punished in exactly the same way for their lack of it. The
couple must humor the law by adopting a course of action which may be
utterly repugnant to both. If only the wife alone will commit adultery, if
only the husband will commit adultery and also inflict some act of cruelty
upon his wife, if the innocent party will descend to the degradation of
employing detectives and hunting up witnesses, the law is at their feet
and hastens to accord to both parties the permission to remarry. Provided,
of course, that the parties have arranged this without "collusion." That
is to say that our law, with its ecclesiastical traditions behind it,
says to the wife: Be a sinner, or to the husband: Be a sinner and a
criminal--then we will do all you wish. The law puts a premium on sin and
on crime. In order to pile absurdity on absurdity it claims that this is
done in the cause of "public morality." To those who accept this point of
view it seems that the sweeping away of divorce laws would undermine the
bases of morality. Yet there can be little doubt that the sooner such
"morality" is undermined, and indeed utterly destroyed, the better it will
be for true morality.
There is an influential movement in England for the reform of
divorce, on the grounds that the present law is unjust,
illogical, and immoral, represented by the Divorce Law Reform
Union. Even the former president of the Divorce Court, Lord
Gorell, declared from the bench in 1906 that the English law
produces deplorable results, and is "full of inconsistencies,
anomalies and inequalities, amounting almost to absurdities." The
points in the law which have aroused most protest, as being most
behind the law of other nations, are the great expense of
divorce, the inequality of the sexes, the failure to grant
divorces for desertion and in cases of hopeless insanity, and the
failure of separation orders to enable the separated parties to
marry again. Separation orders are granted by magistrates for
cruelty, adultery, and desertion. This "separation" is really the
direct descendant of the Canon law divorce _a mensa et thoro_,
and the inability to marry which it involves is merely a survival
of the Canon law tradition. At the present time
magistrates--exercising their discretion, it is admitted, in a
careful and prudent manner--issue some 7,000 separation orders
annually, so that every year the population is increased by
14,000 individuals mostly in the age of sexual vigor, and some
little more than children, who are forbidden by law to form legal
marriages. They contribute powerfully to the great forward
movement which, as was shown in the previous chapter, marks the
morality of our age. But it is highly undesirable that free
marriages should be formed, helplessly, by couples who have no
choice in the matter, for it is unlikely that under such
circumstances any high level of personal responsibility can be
reached. The matter could be easily remedied by dropping
altogether a Canon law tradition which no longer has any vitality
or meaning, and giving to the magistrate's separation order the
force of a decree of divorce.
New Zealand and the Australian colonies, led by Victoria in 1889,
have passed divorce laws which, while more or less framed on the
English model, represent a distinct advance. Thus in New Zealand
the grounds for divorce are adultery on either side, wilful
desertion, habitual drunkenness, and conviction to imprisonment
for a term of years.
It is natural that an Englishman should feel acutely sensitive to this
blot in the law of England and desire the speedy disappearance of a system
so open to scathing sarcasm. It is natural that every humane person should
grow impatient of the spectacle of so many blighted lives, of so much
misery inflicted on innocent persons--and on persons who even when
technically guilty are often the victims of unnatural circumstances--by
the persistence of a mediæval system of ecclesiastical tyranny and
inquisitorial insolence into an age when sexual relationships are becoming
regarded as the sacred secret of the persons intimately concerned, and
when more and more we rely on the responsibility of the individual in
making and maintaining such relationships.
When, however, we refrain from concentrating our attention on particular
countries and embrace the general movement of civilization in the matter
of divorce during recent times, there cannot be the slightest doubt as to
the direction of that movement. England was a pioneer in the movement half
a century ago, and to-day every civilized country is moving in the same
direction. France broke with the old ecclesiastical tradition of the
indissolubility of matrimony in 1885 by a divorce law in some respects
very reasonable. The wife may obtain a divorce on an equality with the
husband (though she is liable to imprisonment for adultery), the
co-respondent occupies a very subordinate position in adultery charges,
and facility is offered for divorce on the ground of simple _injures
graves_ (excluding as far as possible mere incompatibility of temper),
while the judge has the power, which he often successfully exerts, to
effect a reconciliation in private or to grant a decree without public
trial. The influence of France has doubtless been influential in moulding
the divorce laws of the other Latin countries.
In Prussia an enlightened divorce law formerly prevailed by which it was
possible for a couple to separate without scandal when it was clearly
shown that they could not live together in agreement. But the German Code
of 1900 introduced provisions as regards divorce which--while in some
respects more liberal than those of the English law, especially by
permitting divorce for desertion and insanity--are, on the whole,
retrograde as compared with the earlier Prussian law and place the matter
on a cruder and more brutal basis. For two years after the Code came into
operations the number of divorces sank; after that the public and the
courts adapted themselves to the new provisions (more especially one which
allowed divorce for serious neglect of conjugal duties) and the number of
divorces began to increase with great rapidity. "But," remarks Hirschfeld,
"how painful it has now become to read divorce cases! One side abuses the
other, makes accusations of the grossest character, employs detectives to
obtain the necessary proofs of 'dishonorable and immoral conduct,'
whereas, before, both parties realized that they had been deceived in each
other, that they failed to suit each other, and that they could no longer
live together. Thus we see that the narrowing of individual responsibility
in sexual matters has not only had no practical effect, but leads to
injurious results of a serious kind."[343] In England a similar state of
things has prevailed ever since divorce was established, but it seems to
have become too familiar to excite either pain or disgust. Yet, as Adner
has pointed out,[344] it has moved in a direction contrary to the general
tendency of civilization, not only by increasing the inquisitorial
authority of public courts but by emphasizing merely external causes of
divorce and abolishing the more subtle internal causes which constantly
grow in importance with the refinement of civilization.
In Austria until recent years, Canon law ruled absolutely, and matrimony
was indissoluble, as it still remains for the Catholic population. The
results as regards matrimonial happiness were in the highest degree
deplorable. Half a century ago Gross-Hoffinger investigated the marital
happiness of 100 Viennese couples of all social classes, without choice of
cases, and presented the results in detail. He found that 48 couples were
positively unhappy, only 16 were undoubtedly happy, and even among these
there was only one case in which happiness resulted from mutual
faithfulness, happiness in the other cases being only attained by setting
aside the question of fidelity.[345] This picture, it is to be hoped, no
longer remains true. There is an influential Austrian Marriage Reform
Association, publishing a journal called _Die Fessel_, or The Fetter. "One
was chained to another," we are told. "In certain circumstances this must
have been the worst and most torturing penalty of all. The most bizarre
and repulsive couplings took place. There were, it is true, many
affectionate companionships of the chain. But there were many more which
inflicted an eternity of suffering upon one of the pair." This quotation,
it must be added, has nothing to do with what the Canonists, borrowing the
technical term for a prisoner's shackles, suggestively termed the
_vinculum matrimonii_; it was written many years ago concerning the
galleys of the old French convict system. It is, however, recalled to
one's mind by the title which the Austrian Marriage Reform Association has
given to its official organ.
Russia, where the marriage laws are arranged by the Holy Synod aided by
jurists, stands almost alone among the great countries in the reasonable
simplicity of its divorce provisions. Before 1907 divorce was very
difficult to obtain in Russia, but in that year it became possible for a
married couple to separate by mutual consent and after living apart for a
year to become thereby entitled to a divorce enabling them to remarry.
This provision is in accordance with the humane conception of the sexual
relationship which has always tended to prevail in Russia, whither, it
must be remembered, the stern and unnatural ideals of compulsory celibacy
cherished by the Western Church never completely penetrated; the clergy of
the Eastern Church are married, though the marriage must take place before
they enter the priesthood, and they could not sympathize with the
anti-sexual tone of the marriage regulations laid down by the celibate
clergy of the west.
Switzerland, again, which has been regarded as the political laboratory
of Europe, also stands apart in the liberality of its divorce legislation.
A renewable divorce for two years may be obtained in Switzerland when
there are "circumstances which seriously affect the maintenance of the
conjugal tie." To the Grand Duchy of Luxembourg, finally, belongs the
honor of having firmly maintained throughout the great principle of
divorce by mutual consent under legal conditions, as established by
Napoleon in his Code of 1803. The smaller countries generally are in
advance of the large in matters of divorce law. The Norwegian law is
liberal. The new Roumanian Code permits divorce by mutual consent,
provided both parents grant equal shares of their property to the
children. The little principality of Monaco has recently introduced the
reasonable provision of granting divorce for, among other causes,
alcoholism, syphilis, and epilepsy, so protecting the future race.
Outside Europe the most instructive example of the tendency of divorce is
undoubtedly furnished by the United States of America. The divorce laws of
the States are mainly on a Puritanic basis, and they retain not only the
Puritanic love of individual freedom but the Puritanic precisianism.[346]
In some States, notably Iowa, the statute-makers have been constantly
engaged in adopting, changing, abrogating and re-enacting the provisions
of their divorce laws, and Howard has shown how much confusion and
awkwardness arise by such perpetual legislative fiddling over small
details.
This restless precisianism has somewhat disguised the generally broad and
liberal tendency of marriage law in America, and has encouraged foreign
criticism of American social institutions. As a matter of fact the
prevalence of divorce in America is enormously exaggerated. The proportion
of divorced persons in the population appears to be less than one per
cent., and, contrary to a frequent assertion, it is by no means the rule
for divorced persons to remarry immediately. Taking into account the
special conditions of life in the United States the prevalence of divorce
is small and its character by no means reveals a low grade morality. An
impartial and competent critic of the American people, Professor
Münsterberg, remarks that the real ground which mainly leads to divorce in
the United States--not the mere legal pretexts made compulsory by the
precisianism of the law--is the highly ethical objection to continuing
externally in a marriage which has ceased to be spiritually congenial. "It
is the women especially," he says, "and generally the very best women, who
prefer to take the step, with all the hardships which it involves, to
prolonging a marriage which is spiritually hypocritical and immoral."[347]
The people of the United States, above all others, cherish ideals of
individualism; they are also the people among whom, above all others,
there is the greatest amount of what Reibmayr calls "blood-chaos." Under
such circumstances the difficulties of conjugal life are necessarily at a
maximum, and marriage union is liable to subtle impediments which must
forever elude the statute-book.[348] There can be little doubt that the
practical sagacity of the American people will enable them sooner or later
to recognize this fact, and that finally fulfilling the Puritanic drift of
their divorce legislation--as foreshadowed in its outcome by Milton--they
will agree to trust their own citizens with the responsibility of deciding
so private a matter as their conjugal relationships, with, of course,
authority in the courts to see that no injustice is committed. It is,
indeed, surprising that the American people, usually intolerant of State
interference, should in this matter so long have tolerated such
interference in so private a matter.
The movement of divorce is not confined to Christendom; it is a mark of
modern civilization. In Japan the proportion of divorces is higher than in
any other country, not excluding the United States.[349] The most vigorous
and progressive countries are those that insist most firmly on the purity
of sexual unions. In the United States it was pointed out many years ago
that divorce is most prevalent where the standard of education and
morality is highest. It was the New England States, with strong Puritanic
traditions of moral freedom, which took the lead in granting facility to
divorce. The divorce movement is not, as some have foolishly supposed, a
movement making for immorality.[350] Immorality is the inevitable
accompaniment of indissoluble marriage; the emphasis on the sanctity of a
merely formal union discourages the growth of moral responsibility as
regards the hypothetically unholy unions which grow up beneath its shadow.
To insist, on the other hand, by establishing facility of divorce, that
sexual unions shall be real, is to work in the cause of morality. The
lands in which divorce by mutual consent has prevailed longest are
probably among the most, and not the least, moral of lands.
Surprise has been expressed that although divorce by mutual consent
commended itself as an obviously just and reasonable measure two thousand
years ago to the legally-minded Romans that solution has even yet been so
rarely attained by modern states.[351] Wherever society is established on
a solidly organized basis and the claims of reason and humanity receive
due consideration--even when the general level of civilization is not in
every respect high--there we find a tendency to divorce by mutual consent.
In Japan, according to the new Civil Code, much as in ancient
Rome, marriage is effected by giving notice of the fact to the
registrar in the presence of two witnesses, and with the consent
(in the case of young couples) of the heads of their families.
There may be a ceremony, but it is not demanded by the law.
Divorce is effected in exactly the same way, by simply having the
registration cancelled, provided both husband and wife are over
twenty-five years of age. For younger couples unhappily married,
and for cases in which mutual consent cannot be obtained,
judicial divorce exists. This is granted for various specific
causes, of which the most important is "grave insult, such as to
render living together unbearable" (Ernest W. Clement, "The New
Woman in Japan," _American Journal Sociology_, March, 1903). Such
a system, like so much else achieved by Japanese organization,
seems reasonable, guarded, and effective.
In the very different and far more ancient marriage system of
China, divorce by mutual consent is equally well-established.
Such divorce by mutual consent takes place for incompatibility of
temperament, or when both husband and wife desire it. There are,
however, various antiquated and peculiar provisions in the
Chinese marriage laws, and divorce is compulsory for the wife's
adultery or serious physical injuries inflicted by either party
on the other. (The marriage laws of China are fully set forth by
Paul d'Enjoy, _La Revue_, Sept. 1, 1905.)
Among the Eskimo (who, as readers of Nansen's fascinating books
on their morals will know, are in some respects a highly
socialized people) the sexes are absolutely equal, marriages are
perfectly free, and separation is equally free. The result is
that there are no uncongenial unions, and that no unpleasant word
is heard between man and wife (Stefánsson, _Harper's Magazine_,
Nov., 1908).
Among the ancient Welsh, women, both before and after marriage,
enjoyed great freedom, far more than was afforded either by
Christianity or the English Common law. "Practically either
husband or wife could separate when either one or both chose"
(Rhys and Brynmor-Jones, _The Welsh People_, p. 214). It was so
also in ancient Ireland. Women held a very high position, and the
marriage tie was very free, so as to be practically, it would
appear, dissoluble by mutual consent. So far as the Brehon laws
show, says Ginnell (_The Brehon Laws_, p. 212), "the marriage
relation was extremely loose, and divorce was as easy, and could
be obtained on as slight ground, as is now the case in some of
the States of the American Union. It appears to have been
obtained more easily by the wife than by the husband. When
obtained on her petition, she took away with her all the property
she had brought her husband, all her husband had settled upon
her on their marriage, and in addition so much of her husband's
property as her industry appeared to have entitled her to."
Even in early French history we find that divorce by mutual
consent was very common. It was sufficient to prepare in
duplicate a formal document to this effect: "Since between N. and
his wife there is discord instead of charity according to God,
and that in consequence it is impossible for them to live
together, it has pleased both to separate, and they have
accordingly done so." Each of the parties was thus free either to
retire into a cloister or to contract another union (E. de la
Bedollière, _Histoire des Moeurs des Français_, vol. i, p. 317).
Such a practice, however it might accord with the germinal
principle of consent embodied in the Canon law, was far too
opposed to the ecclesiastical doctrine of the sacramental
indissolubility of matrimony to be permanently allowed, and it
was completely crushed out.
The fact that we so rarely find divorce by mutual consent in Christendom
until the beginning of the nineteenth century, that then it required a man
of stupendous and revolutionary genius like Napoleon to reintroduce it,
and that even he was unable to do so effectually, is clearly due to the
immense victory which the ascetic spirit of Christianity, as firmly
embodied in the Canon law, had gained over the souls and bodies of men. So
subjugated were European traditions and institutions by this spirit that
even the volcanic emotional uprising of the Reformation, as we have seen,
could not shake it off. When Protestant States naturally resumed the
control of secular affairs which had been absorbed by the Church, and
rescued from ecclesiastical hands those things which belonged to the
sphere of the individual conscience, it might have seemed that marriage
and divorce would have been among the first concerns to be thus
transferred. Yet, as we know, England was about as much enslaved to the
spirit and even the letter of Canon law in the nineteenth as in the
fourteenth century, and even to-day English law, though no longer
supported by the feeling of the masses, clings to the same traditions.
There seems to be little doubt, however, that the modern movement for
divorce must inevitably tend to reach the goal of separation by the will
of both parties, or, under proper conditions and restrictions, by the
will of one party. It now requires the will of two persons to form a
marriage; law insists on that condition.[352] It is logical as well as
just that law should take the next step involved by the historical
evolution of marriage, and equally insist that it requires the will of two
persons to maintain a marriage. This solution is, without doubt, the only
way of deliverance from the crudities, the indecencies, the inextricable
complexities which are introduced into law by the vain attempt to foresee
in detail all the possibilities of conjugal disharmony which may arise
under the conditions of modern civilization. It is, moreover, we may rest
assured, the only solution which the growing modern sense of personal
responsibility in sexual matters traced in the previous chapter--the
responsibility of women as well as of men--will be content to accept.
The subtle and complex character of the sexual relationships in a
high civilization and the unhappy results of their State
regulation were well expressed by Wilhelm von Humboldt in his
_Ideen zu einen Versuch die Grenzen der Wirksamkeit des Staates
zu bestimmen_, so long ago as 1792. "A union so closely allied
with the very nature of the respective individuals must be
attended with the most hurtful consequences when the State
attempts to regulate it by law, or, through the force of its
institutions, to make it repose on anything save simple
inclination. When we remember, moreover, that the State can only
contemplate the final results of such regulations on the race, we
shall be still more ready to admit the justice of this
conclusion. It may reasonably be argued that a solicitude for the
race only conducts to the same results as the highest solicitude
for the most beautiful development of the inner man. For, after
careful observation, it has been found that the uninterrupted
union of one man with one woman is most beneficial to the race,
and it is likewise undeniable that no other union springs from
true, natural, harmonious love. And further, it may be observed,
that such love leads to the same results as those very relations
which law and custom tend to establish. The radical error seems
to be that the law commands; whereas such a relation cannot mould
itself according to external arrangements, but depends wholly on
inclination; and wherever coercion or guidance comes into
collision with inclination, they divert it still farther from the
proper path. Wherefore it appears to me that the State should not
only loosen the bonds in this instance and leave ampler freedom
to the citizen, but that it should entirely withdraw its active
solicitude from the institution of marriage, and, both generally
and in its particular modifications, should rather leave it
wholly to the free choice of the individuals, and the various
contracts they may enter into with respect to it. I should not be
deterred from the adoption of this principle by the fear that all
family relations might be disturbed, for, although such a fear
might be justified by considerations of particular circumstances
and localities, it could not fairly be entertained in an inquiry
into the nature of men and States in general. For experience
frequently convinces us that just where law has imposed no
fetters, morality most surely binds; the idea of external
coercion is one entirely foreign to an institution which, like
marriage, reposes only on inclination and an inward sense of
duty; and the results of such coercive institutions do not at all
correspond to the intentions in which they originate."
A long succession of distinguished thinkers--moralists,
sociologists, political reformers--have maintained the social
advantages of divorce by mutual consent, or, under guarded
circumstances, at the wish of one party. Mutual consent was the
corner-stone of Milton's conception of marriage. Montesquieu said
that true divorce must be the result of mutual consent and based
on the impossibility of living together. Sénancour seems to agree
with Montesquieu. Lord Morley (_Diderot_, vol. ii, Ch. I),
echoing and approving the conclusions of Diderot's _Supplément au
Voyage de Bougainville_ (1772), adds that the separation of
husband and wife is "a transaction in itself perfectly natural
and blameless, and often not only laudable, but a duty." Bloch
(_Sexual Life of Our Time_, p. 240), with many other writers,
emphasizes the truth of Shelley's saying, that the freedom of
marriage is the guarantee of its durability. (That the facts of
life point in the same direction has been shown in the previous
chapter.) The learned Caspari (_Die Soziale Frage über die
Freiheit der Ehe_), while disclaiming any prevision of the
future, declares that if sexual relationships are to remain or to
become moral, there must be an easier dissolution of marriage.
Howard, at the conclusion of his exhaustive history of
matrimonial institutions (vol. iii p. 220), though he himself
believes that marriage is peculiarly in need of regulation by
law, is yet constrained to admit that it is perfectly clear to
the student of history that the modern divorce movement is "but a
part of the mighty movement for social liberation which has been
gaining in volume and strength since the Reformation." Similarly
the cautious and judicial Westermarck concludes the chapter on
marriage of his _Origin and Development of the Moral Ideas_ (vol.
ii, p. 398) with the statement that "when both husband and wife
desire to separate, it seems to many enlightened minds that the
State has no right to prevent them from dissolving the marriage
contract, provided the children are properly cared for; and that,
for the children, also, it is better to have the supervision of
one parent only than of two who cannot agree."
In France the leaders of the movement of social reform seem to be
almost, or quite, unanimous in believing that the next step in
regard to divorce is the establishment of divorce by mutual
consent. This was, for instance, the result reached in a
symposium to which thirty-one distinguished men and women
contributed. All were in favor of divorce by mutual consent; the
only exception was Madame Adam, who said she had reached a state
of skepticism with regard to political and social forms, but
admitted that for nearly half a century she had been a strong
advocate of divorce. A large number of the contributors were in
favor of divorce at the desire of one party only (_La Revue_,
March 1, 1901). In other countries, also, there is a growing
recognition that this solution of the question, with due
precautions to avoid any abuses to which it might otherwise be
liable, is the proper and inevitable solution.
As to the exact method by which divorce by mutual consent should
be effected, opinions differ, and the matter is likely to be
differently arranged in different countries. The Japanese plan
seems simple and judicious (see _ante_, p. 461). Paul and Victor
Margueritte (_Quelques Idées_, pp. 3 et seq.), while realizing
that the conflict of feeling in the matter of personal
associations involves decisions which are entirely outside the
competence of legal tribunals, recognize that such tribunals are
necessary in order to deal with the property of divorced persons,
and also, in the last resort, with the question of the care of
the children. They should not act in public. These writers
propose that each party should choose a representative, and that
these two should choose a third; and that this tribunal should
privately investigate, and if they agreed should register the
divorce, which should take place six or twelve months later, or
three years later, if only desired by one of the parties. Dr.
Shufeldt ("Psychopathia Sexualis and Divorce") proposes that a
divorce-court judge should conduct, alone, the hearing of any
cases of marital discord, the husband and wife appearing directly
before him, without counsel, though with their witnesses, if
necessary; should medical experts be required the judge alone
would be empowered to call them.
When we realize that the long delay in the acceptance of so just and
natural a basis of divorce is due to an artificial tension created by the
pressure of the dead hand of Canon law--a tension confined exclusively to
Christendom--we may also realize that with the final disappearance of that
tension the just and natural order in this relationship will spring back
the more swiftly because that relief has been so long delayed. "Nature
abhors a vacuum nowhere more than in a marriage," Ellen Key remarks in the
language of antiquated physical metaphor; the vacuum will somehow be
filled, and if it cannot be filled in a natural and orderly manner it will
be filled in an unnatural and disorderly manner. It is the business of
society to see that no laws stand in the way of the establishment of
natural order.
Reform upon a reasonable basis has been made difficult by the unfortunate
retention of the idea of delinquency. With the traditions of the Canonists
at the back of our heads we have somehow persuaded ourselves that there
cannot be a divorce unless there is a delinquent, a real serious
delinquent who, if he had his deserts, would be imprisoned and consigned
to infamy. But in the marriage relationship, as in all other
relationships, it is only in a very small number of cases that one party
stands towards the other as a criminal, even a defendant. This is often
obvious in the early stages of conjugal alienation. But it remains true in
the end. The wife commits adultery and the husband as a matter of course
assumes the position of plaintiff. But we do not inquire how it is that he
has not so won her love that her adultery is out of the question; such
inquiry might lead to the conclusion that the real defendant is the
husband. And similarly when the husband is accused of brutal cruelty the
law takes no heed to inquire whether in the infliction of less brutal but
not less poignant wounds, the wife also should not be made defendant.
There are a few cases, but only a few, in which the relationship of
plaintiff and defendant is not a totally false and artificial
relationship, an immoral legal fiction. In most cases, if the truth were
fully known, husband and wife should come side by side to the divorce
court and declare: "We are both in the wrong: we have not been able to
fulfil our engagements to each other; we have erred in choosing each
other." The long reports of the case in open court, the mutual
recriminations, the detectives, the servant girls and other witnesses, the
infamous inquisition into intimate secrets--all these things, which no
necessity could ever justify, are altogether unnecessary.
It is said by some that if there were no impediments to divorce a man
might be married in succession to half a dozen women. These simple-minded
or ignorant persons do not seem to be aware that even when marriage is
absolutely indissoluble a man can, and frequently does, carry on sexual
relationships not merely successively, but, if he chooses, even
simultaneously, with half a dozen women. There is, however, this important
difference that, in the one case, the man is encouraged by the law to
believe that he need only treat at most one of the six women with anything
approaching to justice and humanity; in the other case the law insists
that he shall fairly and openly fulfil his obligations towards all the six
women. It is a very important difference, and there ought to be no
question as to which state of things is moral and which immoral. It is no
concern of the State to inquire into the number of persons with whom a man
or a woman chooses to have sexual relationships; it is a private matter
which may indeed affect their own finer spiritual development but which it
is impertinent for the State to pry into. It is, however, the concern of
the State, in its own collective interest and that of its members, to see
that no injustice is done.
But what about the children? That is necessarily a very important
question. The question of the arrangements made for the children in cases
of divorce is always one to which the State must give its regulative
attention, for it is only when there are children that the State has any
real concern in the matter.
At one time it was even supposed by some that the existence of children
was a serious argument against facility of divorce. A more reasonable view
is now generally taken. It is, in the first place, recognized that a very
large proportion of couples seeking divorce have no children. In England
the proportion is about forty per cent.; in some other countries it is
doubtless larger still. But even when there are children no one who
realizes what the conditions are in families where the parents ought to be
but are not divorced can have any doubt that usually those conditions are
extremely bad for the children. The tension between the parents absorbs
energy which should be devoted to the children. The spectacle of the
grievances or quarrels of their parents is demoralizing for the children,
and usually fatal to any respect towards them. At the best it is
injuriously distressing to the children. One effective parent, there
cannot be the slightest doubt, is far better for a child than two
ineffective parents. There is a further point, often overlooked, for
consideration here. Two people when living together at variance--one of
them perhaps, it is not rarely the case, nervously abnormal or
diseased--are not fitted to become parents, nor in the best condition for
procreation. It is, therefore, not merely an act of justice to the
individual, but a measure called for in the interests of the State, that
new citizens should not be brought into the community through such
defective channels.[353] From this point of view all the interests of the
State are on the side of facility of divorce.
There is a final argument which is often brought forward against facility
of divorce. Marriage, it is said, is for the protection of women;
facilitate divorce and women are robbed of that protection. It is obvious
that this argument has little application as against divorce by mutual
consent. Certainly it is necessary that divorce should only be arranged
under conditions which in each individual case have received the approval
of the law as just. But it must always be remembered that the essential
fact of marriage is not naturally, and should never artificially be made,
an economic question. It is possible--that is a question which society
will have to consider--that a woman should be paid for being a mother on
the ground that she is rearing new citizens for the State. But neither the
State nor her husband nor anyone else ought to pay her for exercising
conjugal rights. The fact that such an argument can be brought forward
shows how far we are from the sound biological attitude towards sexual
relationships. Equally unsound is the notion that the virgin bride brings
her husband at marriage an important capital which is consumed in the
first act of intercourse and can never be recovered. That is a notion
which has survived into civilization, but it belongs to barbarism and not
to civilization. So far as it has any validity it lies within a sphere of
erotic perversity which cannot be taken into consideration in an
estimation of moral values. For most men, however, in any case, whether
they realize it or not, the woman who has been initiated into the
mysteries of love has a higher erotic value than the virgin, and there
need be no anxiety on this ground concerning the wife who has lost her
virginity. It is probably a significant fact that this anxiety for the
protection of women by the limitation of divorce is chiefly brought
forward by men and not by women themselves. A woman at marriage is
deprived by society and the law of her own name. She has been deprived
until recently of the right to her own earnings. She is deprived of the
most intimate rights in her own person. She is deprived under some
circumstances of her own child, against whom she may have committed no
offence whatever. It is perhaps scarcely surprising that she is not
greatly appreciative of the protection afforded her by the withholding of
the right to divorce her husband. "Ah, no, no protection!" a brilliant
French woman has written. "We have been protected long enough. The only
protection to grant women is to cease protecting them."[354] As a matter
of fact the divorce movement appears to develop, on the whole, with that
development of woman's moral responsibility traced in the previous
chapter, and where divorce is freest women occupy the highest position.
We cannot fail to realize as we grasp the nature and direction of the
modern movement of divorce that the final tendency of that movement is to
efface itself. Necessary as the Divorce Court has been as the inevitable
corollary of an impossible ecclesiastical conception of marriage, no
institution is now more hideous, more alien to the instinctive feelings
generated by a fine civilization, and more opposed to the dignity of
womanhood.[355] Its disappearance and its substitution by private
arrangements, effected on their contractive sides, especially if there are
children to provide for, under legal and if necessary judicial
supervision, is, and always has been, the natural result of the attainment
of a reasonably high stage of civilization. The Divorce Court has merely
been a phase in the history of modern marriage, and a phase that has
really been repugnant to all concerned in it. There is no need to view the
project of its ultimate disappearance with anything but satisfaction. It
was merely the outcome of an artificial conception of marriage. It is time
to return to the consideration of that conception.
We have seen that when the Catholic development of the archaic conception
of marriage as a sacrament, slowly elaborated and fossilized by the
ingenuity of the Canonists, was at last nominally dethroned, though not
destroyed, by the movement associated with the Reformation, it was
replaced by the conception of marriage as a contract. This conception of
marriage as a contract still enjoys a considerable amount of credit
amongst us.
There must always be contractive elements, implicit or explicit, in a
marriage; that was well recognized even by the Canonists. But when we
treat marriage as all contract, and nothing but contract, we have to
realize that we have set up a very peculiar form of contract, not
voidable, like other contracts, by the agreement of the parties to it, but
dissoluble as a sort of punishment of delinquency rather than by the
voluntary annulment of a bond.[356] When the Protestant Reformers seized
on the idea of marriage as a contract they were not influenced by any
reasoned analysis of the special characteristics of a contract; they were
merely anxious to secure a plausible ground, already admitted even by the
Canonists to cover certain aspects of the matrimonial union, on which they
could declare that marriage is a secular and not an ecclesiastical matter,
a civil bond and not a sacramental process.[357]
Like so much else in the Protestant revolt, the strength of this attitude
lay in the fact that it was a protest, based on its negative side on
reasonable and natural grounds. But while Protestantism was right in its
attempt--for it was only an attempt--to deny the authority of Canon law,
that attempt was altogether unsatisfactory on the positive side. As a
matter of fact marriage is not a true contract and no attempt has ever
been made to convert it into a true contract.
Various writers have treated marriage as an actual contract or
argued that it ought to be converted into a true contract. Mrs.
Mona Caird, for instance ("The Morality of Marriage,"
_Fortnightly Review_, 1890), believes that when marriage becomes
really a contract "a couple would draw up their agreement, or
depute the task to their friends, as is now generally done as
regards marriage settlements. They agree to live together on such
and such terms, making certain stipulations within the limits of
the code." The State, she holds, should, however, demand an
interval of time between notice of divorce and the divorce
itself, if still desired when that interval has passed.
Similarly, in the United States Dr. Shufeldt ("Needed Revision of
the Laws of Marriage and Divorce," _Medico-Legal Journal_, Dec.,
1897) insists that marriage must be entirely put into the hands
of the legal profession and "made a civil contract, explicit in
detail, and defining terms of divorce, in the event that a
dissolution of the contract is subsequently desired." He adds
that medical certificates of freedom from hereditary and acquired
disease should be required, and properly regulated probationary
marriages also be instituted.
In France, a deputy of the Chamber was, in 1891, so convinced
that marriage is a contract, like any other contract, that he
declared that "to perform music at the celebration of a marriage
is as ridiculous as it would be to send for a tenor to a notary's
to celebrate a sale of timber." He was of quite different mind
from Pepys, who, a couple of centuries earlier, had been equally
indignant at the absence of music from a wedding, which, he said,
made it like a coupling of dog and bitch.
A frequent demand of those who insist that marriage must be
regarded as a contract is marriage contracted for a term of
years. Marriages could be contracted for a term of five years or
less in old Japan, and it is said that they were rarely or never
dissolved at the end of the term. Goethe, in his
_Wahlverwandtschaften_ (Part I, Ch. X) incidentally introduced a
proposal for marriages for a term of five years and attached much
moral significance to the prolongation of the marriage beyond
that term without external compulsion. (Bloch considers that
Goethe had probably heard of the Japanese custom, _Sexual Life of
Our Time_, p. 241.) Professor E.D. Cope ("The Marriage Problem,"
_Open Court_, Nov. 15 and 22, 1888), likewise, in order to remove
matrimony from the domain of caprice and to permit full and fair
trial, advocated "a system of civil marriage contracts which
shall run for a definite time. These contracts should be of the
same value and effect as the existing marriage contract. The time
limits should be increased rapidly, so as to prevent women of
mature years being deprived of support. The first contract ought
not to run for less than five years, so as to give ample
opportunity for acquaintance, and for the recovery from temporary
disagreements." This first contract, Cope held, should be
terminable at the wish of either party; the second contract, for
ten or fifteen years, should only be terminable at the wish of
both parties, and the third should be permanent and indissoluble.
George Meredith, the distinguished novelist, also, more recently,
threw out the suggestion that marriages should be contracted for
a term of years.
It can scarcely be said that marriages for a term of years
constitute a very satisfactory solution of the difficulties at
present encountered. They would not commend themselves to young
lovers, who believe that their love is eternal, nor, so long as
the union proves satisfactory, is there any need to introduce the
disturbing idea of a legal termination of the contract. On the
other hand, if the union proves unhappy, it is not reasonable to
insist on the continuation for ten or even five years of an empty
form which corresponds to no real marriage union. Even if
marriage is placed on the most prosaic contractive basis it is a
mistake, and indeed an impossibility, to pre-ordain the length of
its duration. The system of fixing the duration of marriage
beforehand for a term of years involves exactly the same
principle as the system of fixing it beforehand for life. It is
open to the same objection that it is incompatible with any
vital relationship. As the demand for vital reality and
effectiveness in social relationships grows, this fact is
increasingly felt. We see exactly the same change among us in
regard to the system of inflicting fixed sentences of
imprisonment on criminals. To send a man to prison for five years
or for life, without any regard to the unknown problem of the
vital reaction of imprisonment on the man--a reaction which will
be different in every individual case--is slowly coming to be
regarded as an absurdity.
If marriage were really placed on the basis of a contract, not only would
that contract be voidable at the will of the two parties concerned,
without any question of delinquency coming into the question, but those
parties would at the outset themselves determine the conditions regulating
the contract. But nothing could be more unlike our actual marriage. The
two parties are bidden to accept each other as husband and wife; they are
not invited to make a contract; they are not even told that, little as
they may know it, they have in fact made a very complicated and elaborate
contract that was framed on lines laid down, for a large part, thousands
of years before they were born. Unless they have studied law they are
totally ignorant, also, that this contract contains clauses which under
some circumstances may be fatal to either of them. All that happens is
that a young couple, perhaps little more than children, momentarily dazed
by emotion, are hurried before the clergyman or the civil registrar of
marriages, to bind themselves together for life, knowing nothing of the
world and scarcely more of each other, knowing nothing also of the
marriage laws, not even perhaps so much as that there are any marriage
laws, never realizing that--as has been truly said--from the place they
are entering beneath a garland of flowers there is, on this side of death,
no exit except through the trapdoor of a sewer.[358]
When a woman marries she gives up the right to her own person.
Thus, according to the law of England, a man "cannot be guilty of
a rape upon his lawful wife." Stephen, who, in the first edition
of his _Digest of Criminal Law_, thought that under some
circumstances a man might be indicted for rape upon his wife, in
the last edition withdrew that opinion. A man may rape a
prostitute, but he cannot rape his wife. Having once given her
consent to sexual intercourse by the act of marrying a man, she
has given it forever, whatever new circumstances may arise, and
he has no need to ask her consent to sexual intercourse, not even
if he is knowingly suffering at the time from a venereal disease
(see, e.g., an article on "Sex Bias," _Westminster Review_,
March, 1888).
The duty of the wife to allow "conjugal rights" to her husband is
another aspect of her legal subjection to him. Even in the
nineteenth century a Suffolk lady of good family was imprisoned
in Ipswich Goal for many years and fed on bread and water, though
suffering from various diseases, till she died, simply because
she continued to disregard the decree requiring her to render
conjugal rights to her husband. This state of things was partly
reformed by the Matrimonial Causes Bill of 1884, and that bill
was passed, not to protect women, but men, against punishment for
refusal to restore conjugal rights. Undoubtedly, the modern
tendency, although it has progressed very slowly, is against
applying compulsion to either husband or wife to yield "conjugal
rights;" and since the Jackson case it is not possible in England
for a husband to use force in attempting to compel his wife to
live with him. This tendency is still more marked in the United
States; thus the Iowa Supreme Court, a few years ago, decided
that excessive demands for coitus constituted cruelty of a degree
justifying divorce (J.G. Kiernan, _Alienist and Neurologist_,
Nov. 1906, p. 466).
The slender tenure of the wife over her person is not confined to
the sexual sphere, but even extends to her right to life. In
England, if a wife kills her husband, it was formerly the very
serious offence of "petit treason," and it is still murder. But,
if a husband kills his wife and is able to plead her adultery and
his jealousy, it is only manslaughter. (In France, where jealousy
is regarded with extreme indulgence, even a wife who kills her
husband is often acquitted.)
It must not, however, be supposed that all the legal inequalities
involved by marriage are in favor of the husband. A large number
of injustices are also inflicted on the husband. The husband, for
instance, is legally responsible for the libels uttered by his
wife, and he is equally responsible civilly for the frauds she
commits, even if she is living apart from him. (This was, for
instance, held by an English judge in 1908; "he could only say he
regretted it, for it seems a hard case. But it was the law.")
Belfort Bax has, in recent years, especially insisted on the
hardships inflicted by English law in such ways as these. There
can be no doubt that marriage, as at present constituted,
inflicts serious wrongs on the husband as well as on the wife.
Marriage is, therefore, not only not a contract in the true sense,[359]
but in the only sense in which it is a contract it is a contract of an
exceedingly bad kind. When the Canonists superseded the old conception of
marriage as a contract of purchase by their sacramental marriage, they
were in many respects effecting a real progress, and the return to the
idea of a contract, as soon as its temporary value as a protest has
ceased, proves altogether out of harmony with any advanced stage of
civilization. It was revived in days before the revolt against slavery had
been inaugurated. Personal contracts are out of harmony with our modern
civilization and our ideas of individual liberty. A man can no longer
contract himself as a slave nor sell his wife. Yet marriage, regarded as a
contract, is of precisely the same class as those transactions.[360] In
every high stage of civilization this fact is clearly recognized, and
young couples are not even allowed to contract themselves out in marriage
unconditionally. We see this, for instance, in the wise legislation of the
Romans. Even under the Christian Emperors that sound principle was
maintained and the lawyer Paulus wrote:[361] "Marriage was so free,
according to ancient opinion, that even agreements between the parties not
to separate from one another could have no validity." In so far as the
essence and not any accidental circumstance of the marital relationships
is made a contract, it is a contract of a nature which the two parties
concerned are not competent to make. Biologically and psychologically it
cannot be valid, and with the growth of a humane civilization it is
explicitly declared to be legally invalid.
For, there can be no doubt about it, the intimate and essential fact of
marriage--the relationship of sexual intercourse--is not and cannot be a
contract. It is not a contract but a fact; it cannot be effected by any
mere act of will on the part of the parties concerned; it cannot be
maintained by any mere act of will. To will such a contract is merely to
perform a worse than indecorous farce. Certainly many of the circumstances
of marriage are properly the subject of contract, to be voluntarily and
deliberately made by the parties to the contract. But the essential fact
of marriage--a love strong enough to render the most intimate of
relationships possible and desirable through an indefinite number of
years--cannot be made a matter for contract. Alike from the physical point
of view, and the psychical point of view, no binding contract--and a
contract is worthless if it is not binding--can possibly be made. And the
making of such pseudo-contracts concerning the future of a marriage,
before it has even been ascertained that the marriage can ever become a
fact at all, is not only impossible but absurd.
It is of course true that this impossibility, this absurdity, are never
visible to the contracting parties. They have applied to the question all
the very restricted tests that are conventionally permitted to them, and
the satisfactory results of these tests, together with the consciousness
of possessing an immense and apparently inexhaustible fund of loving
emotion, seem to them adequate to the fulfilment of the contract
throughout life, if not indeed eternity.
As a child of seven I chanced to be in a semi-tropical island of the
Pacific supplied with fruit, especially grapes, from the mainland, and a
dusky market woman always presented a large bunch of grapes to the little
English stranger. But a day came when the proffered bunch was firmly
refused; the superabundance of grapes had produced a reaction of disgust.
A space of nearly forty years was needed to overcome the repugnance to
grapes thus acquired. Yet there can be no doubt that if at the age of six
that little boy had been asked to sign a contract binding him to accept
grapes every day, to keep them always near him, to eat them and to enjoy
them every day, he would have signed that contract as joyously as any
radiant bridegroom or demure bride signs the register in the vestry. But
is a complex man or woman, with unknown capacities for changing or
deteriorating, and with incalculable aptitudes for inflicting torture and
arousing loathing, is such a creature more easy to be bound to than an
exquisite fruit? All the countries of the world in which the subtle
influence of the Canon law of Christendom still makes itself felt, have
not yet grasped a general truth which is well within the practical
experience of a child of seven.[362]
The notion that such a relationship as that of marriage can rest
on so fragile a basis as a pre-ordained contract has naturally
never prevailed widely in its extreme form, and has been unknown
altogether in many parts of the world. The Romans, as we know,
explicitly rejected it, and even at a comparatively early period
recognized the legality of marriage by _usus_, thus declaring in
effect that marriage must be a fact, and not a mere undertaking.
There has been a widespread legal tendency, especially where the
traditions of Roman law have retained any influence, to regard
the cohabitation of marriage as the essential fact of the
relationship. It was an old rule even under the Catholic Church
that marriage may be presumed from cohabitation (see, e.g.,
Zacchia, _Questionum Medico-legalium Opus_, edition of 1688, vol.
iii, p. 234). Even in England cohabitation is already one of the
presumptions in favor of the existence of marriage (though not
necessarily by itself regarded as sufficient), provided the woman
is of unblemished character, and does not appear to be a common
prostitute (Nevill Geary, _The Law of Marriage_, Ch. III). If,
however, according to Lord Watson's judicial statement in the
Dysart Peerage case, a man takes his mistress to a hotel or goes
with her to a baby-linen shop and speaks of her as his wife, it
is to be presumed that he is acting for the sake of decency, and
this furnishes no evidence of marriage. In Scotland the
presumption of marriage arises on much slighter grounds than in
England. This may be connected with the ancient and deep-rooted
custom in Scotland of marriage by exchange of consent (Geary, op.
cit. Ch. XVIII; cf., Howard, _Matrimonial Institutions_, vol. i,
p. 316).
In the Bredalbane case (Campbell _v._ Campbell, 1867), which was
of great importance because it involved the succession to the
vast estates of the Marquis of Bredalbane, the House of Lords
decided than even an adulterous connection may, on ceasing to be
adulterous, become matrimonial by the simple consent of the
parties, as evidenced by habit and repute, without any need for
the matrimonial character of the connection to be indicated by
any public act, nor any necessity to prove the specific period
when the consent was interchanged. This decision has been
confirmed in the Dysart case (Geary, loc. cit.; cf. C.G.
Garrison, "Limits of Divorce," _Contemporary Review_, Feb.,
1894). Similarly, as decided by Justice Kekewich in the Wagstaff
case in 1907, if a man leaves money to his "widow," on condition
that she never marries again, although he has never been married
to her, and though she has been legally married to another man,
the testator's intentions must be upheld. Garrison, in his
valuable discussion of this aspect of legal marriage (_loc.
cit._), forcibly insists that by English law marriage is a fact
and not a contract, and that where "conduct characterized by
connubial purpose and constancy" exists, there marriage legally
exists, marriage being simply "a name for an existing fact."
In the United States, marriage "by habit and repute" similarly
exists, and in some States has even been confirmed and extended
by statute (J.P. Bishop, _Commentaries_, vol. i, Ch. XV).
"Whatever the form of the ceremony, and even if all ceremony was
dispensed with," said Judge Cooley, of Michigan, in 1875 (in an
opinion accepted as authoritative by the Federal courts), "if the
parties agreed presently to take each other for husband and wife,
and from that time lived together professedly in that relation,
proof of these facts would be sufficient.... This has been the
settled doctrine of the American courts." (Howard, op. cit., vol.
iii, pp. 177 et seq. Twenty-three States sanction common-law
marriage, while eighteen repudiate, or are inclined to repudiate,
any informal agreement.)
This legal recognition by the highest judicial authorities, alike
in Great Britain and the United States, that marriage is
essentially a fact, and that no evidence of any form or ceremony
of marriage is required for the most complete legal recognition
of marriage, undoubtedly carries with it highly important
implications. It became clear that the reform of marriage is
possible even without change in the law, and that honorable
sexual relationships, even when entered into without any legal
forms, are already entitled to full legal recognition and
protection. There are, however, it need scarcely be added here,
other considerations which render reform along these lines
incomplete.
It thus tends to come about that with the growth of civilization the
conception of marriage as a contract falls more and more into discredit.
It is realized, on the one hand, that personal contracts are out of
harmony with our general and social attitude, for if we reject the idea of
a human being contracting himself as a slave, how much more we should
reject the idea of entering by contract into the still more intimate
relationship of a husband or a wife; on the other hand it is felt that the
idea of pre-ordained contracts on a matter over which the individual
himself has no control is quite unreal and when any strict rules of equity
prevail, necessarily invalid. It is true that we still constantly find
writers sententiously asserting their notions of the duties or the
privileges involved by the "contract" of marriage, with no more attempt to
analyze the meaning of the term "contract" in this connection than the
Protestant Reformers made, but it can scarcely be said that these writers
have yet reached the alphabet of the subject they dogmatize about.
The transference of marriage from the Church to the State which, in the
lands where it first occurred, we owe to Protestantism and, in the
English-speaking lands, especially to Puritanism, while a necessary stage,
had the unfortunate result of secularizing the sexual relationships. That
is to say, it ignored the transcendent element in love which is really the
essential part of such relationships, and it concentrated attention on
those formal and accidental parts of marriage which can alone be dealt
with in a rigid and precise manner, and can alone properly form the
subject of contracts. The Canon law, fantastic and impossible as it became
in many of its developments, at least insisted on the natural and actual
fact of marriage as, above all, a bodily union, while, at the same time,
it regarded that union as no mere secular business contract but a sacred
and exalted function, a divine fact, and the symbol of the most divine
fact in the world. We are returning to-day to the Canonist's conception of
marriage on a higher and freer plane, bringing back the exalted conception
of the Canon law, yet retaining the individualism which the Puritan
wrongly thought he could secure on the basis of mere secularization,
while, further, we recognize that the whole process belongs to the private
sphere of moral responsibility. As Hobhouse has well said, in tracing the
evolutionary history of the modern conception of marriage, the sacramental
idea of marriage has again emerged but on a higher plane; "from being a
sacrament in the magical, it has become one in the ethical, sense." We are
thus tending towards, though we have not yet legally achieved, marriage
made and maintained by consent, "a union between two free and responsible
persons in which the equal rights of both are maintained."[363]
It is supposed by some that to look upon sexual union as a
sacrament is necessarily to accept the ancient Catholic view,
embodied in the Canon law, that matrimony is indissoluble. That
is, however, a mistake. Even the Canonists themselves were never
able to put forward any coherent and consistent ground for the
indissolubility of matrimony which could commend itself
rationally, while Luther and Milton and Wilhelm von Humboldt, who
maintained the religious and sacred nature of sexual
union--though they were cautious about using the term sacrament
on account of its ecclesiastical implications--so far from
believing that its sanctity involved indissolubility, argued in
the reverse sense. This point of view may be defended even from a
strictly Protestant standpoint. "I take it," Mr. G.C. Maberly
says, "that the Prayer Book definition of a sacrament, 'the
outward and visible sign of an inward and spiritual grace,' is
generally accepted. In marriage the legal and physical unions are
the outward and visible signs, while the inward and spiritual
grace is the God-given love that makes the union of heart and
soul: and it is precisely because I take this view of marriage
that I consider the legal and physical union should be dissolved
whenever the spiritual union of unselfish, divine love and
affection has ceased. It seems to me that the sacramental view of
marriage compels us to say that those who continue the legal or
physical union when the spiritual union has ceased, are--to quote
again from the Prayer Book words applied to those who take the
outward sign of another sacrament when the inward and spiritual
grace is not present--'eating and drinking their own damnation.'"
If from the point we have now reached we look back at the question of
divorce we see that, as the modern aspects of the marriage relationship
becomes more clearly realized by the community, that question will be
immensely simplified. Since marriage is not a mere contract but a fact of
conduct, and even a sacred fact, the free participation of both parties is
needed to maintain it. To introduce the idea of delinquency and punishment
into divorce, to foster mutual recrimination, to publish to the world the
secrets of the heart or the senses, is not only immoral, it is altogether
out of place. In the question as to when a marriage has ceased to be a
marriage the two parties concerned can alone be the supreme judges; the
State, if the State is called in, can but register the sentence they
pronounce, merely seeing to it that no injustice is involved in the
carrying out of that sentence.[364]
In discussing in the previous chapter the direction in which sexual
morality tends to develop with the development of civilization we came to
the conclusion that in its main lines it involved, above all, personal
responsibility. A relationship fixed among savage peoples by social custom
which none dare break, and in a higher stage of culture by formal laws
which must be observed in the letter even if broken in the spirit, becomes
gradually transferred to the sphere of individual moral responsibility.
Such a transference is necessarily meaningless, and indeed impossible,
unless the increasing stringency of the moral bond is accompanied by the
decreasing stringency of the formal bond. It is only by the process of
loosening the artificial restraints that the natural restraints can exert
their full control. That process takes place in two ways, in part on the
basis of the indifference to formal marriage which has marked the masses
of the population everywhere and doubtless stretches back to the tenth
century before the domination of ecclesiastical matrimony began, and
partly by the progressive modification of marriage laws which were made
necessary by the needs of the propertied classes anxious to secure the
State recognition of their unions. The whole process is necessarily a
gradual and indeed imperceptible process. It is impossible to fix
definitely the dates of the stages by which the Church effected the
immense revolution by which it grasped, and eventually transferred to the
State, the complete control of marriage, for that revolution was effected
without the intervention of any law. It will be equally difficult to
perceive the transference of the control of marriage from the State to
the individuals concerned, and the more difficult because, as we shall
see, although the essential and intimately personal fact of marriage is
not a proper matter for State control, there are certain aspects of
marriage which touch the interests of the community so closely that the
State is bound to insist on their registration and to take an interest in
their settlement.
The result of dissolving the formal stringency of the marriage
relationship, it is sometimes said, would be a tendency to an immoral
laxity. Those who make this statement overlook the fact that laxity tends
to reach a maximum as a result of stringency, and that where the merely
external authority of a rigid marriage law prevails, there the extreme
excesses of license most flourish. It is also undoubtedly true, and for
the same reason, that any sudden removal of restraints necessarily
involves a reaction to the opposite extreme of license; a slave is not
changed at a stroke into an autonomous freeman. Yet we have to remember
that the marriage order existed for millenniums before any attempt was
made to mould it into arbitrary shapes by human legislation. Such
legislation, we have seen, was indeed the effort of the human spirit to
affirm more emphatically the demands of its own instincts.[365] But its
final result is to choke and impede rather than to further the instincts
which inspired it. Its gradual disappearance allows the natural order free
and proper scope.
The great truth that compulsion is not really a force on the side
of virtue, but on the side of vice, had been clearly realized by
the genius of Rabelais, when he said of his ideal social state,
the Abbey of Thelema, that there was but one clause in its rule:
Fay ce que vouldras. "Because," said Rabelais (Bk. i, Ch. VII),
"men that are free, well-born, well-bred, and conversant in
honest companies, have naturally an instinct and spur that
prompts them unto virtuous actions and withdraws them from vice.
These same men, when by base subjection and constraint they are
brought under and kept down, turn aside from that noble
disposition by which they freely were inclined to virtue, to
shake off and break that bond of servitude." So that when a man
and a woman who had lived under the rule of Thelema married each
other, Rabelais tells us, their mutual love lasted undiminished
to the day of their death.
When the loss of autonomous freedom fails to lead to licentious
rebellion it incurs the opposite risk and tends to become a
flabby reliance on an external support. The artificial support of
marriage by State regulation then resembles the artificial
support of the body furnished by corset-wearing. The reasons for
and against adopting artificial support are the same in one case
as the other. Corsets really give a feeling of support; they
really furnish without trouble a fairly satisfactory appearance
of decorum; they are a real protection against various accidents.
But the price at which they furnish these advantages is serious,
and the advantages themselves only exist under unnatural
conditions. The corset cramps the form and the healthy
development of the organs; it enfeebles the voluntary muscular
system; it is incompatible with perfect grace and beauty; it
diminishes the sum of active energy. It exerts, in short, the
same kind of influence on physical responsibility as formal
marriage on moral responsibility.
It is too often forgotten, and must therefore be repeated, that
married people do not remain together because of any religious or
legal tie; that tie is merely the historical outcome of their
natural tendency to remain together, a tendency which is itself
far older than history. "Love would exist in the world to-day,
just as pure and just as enduring," says Shufeldt (_Medico-Legal
Journal_, Dec., 1897), "had man never invented 'marriage.' Truly
affined mates would have remained faithful to each other as long
as life lasted. It is only when men attempt to improve upon
nature that crime, disease, and unhappiness step in." "The
abolition of marriage in the form now practiced," wrote Godwin
more than a century ago (_Political Justice_, second edition,
1796, vol. i, p. 248), "will be attended with no evils. We are
apt to represent it to ourselves as the harbinger of brutal lust
and depravity. But it really happens in this, as in other cases,
that the positive laws which are made to restrain our vices
irritate and multiply them." And Professor Lester Ward, in
insisting on the strength of the monogamic sentiment in modern
society, truly remarks (_International Journal of Ethics_, Oct.,
1896) that the rebellion against rigid marriage bonds "is, in
reality, due to the very strengthening of the true bonds of
conjugal affection, coupled with a rational and altogether proper
determination on the part of individuals to accept, in so
important a matter, nothing less than the genuine article." "If
by a single stroke," says Professor Woods Hutchinson
(_Contemporary Review_, Sept., 1905), "all marriage ties now in
existence were struck off or declared illegal, eight-tenths of
all couples would be remarried within forty eight hours, and
seven-tenths could not be kept asunder with bayonets." An
experiment of this kind on a small scale was witnessed in 1909 in
an English village in Buckinghamshire. It was found that the
parish church had never been licensed for marriages, and that in
consequence all the people who had gone through the ceremony of
marriage in that church during the previous half century had
never been legally married. Yet, so far as could be ascertained,
not a single couple thus released from the legal compulsion of
marriage took advantage of the freedom bestowed. In the face of
such a fact it is obviously impossible to attach any moral value
to the form of marriage.
It is certainly inevitable that during a period of transition the natural
order is to some extent disturbed by the persistence, even though in a
weakened form, of external bonds which are beginning to be consciously
realized as inimical to the authoritative control of individual moral
responsibility. We can clearly trace this at the present time. A sensitive
anxiety to escape from external constraint induces an under-valuation of
the significance of personal constraint in the relationship of marriage.
Everyone is probably familiar with cases in which a couple will live
together through long years without entering the legal bond of marriage,
notwithstanding difficulties in their mutual relationship which would have
long since caused a separation or a divorce had they been legally married.
When the inherent difficulties of the marital relationship are complicated
by the difficulties due to external constraint, the development of
individual moral responsibility cuts two ways, and leads to results that
are not entirely satisfactory. This has been seen in the United States of
America and attention has often been called to it by thoughtful American
observers. It is, naturally, noted especially in women because it is in
women that the new growth of personal freedom and moral responsibility has
chiefly made itself felt. The first stirring of these new impulses,
especially when associated, as it often is, with inexperience and
ignorance, leads to impatience with the natural order, to a demand for
impossible conditions of existence, and to an inaptitude not only for the
arbitrary bondage of law but even for the wholesome and necessary bonds of
human social life. It is always a hard lesson for the young and idealistic
that in order to command Nature we must obey her; it can only be learnt
through contact with life and by the attainment of full human growth.
Dr. Felix Adler (in an address before the Society of Ethical
Culture of New York, Nov. 17, 1889) called attention to what he
regarded as the most deep-rooted cause of an undue prevalence of
divorce in America. "The false idea of individual liberty is
largely held in America," and when applied to family life it
often leads to an impatience with these duties which the
individual is either born into or has voluntarily accepted. "I am
constrained to think that the prevalence of divorce is to be
ascribed in no small degree to the influence of democratic
ideas--that is, of false democratic ideas--and our hope lies in
advancing towards a higher and truer democracy." A more recent
American writer, this time a woman, Anna A. Rogers ("Why American
Marriages Fail," _Atlantic Monthly_, Sept., 1907) speaks in the
same sense, though perhaps in too unqualified a manner. She
states that the frequency of divorce in America is due to three
causes: (1) woman's failure to realize that marriage is her work
in the world; (2) her growing individualism; (3) her lost art of
giving, replaced by a highly developed receptive faculty. The
American woman, this writer states, in discovering her own
individuality has not yet learnt how to manage it; it is still
"largely a useless, uneasy factor, vouchsafing her very little
more peace than it does those in her immediate surcharged
vicinity." Her circumstances tend to make of her "a curious
anomalous hybrid; a cross between a magnificent, rather
unmannerly boy, and a spoiled, exacting _demi-mondaine_, who
sincerely loves in this world herself alone." She has not yet
learnt that woman's supreme work in the world can only be
attained through the voluntary acceptance of the restraints of
marriage. The same writer points out that the fault is not alone
with American women, but also with American men. Their idolatry
of their women is largely responsible for that intolerance and
selfishness which causes so many divorces; "American women are,
as a whole, pampered and worshipped out of all reason." But the
men, who lend themselves to this, do not feel that they can treat
their wives with the same comradeship as the French treat their
wives, nor seek their advice with the same reliance; the American
woman is placed on an unreal pedestal. Yet another American
writer, Rafford Pyke ("Husbands and Wives," _Cosmopolitan_,
1902), points out that only a small proportion of American
marriages are really unhappy, these being chiefly among the more
cultured classes, in which the movement of expansion in women's
interests and lives is taking place; it is more often the wife
than the husband who is disappointed in marriage, and this is
largely due to her inability to merge, not necessarily
subordinate, her individuality in an equal union with his.
"Marriage to-day is becoming more and more dependent for its
success upon the adjustment of conditions that are psychical.
Whereas in former generations it was sufficient that the union
should involve physical reciprocity, in this age of ours the
union must involve a psychic reciprocity as well. And whereas,
heretofore, the community of interest was attained with ease, it
is now becoming far more difficult because of the tendency to
discourage a woman who marries from merging her separate
individuality in her husband's. Yet, unless she does this, how
can she have a complete and perfect interest in the life
together, and, for that matter, how can he have such an interest
either?"
Professor Münsterberg, the distinguished psychologist, in his
frank but appreciative study of American institutions, _The
Americans_, taking a broader outlook, points out that the
influence of women on morals in America has not been in every
respect satisfactory, in so far as it has tended to encourage
shallowness and superficiality. "The American woman who has
scarcely a shred of education," he remarks (p. 587), "looks in
vain for any subject on which she has not firm convictions
already at hand.... The arrogance of this feminine lack of
knowledge is the symptom of a profound trait in the feminine
soul, and points to dangers springing from the domination of
women in the intellectual life.... And in no other civilized land
are ethical conceptions so worm-eaten by superstitions."
We have seen that the modern tendency as regards marriage is towards its
recognition as a voluntary union entered into by two free, equal, and
morally responsible persons, and that that union is rather of the nature
of an ethical sacrament than of a contract, so that in its essence as a
physical and spiritual bond it is outside the sphere of the State's
action. It has been necessary to labor that point before we approach what
may seem to many not only a different but even a totally opposed aspect of
marriage. If the marriage union itself cannot be a matter for contract, it
naturally leads to a fact which must necessarily be a matter for implicit
or explicit contract, a matter, moreover, in which the community at large
has a real and proper interest: that is the fact of procreation.[366]
The ancient Egyptians--among whom matrimonial institutions were so elastic
and the position of woman so high--recognized a provisional and slight
marriage bond for the purpose of testing fecundity.[367] Among ourselves
the law makes no such paternal provision, leaving to young couples
themselves the responsibility of making any tests, a permission, we know,
they largely avail themselves of, usually entering the legal bonds of
marriage, however, before the birth of their child. That legal bond is a
recognition that the introduction of a new individual into the community
is not, like sexual union, a mere personal fact, but a social fact, a fact
in which the State cannot fail to be concerned. And the more we
investigate the tendency of the modern marriage movement the more we shall
realize that its attitude of freedom, of individual moral responsibility,
in the formation of sexual relationships, is compensated by an attitude of
stringency, of strict social oversight, in the matter of procreation. Two
people who form an erotic relationship are bound, when they reach the
conviction that their relationship is a real marriage, having its natural
end in procreation, to subscribe to a contract which, though it may leave
themselves personally free, must yet bind them both to their duties
towards their children.[368]
The necessity for such an undertaking is double, even apart from the fact
that it is in the highest interests of the parents themselves. It is
required in the interests of the child. It is required in the interests of
the State. A child can be bred, and well-bred, by one effective parent.
But to equip a child adequately for its entrance into life both parents
are usually needed. The State on its side--that is to say, the community
of which parents and child alike form part--is bound to know who these
persons are who have become sponsors for a new individual now introduced
into its midst. The most Individualistic State, the most Socialistic
State, are alike bound, if faithful to the interests, both biological and
economic, of their constituent members generally, to insist on the full
legal and recognized parentage of the father and mother of every child.
That is clearly demanded in the interests of the child; it is clearly
demanded also in the interests of the State.
The barrier which in Christendom has opposed itself to the natural
recognition of this fact, so injuring alike the child and the State, has
clearly been the rigidity of the marriage system, more especially as
moulded by the Canon law. The Canonists attributed a truly immense
importance to the _copula carnalis_, as they technically termed it. They
centred marriage strictly in the vagina; they were not greatly concerned
about either the presence or the absence of the child. The vagina, as we
know, has not always proved a very firm centre for the support of
marriage, and that centre is now being gradually transferred to the child.
If we turn from the Canonists to the writings of a modern like Ellen Key,
who so accurately represents much that is most characteristic and
essential in the late tendencies of marriage development, we seem to have
entered a new world, even a newly illuminated world. For "in the new
sexual morality, as in Corregio's _Notte_, the light emanates from the
child."[369]
No doubt this change is largely a matter of sentiment, of, as we sometimes
say, mere sentiment, although there is nothing so powerful in human
affairs as sentiment, and the revolution effected by Jesus, the later
revolution effected by Rousseau, were mainly revolutions in sentiment. But
the change is also a matter of the growing recognition of interests and
rights, and as such it manifests itself in law. We can scarcely doubt that
we are approaching a time when it will be generally understood that the
entrance into the world of every child, without exception, should be
preceded by the formation of a marriage contract which, while in no way
binding the father and mother to any duties, or any privileges, towards
each other, binds them both towards their child and at the same time
ensures their responsibility towards the State. It is impossible for the
State to obtain more than this, but it should be impossible for it to
demand less. A contract of such a kind "marries" the father and mother so
far as the parentage of the individual child is concerned, and in no other
respect; it is a contract which leaves entirely unaffected their past,
present, or future relations towards other persons, otherwise it would be
impossible to enforce it. In all parts of the world this elementary demand
of social morality is slowly beginning to be recognized, and as it affects
hundreds of thousands of infants[370] who are yearly branded as
"illegitimate" through no act of their own, no one can say that the
recognition has come too soon. As yet, indeed, it seems nowhere to be
complete.
Most attempts or proposals for the avoidance of illegitimate
births are concerned with the legalizing of unions of a less
binding degree than the present legal marriage. Such unions would
serve to counteract other evils. Thus an English writer, who has
devoted much study to sex questions, writes in a private letter:
"The best remedy for the licentiousness of celibate men and the
mental and physical troubles of continence in woman would be
found in a recognized honorable system of free unions and
trial-marriages, in which preventive intercourse is practiced
until the lovers were old enough to become parents, and possessed
of sufficient means to support a family. The prospect of a
loveless existence for young men and women of ardent natures is
intolerable and as terrible as the prospect of painful illness
and death. But I think the old order must change ere long."
In Teutonic countries there is a strongly marked current of
feeling in the direction of establishing legal unions of a lower
degree than marriage. They exist in Sweden, as also in Norway
where by a recent law the illegitimate child is entitled to the
same rights in relation to both parents as the legitimate child,
bearing the father's name and inheriting his property (_Die Neue
Generation_, July, 1909, p. 303). In France the well-known judge,
Magnard, so honorably distinguished for his attitude towards
cases of infanticide by young mothers, has said: "I heartily wish
that alongside the institution of marriage as it now exists we
had a free union constituted by simple declaration before a
magistrate and conferring almost the same family rights as
ordinary marriage." This wish has been widely echoed.
In China, although polygamy in the strict sense cannot properly
be said to exist, the interests of the child, the woman, and the
State are alike safeguarded by enabling a man to enter into a
kind of secondary marriage with the mother of his child. "Thanks
to this system," Paul d'Enjoy states (_La Revue_, Sept., 1905),
"which allows the husband to marry the woman he desires, without
being prevented by previous and undissolved unions, it is only
right to remark that there are no seduced and abandoned girls,
except such as no law could save from what is really innate
depravity; and that there are no illegitimate children except
those whose mothers are unhappily nearer to animals by their
senses than to human beings by their reason and dignity."
The new civil code of Japan, which is in many respects so
advanced, allows an illegitimate child to be "recognized" by
giving notice to the registrar; when a married man so recognizes
a child, it appears, the child may be adopted by the wife as her
own, though not actually rendered legitimate. This state of
things represents a transition stage; it can scarcely be said to
recognize the rights of the "recognized" child's mother. Japan,
it may be added, has adopted the principle of the automatic
legitimation by marriage of the children born to the couple
before marriage.
In Australia, where women possess a larger share than elsewhere
in making and administering the laws, some attention is beginning
to be given to the rights of illegitimate children. Thus in South
Australia, paternity may be proved before birth, and the father
(by magistrate's order) provides lodging for one month before and
after birth, as well as nurse, doctor, and clothing, furnishing
security that he will do so; after birth, at the magistrate's
decision, he pays a weekly sum for the child's maintenance. An
"illegitimate" mother may also be kept in a public institution at
the public expense for six months to enable her to become
attached to her child.
Such provisions are developed from the widely recognized right of
the unmarried woman to claim support for her child from its
father. In France, indeed, and in the legal codes which follow
the French example, it is not legally permitted to inquire into
the paternity of an illegitimate child. Such a law is, needless
to say, alike unjust to the mother, to the child, and to the
State. In Austria, the law goes to the opposite, though certainly
more reasonable, extreme, and permits even the mother who has had
several lovers to select for herself which she chooses to make
responsible for her child. The German code adopts an intermediate
course, and comes only to the aid of the unmarried mother who has
one lover. In all such cases, however, the aid given is
pecuniary only; it insures the mother no recognition or respect,
and (as Wahrmund has truly said in his _Ehe und Eherecht_) it is
still necessary to insist on "the unconditional sanctity of
motherhood, which is entitled, under whatever circumstances it
arises, to the respect and protection of society."
It must be added that, from the social point of view, it is not
the sexual union which requires legal recognition, but the child
which is the product of that union. It would, moreover, be
hopeless to attempt to legalize all sexual connection, but it is
comparatively easy to legalize all children.
There has been much discussion in the past concerning the particular form
which marriage ought to take. Many theorists have exercised their
ingenuity in inventing and preaching new and unusual marriage-arrangements
as panaceas for social ills; while others have exerted even greater energy
in denouncing all such proposals as subversive of the foundations of human
society. We may regard all such discussions, on the one side or the other,
as idle.
In the first place marriage customs are far too fundamental, far too
intimately blended with the primary substance of human and indeed animal
society, to be in the slightest degree shaken by the theories or the
practices of mere individuals, or even groups of individuals.
Monogamy--the more or less prolonged cohabitation of two individuals of
opposite sex--has been the prevailing type of sexual relationship among
the higher vertebrates and through the greater part of human history. This
is admitted even by those who believe (without any sound evidence) that
man has passed through a stage of sexual promiscuity. There have been
tendencies to variation in one direction or another, but at the lowest
stages and the highest stages, so far as can be seen, monogamy represents
the prevailing rule.
It must be said also, in the second place, that the natural prevalence of
monogamy as the normal type of sexual relationship by no means excludes
variations. Indeed it assumes them. "There is nothing precise in Nature,"
according to Diderot's saying. The line of Nature is a curve that
oscillates from side to side of the norm. Such oscillations inevitably
occur in harmony with changes in environmental conditions, and, no doubt,
with peculiarities of personal disposition. So long as no arbitrary and
merely external attempt is made to force Nature, the vital order is
harmoniously maintained. Among certain species of ducks when males are in
excess polyandric families are constituted, the two males attending their
female partner without jealousy, but when the sexes again become equal in
number the monogamic order is restored. The natural human deviations from
the monogamic order seem to be generally of this character, and largely
conditioned by the social and economic environment. The most common
variation, and that which most clearly possesses a biological foundation,
is the tendency to polygyny, which is found at all stages of culture,
even, in an unrecognized and more or less promiscuous shape, in the
highest civilization.[371] It must be remembered, however, that recognized
polygyny is not the rule even where it prevails; it is merely permissive;
there is never a sufficient excess of women to allow more than a few of
the richer and more influential persons to have more than one wife.[372]
It has further to be borne in mind that a certain elasticity of the formal
side of marriage while, on the one side, it permits variations from the
general monogamic order, where such are healthful or needed to restore a
balance in natural conditions, on the other hand restrains such variations
in so far as they are due to the disturbing influence of artificial
constraint. Much of the polygyny, and polyandry also, which prevails among
us to-day is an altogether artificial and unnatural form of polygamy.
Marriages which on a more natural basis would be dissolved cannot legally
be dissolved, and consequently the parties to them, instead of changing
their partners and so preserving the natural monogamic order, take on
other additional partners and so introduce an unnatural polygamy. There
will always be variations from the monogamic order and civilization is
certainly not hostile to sexual variation. Whether we reckon these
variations as legitimate or illegitimate, they will still take place; of
that we may be certain. The path of social wisdom seems to lie on the one
hand in making the marriage relationship flexible enough to reduce to a
minimum these deviations--not because such deviations are intrinsically
bad but because they ought not to be forced into existence--and on the
other hand in according to these deviations when they occur such a measure
of recognition as will deprive them of injurious influence and enable
justice to be done to all the parties concerned. We too often forget that
our failure to recognize such variations merely means that we accord in
such cases an illegitimate permission to perpetrate injustice. In those
parts of the world in which polygyny is recognized as a permissible
variation a man is legally held to his natural obligations towards all his
sexual mates and towards the children he has by those mates. In no part of
the world is polygyny so prevalent as in Christendom; in no part of the
world is it so easy for a man to escape the obligations incurred by
polygyny. We imagine that if we refuse to recognize the fact of polygyny,
we may refuse to recognize any obligations incurred by polygyny. By
enabling a man to escape so easily from the obligations of his polygamous
relationships we encourage him, if he is unscrupulous, to enter into them;
we place a premium on the immorality we loftily condemn.[373] Our polygyny
has no legal existence, and therefore its obligations can have no legal
existence. The ostrich, it was once imagined, hides its head in the sand
and attempts to annihilate facts by refusing to look at them; but there is
only one known animal which adopts this course of action, and it is called
Man.
Monogamy, in the fundamental biological sense, represents the natural
order into which the majority of sexual facts will always naturally fall
because it is the relationship which most adequately corresponds to all
the physical and spiritual facts involved. But if we realize that sexual
relationships primarily concern only the persons who enter into those
relationships, and if we further realize that the interest of society in
such relationships is confined to the children which they produce, we
shall also realize that to fix by law the number of women with whom a man
shall have sexual relationships, and the number of men with whom a woman
shall unite herself, is more unreasonable than it would be to fix by law
the number of children they shall produce. The State has a right to
declare whether it needs few citizens or many; but in attempting to
regulate the sexual relationships of its members the State attempts an
impossible task and is at the same time guilty of an impertinence.
There is always a tendency, at certain stages of civilization, to
insist on a merely formal and external uniformity, and a
corresponding failure to see not only that such uniformity is
unreal, but also that it has an injurious effect, in so far as it
checks beneficial variations. The tendency is by no means
confined to the sexual sphere. In England there is, for instance,
a tendency to make building laws which enjoin, in regard to
places of human habitation, all sorts of provisions that on the
whole are fairly beneficial, but which in practice act
injuriously, because they render many simple and excellent human
habitations absolutely illegal, merely because such habitations
fail to conform to regulations which, under some circumstances,
are not only unnecessary, but mischievous.
Variation is a fact that will exist whether we will or no; it can
only become healthful if we recognize and allow for it. We may
even have to recognize that it is a more marked tendency in
civilization than in more primitive social stages. Thus Gerson
argues (_Sexual-Probleme_, Sept., 1908, p. 538) that just as the
civilized man cannot be content with the coarse and monotonous
food which satisfies the peasant, so it is in sexual matters; the
peasant youth and girl in their sexual relationships are nearly
always monogamous, but civilized people, with their more
versatile and sensitive tastes, are apt to crave for variety.
Sénancour (_De l'Amour_, vol. ii, "Du Partage," p. 127) seems to
admit the possibility of marriage variations, as of sharing a
wife, provided nothing is done to cause rivalry, or to impair the
soul's candor. Lecky, near the end of his _History of European
Morals_, declared his belief that, while the permanent union of
two persons is the normal and prevailing type of marriage, it by
no means follows that, in the interests of society, it should be
the only form. Remy de Gourmont similarly (_Physique de l'Amour_,
p. 186), while stating that the couple is the natural form of
marriage and its prolonged continuance a condition of human
superiority, adds that the permanence of the union can only be
achieved with difficulty. So, also, Professor W. Thomas (_Sex and
Society_, 1907, p. 193), while regarding monogamy as subserving
social needs, adds: "Speaking from the biological standpoint
monogamy does not, as a rule, answer to the conditions of highest
stimulation, since here the problematical and elusive elements
disappear to some extent, and the object of attention has grown
so familiar in consciousness that the emotional reactions are
qualified. This is the fundamental explanation of the fact that
married men and women frequently become interested in others than
their partners in matrimony."
Pepys, whose unconscious self-dissection admirably illustrates so
many psychological tendencies, clearly shows how--by a logic of
feeling deeper than any intellectual logic--the devotion to
monogamy subsists side by side with an irresistible passion for
sexual variety. With his constantly recurring wayward attraction
to a long series of women he retains throughout a deep and
unchanging affection for his charming young wife. In the privacy
of his _Diary_ he frequently refers to her in terms of endearment
which cannot be feigned; he enjoys her society; he is very
particular about her dress; he delights in her progress in music,
and spends much money on her training; he is absurdly jealous
when he finds her in the society of a man. His subsidiary
relationships with other women recur irresistibly, but he has no
wish either to make them very permanent or to allow them to
engross him unduly. Pepys represents a common type of civilized
"monogamist" who is perfectly sincere and extremely convinced in
his advocacy of monogamy, as he understands it, but at the same
time believes and acts on the belief that monogamy by no means
excludes the need for sexual variation. Lord Morley's statement
(_Diderot_, vol. ii, p. 20) that "man is instinctively
polygamous," can by no means be accepted, but if we interpret it
as meaning that man is an instinctively monogamous animal with a
concomitant desire for sexual variation, there is much evidence
in its favor.
Women must be as free as men to mould their own amatory life.
Many consider, however, that such freedom on the part of women
will be, and ought to be, exercised within narrower limits (see,
e.g., Bloch, _Sexual Life of Our Time_, Ch. X). In part this
limitation is considered due to the greater absorption of a woman
in the task of breeding and rearing her child, and in part to a
less range of psychic activities. A man, as G. Hirth puts it,
expressing this view of the matter (_Wege zur Liebe_, p. 342),
"has not only room in his intellectual horizon for very various
interests, but his power of erotic expansion is much greater and
more differentiated than that of women, although he may lack the
intimacy and depth of a woman's devotion."
It may be argued that, since variations in the sexual order will
inevitably take place, whether or not they are recognized or
authorized, no harm is likely to be done by using the weight of
social and legal authority on the side of that form which is
generally regarded as the best, and, so far as possible, covering
the other forms with infamy. There are many obvious defects in
such an attitude, apart from the supremely important fact that to
cast infamy on sexual relationships is to exert a despicable
cruelty on women, who are inevitably the chief sufferers. Not the
least is the injustice and the hampering of vital energy which it
inflicts on the better and more scrupulous people to the
advantage of the worse and less scrupulous. This always happens
when authority exerts its power in favor of a form. When, in the
thirteenth century, Alexander III--one of the greatest and most
effective potentates who ever ruled Christendom--was consulted by
the Bishop of Exeter concerning subdeacons who persisted in
marrying, the Pope directed him to inquire into the lives and
characters of the offenders; if they were of regular habits and
staid morality, they were to be forcibly separated and the wives
driven out; if they were men of notoriously disorderly character,
they were to be permitted to retain their wives, if they so
desired (Lea, _History of Sacerdotal Celibacy_, third edition,
vol. i, p. 396). It was an astute policy, and was carried out by
the same Pope elsewhere, but it is easy to see that it was
altogether opposed to morality in every sense of the term. It
destroyed the happiness and the efficiency of the best men; it
left the worst men absolutely free. To-day we are quite willing
to recognize the evil result of this policy; it was dictated by a
Pope and carried out seven hundred years ago. Yet in England we
carry out exactly the same policy to-day by means of our
separation orders, which are scattered broadcast among the
population. None of the couples thus separated--and never
disciplined to celibacy as are the Catholic clergy of to-day--may
marry again; we, in effect, bid the more scrupulous among them to
become celibates, and to the less scrupulous we grant permission
to do as they like. This process is carried on by virtue of the
collective inertia of the community, and when it is supported by
arguments, if that ever happens, they are of an antiquarian
character which can only call forth a pitying smile.
It may be added that there is a further reason why the custom of
branding sexual variations from the norm as "immoral" is not so
harmless as some affect to believe: such variations appear to be
not uncommon among men and women of superlative ability whose
powers are needed unimpeded in the service of mankind. To attempt
to fit such persons into the narrow moulds which suit the
majority is not only an injustice to them as individuals, but it
is an offence against society, which may fairly claim that its
best members shall not be hampered in its service. The notion
that the person whose sexual needs differ from those of the
average is necessarily a socially bad person, is a notion
unsupported by facts. Every case must be judged on its own
merits.
Undoubtedly the most common variation from normal monogamy has in all
stages of human culture been polygyny or the sexual union of one man with
more than one woman. It has sometimes been socially and legally
recognized, and sometimes unrecognized, but in either case it has not
failed to occur. Polyandry, or the union of a woman with more than one
man, has been comparatively rare and for intelligible reasons: men have
most usually been in a better position, economically and legally, to
organize a household with themselves as the centre; a woman is, unlike a
man, by nature and often by custom unfitted for intercourse for
considerable periods at a time; a woman, moreover, has her thoughts and
affections more concentrated on her children. Apart from this the
biological masculine traditions point to polygyny much more than the
feminine traditions point to polyandry. Although it is true that a woman
can undergo a much greater amount of sexual intercourse than a man, it
also remains true that the phenomena of courtship in nature have made it
the duty of the male to be alert in offering his sexual attention to the
female, whose part it has been to suspend her choice coyly until she is
sure of her preference. Polygynic conditions have also proved
advantageous, as they have permitted the most vigorous and successful
members of a community to have the largest number of mates and so to
transmit their own superior qualities.
"Polygamy," writes Woods Hutchinson (_Contemporary Review_, Oct.,
1904), though he recognizes the advantages of monogamy, "as a
racial institution, among animals as among men, has many solid
and weighty considerations in its favor, and has resulted in
both human and pre-human times, in the production of a very high
type of both individual and social development." He points out
that it promotes intelligence, coöperation, and division of
labor, while the keen competition for women weeds out the weaker
and less attractive males.
Among our European ancestors, alike among Germans and Celts,
polygyny and other sexual forms existed as occasional variations.
Tacitus noted polygyny in Germany, and Cæsar found in Britain
that brothers would hold their wives in common, the children
being reckoned to the man to whom the woman had been first given
in marriage (see, e.g., Traill's _Social England_, vol. i, p.
103, for a discussion of this point). The husband's assistant,
also, who might be called in to impregnate the wife when the
husband was impotent, existed in Germany, and was indeed a
general Indo-Germanic institution (Schrader, _Reallexicon_, art.
"Zeugungshelfer"). The corresponding institution of the concubine
has been still more deeply rooted and widespread. Up to
comparatively modern times, indeed, in accordance with the
traditions of Roman law, the concubine held a recognized and
honorable position, below that of a wife but with definite legal
rights, though it was not always, or indeed usually, legal for a
married man to have a concubine. In ancient Wales, as well as in
Rome, the concubine was accepted and never despised (R.B. Holt,
"Marriage Laws of the Cymri," _Journal Anthropological
Institute_, Aug. and Nov., 1898, p. 155). The fact that when a
concubine entered the house of a married man her dignity and
legal position were less than those of the wife preserved
domestic peace and safeguarded the wife's interests. (A Korean
husband cannot take a concubine under his roof without his wife's
permission, but she rarely objects, and seems to enjoy the
companionship, says Louise Jordan Miln, _Quaint Korea_, 1895, p.
92.) In old Europe, we must remember, as Dufour points out in
speaking of the time of Charlemagne (_Histoire de la
Prostitution_, vol. iii, p. 226), "concubine" was an honorable
term; the concubine was by no means a mistress, and she could be
accused of adultery just the same as a wife. In England, late in
the thirteenth century, Bracton speaks of the _concubina
legitima_ as entitled to certain rights and considerations, and
it was the same in other parts of Europe, sometimes for several
centuries later (see Lea, _History of Sacerdotal Celibacy_, vol.
i, p. 230). The early Christian Church was frequently inclined to
recognize the concubine, at all events if attached to an
unmarried man, for we may trace in the Church "the wish to look
upon every permanent union of man or woman as possessing the
character of a marriage in the eyes of God, and, therefore, in
the judgment of the Church" (art. "Concubinage," Smith and
Cheetham, _Dictionary of Christian Antiquities_). This was the
feeling of St. Augustine (who had himself, before his conversion,
had a concubine who was apparently a Christian), and the Council
of Toledo admitted an unmarried man who was faithful to a
concubine. As the law of the Catholic Church grew more and more
rigid, it necessarily lost touch with human needs. It was not so
in the early Church during the great ages of its vital growth. In
those ages even the strenuous general rule of monogamy was
relaxed when such relaxation seemed reasonable. This was so, for
instance, in the case of sexual impotency. Thus early in the
eighth century Gregory II, writing to Boniface, the apostle of
Germany, in answer to a question by the latter, replies that when
a wife is incapable from physical infirmity from fulfilling her
marital duties it is permissible for the husband to take a second
wife, though he must not withdraw maintenance from the first. A
little later Archbishop Egbert of York, in his _Dialogus de
Institutione Ecclesiastica_, though more cautiously, admits that
when one of two married persons is infirm the other, with the
permission of the infirm one, may marry again, but the infirm one
is not allowed to marry again during the other's life. Impotency
at the time of marriage, of course, made the marriage void
without the intervention of any ecclesiastical law. But Aquinas,
and later theologians, allow that an excessive disgust for a wife
justifies a man in regarding himself as impotent in relation to
her. These rules are, of course, quite distinct from the
permissions to break the marriage laws granted to kings and
princes; such permissions do not count as evidence of the
Church's rules, for, as the Council of Constantinople prudently
decided in 809, "Divine law can do nothing against Kings" (art.
"Bigamy," _Dictionary of Christian Antiquities_). The law of
monogamy was also relaxed in cases of enforced or voluntary
desertion. Thus the Council of Vermerie (752) enacted that if a
wife will not accompany her husband when he is compelled to
follow his lord into another land, he may marry again, provided
he sees no hope of returning. Theodore of Canterbury (688),
again, pronounces that if a wife is carried away by the enemy and
her husband cannot redeem her, he may marry again after an
interval of a year, or, if there is a chance of redeeming her,
after an interval of five years; the wife may do the same. Such
rules, though not general, show, as Meyrick points out (art.
"Marriage," _Dictionary of Christian Antiquities_), a willingness
"to meet particular cases as they arise."
As the Canon law grew rigid and the Catholic Church lost its
vital adaptibility, sexual variations ceased to be recognized
within its sphere. We have to wait for the Reformation for any
further movement. Many of the early Protestant Reformers,
especially in Germany, were prepared to admit a considerable
degree of vital flexibility in sexual relationships. Thus Luther
advised married women with impotent husbands, in cases where
there was no wish or opportunity for divorce, to have sexual
relations with another man, by preference the husband's brother;
the children were to be reckoned to the husband ("Die Sexuelle
Frage bei Luther," _Mutterschutz_, Sept., 1908).
In England the Puritan spirit, which so largely occupied itself
with the reform of marriage, could not fail to be concerned with
the question of sexual variations, and from time to time we find
the proposal to legalize polygyny. Thus, in 1658, "A Person of
Quality" published in London a small pamphlet dedicated to the
Lord Protector, entitled _A Remedy for Uncleanness_. It was in
the form of a number of queries, asking why we should not admit
polygamy for the avoidance of adultery and infanticide. The
writer inquires whether it may not "stand with a gracious spirit,
and be every way consistent with the principles of a man fearing
God and loving holiness, to have more women than one to his
proper use.... He that takes another man's ox or ass is doubtless
a transgressor; but he that puts himself out of the occasion of
that temptation by keeping of his own seems to be a right honest
and well-meaning man."
More than a century later (1780), an able, learned, and
distinguished London clergyman of high character (who had been a
lawyer before entering the Church), the Rev. Martin Madan, also
advocated polygamy in a book called _Thelyphthora; or, a Treatise
on Female Ruin_. Madan had been brought into close contact with
prostitution through a chaplaincy at the Lock Hospital, and, like
the Puritan advocate of polygamy, he came to the conclusion that
only by the reform of marriage is it possible to work against
prostitution and the evils of sexual intercourse outside
marriage. His remarkable book aroused much controversy and strong
feeling against the author, so that he found it desirable to
leave London and settle in the country. Projects of marriage
reform have never since come from the Church, but from
philosophers and moralists, though not rarely from writers of
definitely religious character. Sénancour, who was so delicate
and sensitive a moralist in the sexual sphere, introduced a
temperate discussion of polygamy into his _De l'Amour_ (vol. ii,
pp. 117-126). It seemed to him to be neither positively contrary
nor positively conformed to the general tendency of our present
conventions, and he concluded that "the method of conciliation,
in part, would be no longer to require that the union of a man
and a woman should only cease with the death of one of them."
Cope, the biologist, expressed a somewhat more decided opinion.
Under some circumstances, if all three parties agreed, he saw no
objection to polygyny or polyandry. "There are some cases of
hardship," he said, "which such permission would remedy. Such,
for instance, would be the case where the man or woman had become
the victim of a chronic disease; or, when either party should be
childless, and in other contingencies that could be imagined."
There would be no compulsion in any direction, and full
responsibility as at present. Such cases could only arise
exceptionally, and would not call for social antagonism. For the
most part, Cope remarks, "the best way to deal with polygamy is
to let it alone" (E.D. Cope, "The Marriage Problem," _Open
Court_, Nov. 15 and 22, 1888). In England, Dr. John Chapman, the
editor of the _Westminster Review_, and a close associate of the
leaders of the Radical movement in the Victorian period, was
opposed to State dictation as regards the form of marriage, and
believed that a certain amount of sexual variation would be
socially beneficial. Thus he wrote in 1884 (in a private letter):
"I think that as human beings become less selfish polygamy [i.e.,
polygyny], and even polyandry, in an ennobled form, will become
increasingly frequent."
James Hinton, who, a few years earlier, had devoted much thought
and attention to the sexual question, and regarded it as indeed
the greatest of moral problems, was strongly in favor of a more
vital flexibility of marriage regulations, an adaptation to human
needs such as the early Christian Church admitted. Marriage, he
declared, must be "subordinated to service," since marriage, like
the Sabbath, is made for man and not man for marriage. Thus in
case of one partner becoming insane he would permit the other
partner to marry again, the claim of the insane partner, in case
of recovery, still remaining valid. That would be a form of
polygamy, but Hinton was careful to point out that by "polygamy"
he meant "less a particular marriage-order than such an order as
best serves good, and which therefore must be essentially
variable. Monogamy may be good, even the only good order, if of
free choice; but a _law_ for it is another thing. The sexual
relationship must be a _natural_ thing. The true social life will
not be any fixed and definite relationship, as of monogamy,
polygamy, or anything else, but a perfect subordination of every
sexual relationship whatever to reason and human good."
Ellen Key, who is an enthusiastic advocate of monogamy, and who
believes that the civilized development of personal love removes
all danger of the growth of polygamy, still admits the existence
of variations. She has in mind such solutions of difficult
problems as Goethe had before him when he proposed at first in
his _Stella_ to represent the force of affection and tender
memories as too strong to admit of the rupture of an old bond in
the presence of a new bond. The problem of sexual variation, she
remarks, however (_Liebe und Ethik_, p. 12), has changed its form
under modern conditions; it is no longer a struggle between the
demand of society for a rigid marriage-order and the demand of
the individual for sexual satisfaction, but it has become the
problem of harmonizing the ennoblement of the race with
heightened requirements of erotic happiness. She also points out
that the existence of a partner who requires the other partner's
care as a nurse or as an intellectual companion by no means
deprives that other partner of the right to fatherhood or
motherhood, and that such rights must be safeguarded (Ellen Key,
_Ueber Liebe und Ehe_, pp. 166-168).
A prominent and extreme advocate of polygyny, not as a simple
rare variation, but as a marriage order superior to monogamy, is
to be found at the present day in Professor Christian von
Ehrenfels of Prague (see, e.g., his _Sexualethik_, 1908; "Die
Postulate des Lebens," _Sexual-Probleme_, Oct., 1908; and letter
to Ellen Key in her _Ueber Liebe und Ehe_, p. 466). Ehrenfels
believes that the number of men inapt for satisfactory
reproduction is much larger than that of women, and that
therefore when these are left out of account, a polygynic
marriage order becomes necessary. He calls this
"reproduction-marriage" (Zeugungsehe), and considers that it will
entirely replace the present marriage order, to which it is
morally superior. It would be based on private contracts.
Ehrenfels holds that women would offer no objection, as a woman,
he believes, attaches less importance to a man as a wooer than as
the father of her child. Ehrenfels's doctrine has been seriously
attacked from many sides, and his proposals are not in the line
of our progress. Any radical modification of the existing
monogamic order is not to be expected, even if it were generally
recognized, which cannot be said to be the case, that it is
desirable. The question of sexual variations, it must be
remembered, is not a question of introducing an entirely new form
of marriage, but only of recognizing the rights of individuals,
in exceptional cases, to adopt such aberrant forms, and of
recognizing the corresponding duties of such individuals to
accept the responsibilities of any aberrant marriage forms they
may find it best to adopt. So far as the question of sexual
variations is more than this, it is, as Hinton argued, a
dynamical method of working towards the abolition of the perilous
and dangerous promiscuity of prostitution. A rigid marriage order
involves prostitution; a flexible marriage order largely--though
not, it may be, entirely--renders prostitution unnecessary. The
democratic morality of the present day, so far as the indications
at present go, is opposed to the encouragement of a _quasi_-slave
class, with diminished social rights, such as prostitutes always
constitute in a more or less marked degree. It is fairly evident,
also, that the rapidly growing influence of medical hygiene is on
the same side. We may, therefore, reasonably expect in the future
a slow though steady increase in the recognition, and even the
extension, of those variations of the monogamic order which have,
in reality, never ceased to exist.
It is lamentable that at this period of the world's history, nearly two
thousand years after the wise legislators of Rome had completed their
work, it should still be necessary to conclude that we are to-day only
beginning to place marriage on a reasonable and humane basis. I have
repeatedly pointed out how largely the Canon law has been responsible for
this arrest of development. One may say, indeed, that the whole attitude
of the Church, after it had once acquired complete worldly dominance,
must be held responsible. In the earlier centuries the attitude of
Christianity was, on the whole, admirable. It held aloft great ideals but
it refrained from enforcing those ideals at all costs; thus its ideals
remained genuine and could not degenerate into mere hypocritical empty
forms; much flexibility was allowed when it seemed to be for human good
and made for the avoidance of evil and injustice. But when the Church
attained temporal power, and when that power was concentrated in the hands
of Popes who subordinated moral and religious interests to political
interests, all the claims of reason and humanity were flung to the winds.
The ideal was no more a fact than it was before, but it was now treated as
a fact. Human relationships remained what they were before, as complicated
and as various, but henceforth one rigid pattern, admirable as an ideal
but worse than empty as a form, was arbitrarily set up, and all deviations
from it treated either as non-existent or damnable. The vitality was
crushed out of the most central human institutions, and they are only
to-day beginning to lift their heads afresh.
If--to sum up--we consider the course which the regulation of marriage has
run during the Christian era, the only period which immediately concerns
us, it is not difficult to trace the main outlines. Marriage began as a
private arrangement, which the Church, without being able to control, was
willing to bless, as it also blessed many other secular affairs of men,
making no undue attempt to limit its natural flexibility to human needs.
Gradually and imperceptibly, however, without the medium of any law,
Christianity gained the complete control of marriage, coördinated it with
its already evolved conceptions of the evil of lust, of the virtue of
chastity, of the mortal sin of fornication, and, having through the
influence of these dominating conceptions limited the flexibility of
marriage in every possible direction, it placed it on a lofty but narrow
pedestal as the sacrament of matrimony. For reasons which by no means lay
in the nature of the sexual relationships, but which probably seemed
cogent to sacerdotal legislators who assimilated it to ordination,
matrimony was declared indissoluble. Nothing was so easy to enter as the
gate of matrimony, but, after the manner of a mouse-trap, it opened
inwards and not outwards; once in there was no way out alive. The Church's
regulation of marriage while, like the celibacy of the clergy, it was a
success from the point of view of ecclesiastical politics, and even at
first from the point of view of civilization, for it at least introduced
order into a chaotic society, was in the long run a failure from the point
of view of society and morals. On the one hand it drifted into absurd
subtleties and quibbles; on the other, not being based on either reason or
humanity, it had none of that vital adaptability to the needs of life,
which early Christianity, while holding aloft austere ideals, still
largely retained. On the side of tradition this code of marriage law
became awkward and impracticable; on the biological side it was hopelessly
false. The way was thus prepared for the Protestant reintroduction of the
conception of marriage as a contract, that conception being, however,
brought forward less on its merits than as a protest against the
difficulties and absurdities of the Catholic Canon law. The contractive
view, which still largely persists even to-day, speedily took over much of
the Canon law doctrines of marriage, becoming in practice a kind of
reformed and secularized Canon law. It was somewhat more adapted to modern
needs, but it retained much of the rigidity of the Catholic marriage
without its sacramental character, and it never made any attempt to become
more than nominally contractive. It has been of the nature of an
incongruous compromise and has represented a transitional phase towards
free private marriage. We can recognize that phase in the tendency, well
marked in all civilized lands, to an ever increasing flexibility of
marriage. The idea, and even the fact, of marriage by consent and divorce
by failure of that consent, which we are now approaching, has never indeed
been quite extinct. In the Latin countries it has survived with the
tradition of Roman law; in the English-speaking countries it is bound up
with the spirit of Puritanism which insists that in the things that
concern the individual alone the individual himself shall be the supreme
judge. That doctrine as applied to marriage was in England magnificently
asserted by the genius of Milton, and in America it has been a leaven
which is still working in marriage legislation towards an inevitable goal
which is scarcely yet in sight. The marriage system of the future, as it
moves along its present course, will resemble the old Christian system in
that it will recognize the sacred and sacramental character of the sexual
relationship, and it will resemble the civil conception in that it will
insist that marriage, so far as it involves procreation, shall be publicly
registered by the State. But in opposition to the Church it will recognize
that marriage, in so far as it is purely a sexual relationship, is a
private matter the conditions of which must be left to the persons who
alone are concerned in it; and in opposition to the civil theory it will
recognize that marriage is in its essence a fact and not a contract,
though it may give rise to contracts, so long as such contracts do not
touch that essential fact. And in one respect it will go beyond either the
ecclesiastical conception or the civil conception. Man has in recent times
gained control of his own procreative powers, and that control involves a
shifting of the centre of gravity of marriage, in so far as marriage is an
affair of the State, from the vagina to the child which is the fruit of
the womb. Marriage as a state institution will centre, not around the
sexual relationship, but around the child which is the outcome of that
relationship. In so far as marriage is an inviolable public contract it
will be of such a nature that it will be capable of automatically covering
with its protection every child that is born into the world, so that every
child may possess a legal mother and a legal father. On the one side,
therefore, marriage is tending to become less stringent; on the other side
it is tending to become more stringent. On the personal side it is a
sacred and intimate relationship with which the State has no concern; on
the social side it is the assumption of the responsible public sponsorship
of a new member of the State. Some among us are working to further one of
these aspects of marriage, some to further the other aspect. Both are
indispensable to establish a perfect harmony. It is necessary to hold the
two aspects of marriage apart, in order to do equal justice to the
individual and to society, but in so far as marriage approaches its ideal
state those two aspects become one.
We have now completed the discussion of marriage as it presents itself to
the modern man born in what in mediæval days was called Christendom. It is
not an easy subject to discuss. It is indeed a very difficult subject, and
only after many years is it possible to detect the main drift of its
apparently opposing and confused currents when one is oneself in the midst
of them. To an Englishman it is, perhaps, peculiarly difficult, for the
Englishman is nothing if not insular; in that fact lie whatever virtues he
possesses, as well as their reverse sides.[374]
Yet it is worth while to attempt to climb to a height from which we can
view the stream of social tendency in its true proportions and estimate
its direction. It is necessary to do so if we value our mental peace in an
age when men's minds are agitated by many petty movements which have
nothing to do with their great temporal interests, to say nothing of their
eternal interests. When we have attained a wide vision of the solid
biological facts of life, when we have grasped the great historical
streams of tradition,--which together make up the map of human
affairs,--we can face serenely the little social transitions which take
place in our own age, as they have taken place in every age.
FOOTNOTES:
[312] Rosenthal, of Breslau, from the legal side, goes so far as to argue
("Grundfragen des Eheproblems," _Die Neue Generation_, Dec., 1908), that
the intention of procreation is essential to the conception of legal
marriage.
[313] J.A. Godfrey, _Science of Sex_, p. 119.
[314] E.D. Cope, "The Marriage Problem," _Open Court_, Nov., 1888.
[315] See _ante_, p. 395.
[316] Wächter, _Eheschiedungen_, pp. 95 et seq.; Esmein, _Marriage en
Droit Canonique_, vol. i, p. 6; Howard, _History of Matrimonial
Institutions_, vol. ii, p. 15. Howard (in agreement with Lecky) considers
that the freedom of divorce was only abused by a small section of the
Roman population, and that such abuse, so far as it existed, was not the
cause of any decline of Roman morals.
[317] The opinions of the Christian Fathers were very varied, and they
were sometimes doubtful about them; see, e.g., the opinions collected by
Cranmer and enumerated by Burnet, _History of Reformation_ (ed. Nares),
vol. ii, p. 91.
[318] Constantine, the first Christian Emperor, enacted a strict and
peculiar divorce law (allowing a wife to divorce her husband only when he
was a homicide, a poisoner, or a violator of sepulchres), which could not
be maintained. In 497, therefore, Anastasius decreed divorce by mutual
consent. This was abolished by Justinian, who only allowed divorce for
various specified causes, among them, however, including the husband's
adultery. These restrictions proved unworkable, and Justinian's successor
and nephew, Justin, restored divorce by mutual consent. Finally, in 870,
Leo the Philosopher returned to Justinian's enactment (see, e.g., Smith
and Cheetham, _Dictionary of Christian Antiquities_, arts. "Adultery" and
"Marriage").
[319] The element of reverence in the early German attitude towards women
and the privileges which even the married woman enjoyed, so far as Tacitus
can be considered a reliable guide, seem to have been the surviving
vestiges of an earlier social state on a more matriarchal basis. They are
most distinct at the dawn of German history. From the first, however,
though divorce by mutual consent seems to have been possible, German
custom was pitiless to the married woman who was unfaithful, sterile, or
otherwise offended, though for some time after the introduction of
Christianity it was no offence for the German husband to commit adultery
(Westermarck, _Origin of the Moral Ideas_, vol. ii, p. 453).
[320] "This form of marriage," says Hobhouse (op. cit., vol. i, p. 156),
"is intimately associated with the extension of marital power." Cf.
Howard, op. cit., vol. i, p. 231. The very subordinate position of the
mediæval German woman is set forth by Hagelstange, _Süddeutsches
Bauernleben in Mittelalter_, 1898, pp. 70 et seq.
[321] Howard, op. cit., vol. i, p. 259; Smith and Cheetham, _Dictionary of
Christian Antiquities_, art. _Arrhæ_. It would appear, however, that the
"bride-sale," of which Tacitus speaks, was not strictly the sale of a
chattel nor of a slave-girl, but the sale of the _mund_ or protectorship
over the girl. It is true the distinction may not always have been clear
to those who took part in the transaction. Similarly the Anglo-Saxon
betrothal was not so much a payment of the bride's price to her kinsmen,
although as a matter of fact, they might make a profit out of the
transaction, as a covenant stipulating for the bride's honorable treatment
as wife and widow. Reminiscences of this, remark Pollock and Maitland (op.
cit., vol. ii, p. 364), may be found in "that curious cabinet of
antiquities, the marriage ritual of the English Church."
[322] Howard, op. cit., vol. i, pp. 278-281, 386. The _Arrha_ crept into
Roman and Byzantine law during the sixth century.
[323] J. Wickham Legg, _Ecclesiological Essays_, p. 189. It may be added
that the idea of the subordination of the wife to the husband appeared in
the Christian Church at a somewhat early period, and no doubt
independently of Germanic influences; St. Augustine said (Sermo XXXVII,
cap. vi) that a good _materfamilias_ must not be ashamed to call herself
her husband's servant (_ancilla_).
[324] See, e.g., L. Gautier, _La Chevalerie_, Ch. IX.
[325] Howard, op. cit., vol. i, pp. 293 et seq.; Esmein, _op. cit._, vol.
i, pp. 25 et seq.; Smith and Cheetham, _Dictionary of Christian
Antiquities_ art. "Contract of Marriage."
[326] Any later changes in Catholic Canon law have merely been in the
direction of making matrimony still narrower and still more remote from
the practice of the world. By a papal decree of 1907, civil marriages and
marriages in non-Catholic places of worship are declared to be not only
sinful and unlawful (which they were before), but actually null and void.
[327] E.S.P. Haynes, _Our Divorce Law_, p. 3.
[328] It was the Council of Trent, in the sixteenth century, which made
ecclesiastical rites essential to binding marriage; but even then
fifty-six prelates voted against that decision.
[329] Esmein, op. cit., vol. i, p. 91.
[330] It is sometimes said that the Catholic Church is able to diminish
the evils of its doctrine of the indissolubility of marriage by the number
of impediments to marriage it admits, thus affording free scope for
dispensations from marriage. This scarcely seems to be the case. Dr. P.J.
Hayes, who speaks with authority as Chancellor of the Catholic Archdiocese
of New York, states ("Impediments to Marriage in the Catholic Church,"
_North American Review_, May, 1905) that even in so modern and so mixed a
community as this there are few applications for dispensations on account
of impediments; there are 15,000 Catholic marriages per annum in New York
City, but scarcely five per annum are questioned as to validity, and these
chiefly on the ground of bigamy.
[331] The Canonists, say Pollock and Maitland (loc. cit.), "made a
capricious mess of the marriage law." "Seldom," says Howard (_op. cit._,
vol i, p. 340), "have mere theory and subtle quibbling had more disastrous
consequences in practical life than in the case of the distinction between
_sponsalia de præsenti_ and _de futuro_."
[332] Howard, op. cit., vol. i, pp. 386 et seq. On the whole, however,
Luther's opinion was that marriage, though a sacred and mysterious thing,
is not a sacrament; his various statements on the matter are brought
together by Strampff, _Luther über die Ehe_, pp. 204-214.
[333] Howard, op. cit., vol. ii, pp. 61 et seq.
[334] Probably as a result of the somewhat confused and incoherent
attitude of the Reformers, the Canon law of marriage, in a modified form,
really persisted in Protestant countries to a greater extent than in
Catholic countries; in France, especially, it has been much more
profoundly modified (Esmein, op. cit., vol. i, p. 33).
[335] The Quaker conception of marriage is still vitally influential.
"Why," says Mrs. Besant (_Marriage_, p. 19), "should not we take a leaf
out of the Quaker's book, and substitute for the present legal forms of
marriage a simple declaration publicly made?"
[336] Howard, op. cit., vol. ii, p. 456. The actual practice in
Pennsylvania appears, however, to differ little from that usual in the
other States.
[337] Howard, op. cit., vol. ii, p. 109. "It is, indeed, wonderful,"
Howard remarks, "that a great nation, priding herself on a love of equity
and social liberty, should thus for five generations tolerate an invidious
indulgence, rather than frankly and courageously to free herself from the
shackles of an ecclesiastical tradition."
[338] "The enforced continuance of an unsuccessful union is perhaps the
most immoral thing which a civilized society ever countenanced, far less
encouraged," says Godfrey (_Science of Sex_, p. 123). "The morality of a
union is dependent upon mutual desire, and a union dictated by any other
cause is outside the moral pale, however custom may sanction it, or
religion and law condone it."
[339] Adultery in most savage and barbarous societies is regarded, in the
words of Westermarck, as "an illegitimate appropriation of the exclusive
claims which the husband has acquired by the purchase of his wife, as an
offence against property;" the seducer is, therefore, punished as a thief,
by fine, mutilation, even death (_Origin of the Moral Ideas_, vol. ii, pp.
447 et seq.; id., _History of Human Marriage_, p. 121). Among some peoples
it is the seducer who alone suffers, and not the wife.
[340] It is sometimes said in defence of the claim for damages for
seducing a wife that women are often weak and unable to resist masculine
advances, so that the law ought to press heavily on the man who takes
advantage of that weakness. This argument seems a little antiquated. The
law is beginning to accept the responsibility even of married women in
other respects, and can scarcely refuse to accept it for the control of
her own person. Moreover, if it is so natural for the woman to yield, it
is scarcely legitimate to punish the man with whom she has performed that
natural act. It must further be said that if a wife's adultery is only an
irresponsible feminine weakness, a most undue brutality is inflicted on
her by publicly demanding her pecuniary price from her lover. If, indeed,
we accept this argument, we ought to reintroduce the mediæval girdle of
chastity.
[341] Howard, op. cit., vol. ii, p. 114.
[342] This rule is, in England, by no means a dead letter. Thus, in 1907,
a wife who had left her home, leaving a letter stating that her husband
was not the father of her child, subsequently brought an action for
divorce, which, as the husband made no defence, she obtained. But, the
King's Proctor having learnt the facts, the decree was rescinded. Then the
husband brought an action for divorce, but could not obtain it, having
already admitted his own adultery by leaving the previous case undefended.
He took the matter up to the Court of Appeal, but his petition was
dismissed, the Court being of opinion that "to grant relief in such a case
was not in the interest of public morality." The safest way in England to
render what is legally termed marriage absolutely indissoluble is for both
parties to commit adultery.
[343] Magnus Hirschfeld, _Zeitschrift für Sexualwissenschaft_, Oct., 1908.
[344] H. Adner, "Die Richterliche Beurteilung der 'Zerrütteten' Ehe,"
_Geschlecht und Gesellschaft_, Bd. ii, Teil 8.
[345] Gross-Hoffinger, _Die Schichsale der Frauen und die Prostitution_,
1847; Bloch presents a full summary of the results of this inquiry in an
_Appendix_ to Ch. X of his _Sexual Life of Our Times_.
[346] Divorce in the United States is fully discussed by Howard, op. cit.,
vol. iii.
[347] H. Münsterberg, _The Americans_, p. 575. Similarly, Dr. Felix Adler,
in a study of "The Ethics of Divorce" (_The Ethical Record_, 1890, p.
200), although not himself an admirer of divorce, believes that the first
cause of the frequency of divorce in the United States is the high
position of women.
[348] In an important article, with illustrative cases, on "The
Neuro-psychical Element in Conjugal Aversion" (_Journal of Nervous and
Mental Diseases_, Sept., 1892) Smith Baker refers to the cases in which "a
man may find himself progressively becoming antipathetic, through
recognition of the comparatively less developed personality of the one to
whom he happens to be married. Marrying, perhaps, before he has learned to
accurately judge of character and its tendencies, he awakens to the fact
that he is honorably bound to live all his physiological life with, not a
real companion, but a mere counterfeit." The cases are still more
numerous, the same writer observes, in which the sexual appetite of the
wife fails to reveal itself except as the result of education and
practice. "This sort of natural-unnatural condition is the source of much
disappointment, and of intense suffering on the part of the woman as well
as of family dissatisfaction." Yet such causes for divorce are far too
complex to be stated in statute-books, and far too intimate to be pleaded
in courts of justice.
[349] Ten years ago, if not still, the United States came fourth in order
of frequency of divorce, after Japan, Denmark, and Switzerland.
[350] Lecky, the historian of European morals, has pointed out (_Democracy
and Liberty_, vol. ii, p. 172) the close connection generally between
facility of divorce and a high standard of sexual morality.
[351] So, e.g., Hobhouse, _Morals in Evolution_, vol. i, p. 237.
[352] In England this step was taken in the reign of Henry VII, when the
forcible marriage of women against their will was forbidden by statute (3
Henry VII, c. 2). Even in the middle of the seventeenth century, however,
the question of forcible marriage had again to be dealt with (_Inderwick_,
Interregnum, pp. 40 et seq.).
[353] Woods Hutchinson (_Contemporary Review_, Sept., 1905) argues that
when there is epilepsy, insanity, moral perversion, habitual drunkenness,
or criminal conduct of any kind, divorce, for the sake of the next
generation, should be not permissive but compulsory. Mere divorce,
however, would not suffice to attain the ends desired.
[354] Similarly in Germany, Wanda von Sacher-Masoch, who had suffered much
from marriage, whatever her own defects of character may have been, writes
at the end of _Meine Lebensbeichte_ that "as long as women have not the
courage to regulate, without State-interference or Church-interference,
relationships which concern themselves alone, they will not be free." In
place of this old decayed system of marriage so opposed to our modern
thoughts and feelings, she would have private contracts made by a lawyer.
In England, at a much earlier period, Charles Kingsley, who was an ardent
friend to women's movements, and whose feeling for womanhood amounted
almost to worship, wrote to J.S. Mill: "There will never be a good world
for women until the last remnant of the Canon law is civilized off the
earth."
[355] "No fouler institution was ever invented," declared Auberon Herbert
many years ago, expressing, before its time, a feeling which has since
become more common; "and its existence drags on, to our deep shame,
because we have not the courage frankly to say that the sexual relations
of husband and wife, or those who live together, concern their own selves,
and do not concern the prying, gloating, self-righteous, and intensely
untruthful world outside."
[356] Hobhouse, op. cit. vol. i, p. 237.
[357] The same conception of marriage as a contract still persists to some
extent also in the United States, whither it was carried by the early
Protestants and Puritans. No definition of marriage is indeed usually laid
down by the States, but, Howard says (op. cit., vol. ii, p. 395), "in
effect matrimony is treated as a relation partaking of the nature of both
status and contract."
[358] This point of view has been vigorously set forth by Paul and Victor
Margueritte, _Quelques Idées_.
[359] I may remark that this was pointed out, and its consequences
vigorously argued, many years ago by C.G. Garrison, "Limits of Divorce,"
_Contemporary Review_, Feb., 1894. "It may safely be asserted," he
concludes, "that marriage presents not one attribute or incident of
anything remotely resembling a contract, either in form, remedy,
procedure, or result; but that in all these aspects, on the contrary, it
is fatally hostile to the principles and practices of that division of the
rights of persons." Marriage is not contract, but conduct.
[360] See, e.g., P. and V. Margueritte, op. cit.
[361] As quoted by Howard, op. cit., vol. ii, p. 29.
[362] Ellen Key similarly (_Ueber Liebe und Ehe_, p. 343) remarks that to
talk of "the duty of life-long fidelity" is much the same as to talk of
"the duty of life-long health." A man may promise, she adds, to do his
best to preserve his life, or his love; he cannot unconditionally
undertake to preserve them.
[363] Hobhouse, op. cit., vol. 1, pp. 159, 237-9; cf. P. and V.
Margueritte, _Quelques Idées_.
[364] "Divorce," as Garrison puts it ("Limits of Divorce," _Contemporary
Review_, Feb., 1894), "is the judicial announcement that conduct once
connubial in character and purpose, has lost these qualities.... Divorce
is a question of fact, and not a license to break a promise."
[365] See, _ante_, p. 425.
[366] It has been necessary to discuss reproduction in the first chapter
of the present volume, and it will again be necessary in the concluding
chapter. Here we are only concerned with procreation as an element of
marriage.
[367] Nietzold, _Die Ehe in Ægypten zur Ptolemäisch-römischen Zeit_, 1903,
p. 3. This bond also accorded rights to any children that might be born
during its existence.
[368] See, e.g., Ellen Key, _Mutter und Kind_, p. 21. The necessity for
the combination of greater freedom of sexual relationships with greater
stringency of parental relationships was clearly realized at an earlier
period by another able woman writer, Miss J.H. Clapperton, in her notable
book, _Scientific Meliorism_, published in 1885. "Legal changes," she
wrote (p. 320), "are required in two directions, viz., towards greater
freedom as to marriage and greater strictness as to parentage. The
marriage union is essentially a private matter with which society has no
call and no right to interfere. Childbirth, on the contrary, is a public
event. It touches the interests of the whole nation."
[369] Ellen Key, _Liebe und Ehe_, p. 168; cf. the same author's _Century
of the Child_.
[370] In Germany alone 180,000 "illegitimate" children are born every
year, and the number is rapidly increasing; in England it is only 40,000
per annum, the strong feeling which often exists against such births in
England (as also in France) leading to the wide adoption of methods for
preventing conception.
[371] "Where are real monogamists to be found?" asked Schopenhauer in his
essay, "Ueber die Weibe." And James Hinton was wont to ask: "What is the
meaning of maintaining monogamy? Is there any chance of getting it, I
should like to know? Do you call English life monogamous?"
[372] "Almost everywhere," says Westermarck of polygyny (which he
discusses fully in Chs. XX-XXII of his _History of Human Marriage_) "it is
confined to the smaller part of the people, the vast majority being
monogamous." Maurice Gregory (_Contemporary Review_, Sept., 1906) gives
statistics showing that nearly everywhere the tendency is towards equality
in number of the sexes.
[373] In a polygamous land a man is of course as much bound by his
obligations to his second wife as to his first. Among ourselves the man's
"second wife" is degraded with the name of "mistress," and the worse he
treats her and her children the more his "morality" is approved, just as
the Catholic Church, when struggling to establish sacerdotal celibacy,
approved more highly the priest who had illegitimate relations with women
than the priest who decently and openly married. If his neglect induces a
married man's mistress to make known her relationship to him the man is
justified in prosecuting her, and his counsel, assured of general
sympathy, will state in court that "this woman has even been so wicked as
to write to the prosecutor's wife!"
[374] Howard, in his judicial _History of Matrimonial Institutions_ (vol.
ii. pp. 96 et seq.), cannot refrain from drawing attention to the almost
insanely wild character of the language used in England not so many years
ago by those who opposed marriage with a deceased wife's sister, and he
contrasts it with the much more reasonable attitude of the Catholic
Church. "Pictures have been drawn," he remarks, "of the moral anarchy such
marriages must produce, which are read by American, Colonial, and
Continental observers with a bewilderment that is not unmixed with
disgust, and are, indeed, a curious illustration of the extreme insularity
of the English mind." So recently as A.D. 1908 a bill was brought into the
British House of Lords proposing that desertion without cause for two
years shall be a ground for divorce, a reasonable and humane measure which
is law in most parts of the civilized world. The Lord Chancellor (Lord
Loreburn), a Liberal, and in the sphere of politics an enlightened and
sagacious leader, declared that such a proposal was "absolutely
impossible." The House rejected the proposal by 61 votes to 2. Even the
marriage decrees of the Council of Trent were not affirmed by such an
overwhelming majority. In matters of marriage legislation England has
scarcely yet emerged from the Middle Ages.
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