Studies in the Psychology of Sex, Volume 6
CHAPTER IX.
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SEXUAL MORALITY.
Prostitution in Relation to Our Marriage System--Marriage and
Morality--The Definition of the Term "Morality"--Theoretical Morality--Its
Division Into Traditional Morality and Ideal Morality--Practical
Morality--Practical Morality Based on Custom--The Only Subject of
Scientific Ethics--The Reaction Between Theoretical and Practical
Morality--Sexual Morality in the Past an Application of Economic
Morality--The Combined Rigidity and Laxity of This Morality--The
Growth of a Specific Sexual Morality and the Evolution of Moral
Ideals--Manifestations of Sexual Morality--Disregard of the Forms of
Marriage--Trial Marriage--Marriage After Conception of Child--Phenomena in
Germany, Anglo-Saxon Countries, Russia, etc.--The Status of Woman--The
Historical Tendency Favoring Moral Equality of Women with Men--The Theory
of the Matriarchate--Mother-Descent--Women in Babylonia--Egypt--Rome--The
Eighteenth and Nineteenth Centuries--The Historical Tendency
Favoring Moral Inequality of Woman--The Ambiguous Influence of
Christianity--Influence of Teutonic Custom and Feudalism--Chivalry--Woman
in England--The Sale of Wives--The Vanishing Subjection of
Woman--Inaptitude of the Modern Man to Domineer--The Growth of Moral
Responsibility in Women--The Concomitant Development of Economic
Independence--The Increase of Women Who Work--Invasion of the Modern
Industrial Field by Women--In How Far This Is Socially Justifiable--The
Sexual Responsibility of Women and Its Consequences--The Alleged Moral
Inferiority of Women--The "Self-Sacrifice" of Women--Society Not Concerned
with Sexual Relationships--Procreation the Sole Sexual Concern of the
State--The Supreme Importance of Maternity.
It has been necessary to deal fully with the phenomena of prostitution
because, however aloof we may personally choose to hold ourselves from
those phenomena, they really bring us to the heart of the sexual question
in so far as it constitutes a social problem. If we look at prostitution
from the outside, as an objective phenomenon, as a question of social
dynamics, it is seen to be not a merely accidental and eliminable incident
of our present marriage system but an integral part of it, without which
it would fall to pieces. This will probably be fairly clear to all who
have followed the preceding exposition of prostitutional phenomena. There
is, however, more than this to be said. Not only is prostitution to-day,
as it has been for more than two thousand years, the buttress of our
marriage system, but if we look at marriage, not from the outside as a
formal institution, but from the inside with relation to the motives that
constitute it, we find that marriage in a large proportion of cases is
itself in certain respects a form of prostitution. This has been
emphasized so often and from so many widely different standpoints that it
may seem hardly necessary to labor the point here. But the point is one of
extreme importance in relation to the question of sexual morality. Our
social conditions are unfavorable to the development of a high moral
feeling in woman. The difference between the woman who sells herself in
prostitution and the woman who sells herself in marriage, according to the
saying of Marro already quoted, "is only a difference in price and
duration of the contract." Or, as Forel puts it, marriage is "a more
fashionable form of prostitution," that is to say, a mode of obtaining, or
disposing of, for monetary considerations, a sexual commodity. Marriage
is, indeed, not merely a more fashionable form of prostitution, it is a
form sanctified by law and religion, and the question of morality is not
allowed to intrude. Morality may be outraged with impunity provided that
law and religion have been invoked. The essential principle of
prostitution is thus legalized and sanctified among us. That is why it is
so difficult to arouse any serious indignation, or to maintain any
reasoned objections, against our prostitution considered by itself. The
most plausible ground is that of those[257] who, bringing marriage down to
the level of prostitution, maintain that the prostitute is a "blackleg"
who is accepting less than the "market rate of wages," i.e., marriage, for
the sexual services she renders. But even this low ground is quite unsafe.
The prostitute is really paid extremely well considering how little she
gives in return; the wife is really paid extremely badly considering how
much she often gives, and how much she necessarily gives up. For the sake
of the advantage of economic dependence on her husband, she must give up,
as Ellen Key observes, those rights over her children, her property, her
work, and her own person which she enjoys as an unmarried woman, even, it
may be added, as a prostitute. The prostitute never signs away the right
over her own person, as the wife is compelled to do; the prostitute,
unlike the wife, retains her freedom and her personal rights, although
these may not often be of much worth. It is the wife rather than the
prostitute who is the "blackleg."
It is by no means only during recent years that our marriage
system has been arraigned before the bar of morals. Forty years
ago James Hinton exhausted the vocabulary of denunciation in
describing the immorality and selfish licentiousness which our
marriage system covers with the cloak of legality and sanctity.
"There is an unsoundness in our marriage relations," Hinton
wrote. "Not only practically are they dreadful, but they do not
answer to feelings and convictions far too widespread to be
wisely ignored. Take the case of women of marked eminence
consenting to be a married man's mistress; of pure and simple
girls saying they cannot see why they should have a marriage by
law; of a lady saying that if she were in love she would not have
any legal tie; of its being necessary--or thought so by good and
wise men--to keep one sex in bitter and often fatal ignorance.
These things (and how many more) show some deep unsoundness in
the marriage relations. This must be probed and searched to the
bottom."
At an earlier date, in 1847, Gross-Hoffinger, in his _Die
Schicksale der Frauen und die Prostitution_--a remarkable book
which Bloch, with little exaggeration, describes as possessing an
epoch-marking significance--vigorously showed that the problem of
prostitution is in reality the problem of marriage, and that we
can only reform away prostitution by reforming marriage, regarded
as a compulsory institution resting on an antiquated economic
basis. Gross-Hoffinger was a pioneering precursor of Ellen Key.
More than a century and a half earlier a man of very different
type scathingly analyzed the morality of his time, with a brutal
frankness, indeed, that seemed to his contemporaries a
revoltingly cynical attitude towards their sacred institutions,
and they felt that nothing was left to them save to burn his
books. Describing modern marriage in his _Fable of the Bees_
(1714, p. 64), and what that marriage might legally cover,
Mandeville wrote: "The fine gentleman I spoke of need not
practice any greater self-denial than the savage, and the latter
acted more according to the laws of nature and sincerity than the
first. The man that gratifies his appetite after the manner the
custom of the country allows of, has no censure to fear. If he
is hotter than goats or bulls, as soon as the ceremony is over,
let him sate and fatigue himself with joy and ecstasies of
pleasure, raise and indulge his appetite by turns, as
extravagantly as his strength and manhood will give him leave. He
may, with safety, laugh at the wise men that should reprove him:
all the women and above nine in ten of the men are of his side;
nay, he has the liberty of valuing himself upon the fury of his
unbridled passions, and the more he wallows in lust and strains
every faculty to be abandonedly voluptuous, the sooner he shall
have the good-will and gain the affection of the women, not the
young, vain, and lascivious only, but the prudent, grave, and
most sober matrons."
Thus the charge brought against our marriage system from the
point of view of morality is that it subordinates the sexual
relationship to considerations of money and of lust. That is
precisely the essence of prostitution.
The only legitimately moral end of marriage--whether we regard it from the
wider biological standpoint or from the narrower standpoint of human
society--is as a sexual selection, effected in accordance with the laws of
sexual selection, and having as its direct object a united life of
complete mutual love and as its indirect object the procreation of the
race. Unless procreation forms part of the object of marriage, society has
nothing whatever to do with it and has no right to make its voice heard.
But if procreation is one of the ends of marriage, then it is imperative
from the biological and social points of view that no influences outside
the proper natural influence of sexual selection should be permitted to
affect the choice of conjugal partners, for in so far as wholesome sexual
selection is interfered with the offspring is likely to be injured and the
interests of the race affected.
It must, of course, be clearly understood that the idea of
marriage as a form of sexual union based not on biological but on
economic considerations, is very ancient, and is sometimes found
in societies that are almost primitive. Whenever, however,
marriage on a purely property basis, and without due regard to
sexual selection, has occurred among comparatively primitive and
vigorous peoples, it has been largely deprived of its evil
results by the recognition of its merely economic character, and
by the absence of any desire to suppress, even nominally, other
sexual relationships on a more natural basis which were outside
this artificial form of marriage. Polygamy especially tended to
conciliate unions on an economic basis with unions on a natural
sexual basis. Our modern marriage system has, however, acquired
an artificial rigidity which excludes the possibility of this
natural safeguard and compensation. Whatever its real moral
content may be, a modern marriage is always "legal" and "sacred."
We are indeed so accustomed to economic forms of marriage that,
as Sidgwick truly observed (_Method of Ethics_, Bk. ii, Ch. XI),
when they are spoken of as "legalized prostitution" it constantly
happens that "the phrase is felt to be extravagant and
paradoxical."
A man who marries for money or for ambition is departing from the
biological and moral ends of marriage. A woman who sells herself for life
is morally on the same level as one who sells herself for a night. The
fact that the payment seems larger, that in return for rendering certain
domestic services and certain personal complacencies--services and
complacencies in which she may be quite inexpert--she will secure an
almshouse in which she will be fed and clothed and sheltered for life
makes no difference in the moral aspect of her case. The moral
responsibility is, it need scarcely be said, at least as much the man's as
the woman's. It is largely due to the ignorance and even the indifference
of men, who often know little or nothing of the nature of women and the
art of love. The unintelligence with which even men who might, one thinks,
be not without experience, select as a mate, a woman who, however fine and
charming she may be, possesses none of the qualities which her wooer
really craves, is a perpetual marvel. To refrain from testing and proving
the temper and quality of the woman he desires for a mate is no doubt an
amiable trait of humility on a man's part. But it is certain that a man
should never be content with less than the best of what a woman's soul and
body have to give, however unworthy he may feel himself of such a
possession. This demand, it must be remarked, is in the highest interests
of the woman herself. A woman can offer to a man what is a part at all
events of the secret of the universe. The woman degrades herself who sinks
to the level of a candidate for an asylum for the destitute.
Our discussion of the psychic facts of sex has thus, it will be seen,
brought us up to the question of morality. Over and over again, in
setting forth the phenomena of prostitution, it has been necessary to use
the word "moral." That word, however, is vague and even, it may be,
misleading because it has several senses. So far, it has been left to the
intelligent reader, as he will not fail to perceive, to decide from the
context in what sense the word was used. But at the present point, before
we proceed to discuss sexual psychology in relation to marriage, it is
necessary, in order to avoid ambiguity, to remind the reader what
precisely are the chief main senses in which the word "morality" is
commonly used.
The morality with which ethical treatises are concerned is _theoretical
morality_. It is concerned with what people "ought"--or what is "right"
for them--to do. Socrates in the Platonic dialogues was concerned with
such theoretical morality: what "ought" people to seek in their actions?
The great bulk of ethical literature, until recent times one may say the
whole of it, is concerned with that question. Such theoretical morality
is, as Sidgwick said, a study rather than a science, for science can only
be based on what is, not on what ought to be.
Even within the sphere of theoretical morality there are two very
different kinds of morality, so different indeed that sometimes each
regards the other as even inimical or at best only by courtesy, with yet a
shade of contempt, "moral." These two kinds of theoretical morality are
_traditional morality_ and _ideal morality_. Traditional morality is
founded on the long established practices of a community and possesses the
stability of all theoretical ideas based in the past social life and
surrounding every individual born into the community from his earliest
years. It becomes the voice of conscience which speaks automatically in
favor of all the rules that are thus firmly fixed, even when the
individual himself no longer accepts them. Many persons, for example, who
were brought up in childhood to the Puritanical observance of Sunday, will
recall how, long after they had ceased to believe that such observances
were "right," they yet in the violation of them heard the protest of the
automatically aroused voice of "conscience," that is to say the expression
within the individual of customary rules which have indeed now ceased to
be his own but were those of the community in which he was brought up.
Ideal morality, on the other hand, refers not to the past of the community
but to its future. It is based not on the old social actions that are
becoming antiquated, and perhaps even anti-social in their tendency, but
on new social actions that are as yet only practiced by a small though
growing minority of the community. Nietzsche in modern times has been a
conspicuous champion of ideal morality, the heroic morality of the
pioneer, of the individual of the coming community, against traditional
morality, or, as he called it, herd-morality, the morality of the crowd.
These two moralities are necessarily opposed to each other, but, we have
to remember, they are both equally sound and equally indispensable, not
only to those who accept them but to the community which they both
contribute to hold in vital theoretical balance. We have seen them both,
for instance, applied to the question of prostitution; traditional
morality defends prostitution, not for its own sake, but for the sake of
the marriage system which it regards as sufficiently precious to be worth
a sacrifice, while ideal morality refuses to accept the necessity of
prostitution, and looks forward to progressive changes in the marriage
system which will modify and diminish prostitution.
But altogether outside theoretical morality, or the question of what
people "ought" to do, there remains _practical morality_, or the question
of what, as a matter of fact, people actually do. This is the really
fundamental and essential morality. Latin _mores_ and Greek aethos both
refer to _custom_, to the things that are, and not to the things that
"ought" to be, except in the indirect and secondary sense that whatever
the members of the community, in the mass, actually do, is the thing that
they feel they ought to do. In the first place, however, a moral act was
not done because it was felt that it ought to be done, but for reasons of
a much deeper and more instinctive character.[258] It was not first done
because it was felt it ought to be done, but it was felt it "ought" to be
done because it had actually become the custom to do it.
The actions of a community are determined by the vital needs of a
community under the special circumstances of its culture, time, and land.
When it is the general custom for children to kill their aged parents that
custom is always found to be the best not only for the community but even
for the old people themselves, who desire it; the action is both
practically moral and theoretically moral.[259] And when, as among
ourselves, the aged are kept alive, that action is also both practically
and theoretically moral; it is in no wise dependent on any law or rule
opposed to the taking of life, for we glory in the taking of life under
the patriotic name of "war," and are fairly indifferent to it when
involved by the demands of our industrial system; but the killing of the
aged no longer subserves any social need and their preservation ministers
to our civilized emotional needs. The killing of a man is indeed
notoriously an act which differs widely in its moral value at different
periods and in different countries. It was quite moral in England two
centuries ago and less, to kill a man for trifling offences against
property, for such punishment commended itself as desirable to the general
sense of the educated community. To-day it would be regarded as highly
immoral. We are even yet only beginning to doubt the morality of
condemning to death and imprisoning for life an unmarried girl who
destroyed her infant at birth, solely actuated, against all her natural
impulses, by the primitive instinct of self-defense. It cannot be said
that we have yet begun to doubt the morality of killing men in war, though
we no longer approve of killing women and children, or even non-combatants
generally. Every age or land has its own morality.
"Custom, in the strict sense of the word," well says Westermarck,
"involves a moral rule.... Society is the school in which men learn to
distinguish between right and wrong. The headmaster is custom."[260]
Custom is not only the basis of morality but also of law. "Custom is
law."[261] The field of theoretical morality has been found so fascinating
a playground for clever philosophers that there has sometimes been a
danger of forgetting that, after all, it is not theoretical morality but
practical morality, the question of what men in the mass of a community
actually do, which constitutes the real stuff of morals.[262] If we define
more precisely what we mean by morals, on the practical side, we may say
that it is constituted by those customs which the great majority of the
members of a community regard as conducive to the welfare of the community
at some particular time and place. It is for this reason--i.e., because it
is a question of what is and not of merely what some think ought to
be--that practical morals form the proper subject of science. "If the word
'ethics' is to be used as the name for a science," Westermarck says, "the
object of that science can only be to study the moral consciousness as a
fact."[263]
Lecky's _History of European Morals_ is a study in practical
rather than in theoretical morals. Dr. Westermarck's great work,
_The Origin and Development of the Moral Ideas_, is a more modern
example of the objectively scientific discussion of morals,
although this is not perhaps clearly brought out by the title. It
is essentially a description of the actual historical facts of
what has been, and not of what "ought" to be. Mr. L.T. Hobhouse's
_Morals in Evolution_, published almost at the same time, is
similarly a work which, while professedly dealing with ideas,
i.e., with rules and regulations, and indeed disclaiming the task
of being "the history of conduct," yet limits itself to those
rules which are "in fact, the normal conduct of the average man"
(vol. i, p. 26). In other words, it is essentially a history of
practical morality, and not of theoretical morality. One of the
most subtle and suggestive of living thinkers, M. Jules de
Gaultier, in several of his books, and notably in _La Dépendance
de la Morale et l'Indépendance des Moeurs_ (1907), has analyzed
the conception of morals in a somewhat similar sense. "Phenomena
relative to conduct," as he puts it (op. cit., p. 58), "are given
in experience like other phenomena, so that morality, or the
totality of the laws which at any given moment of historic
evolution are applied to human practice, is dependent on
customs." I may also refer to the masterly exposition of this
aspect of morality in Lévy-Bruhl's _La Morale et la Science des
Moeurs_ (there is an English translation).
Practical morality is thus the solid natural fact which forms the
biological basis of theoretical morality, whether traditional or ideal.
The excessive fear, so widespread among us, lest we should injure morality
is misplaced. We cannot hurt morals though we can hurt ourselves. Morals
is based on nature and can at the most only be modified. As Crawley
rightly insists,[264] even the categorical imperatives of our moral
traditions, so far from being, as is often popularly supposed, attempts to
suppress Nature, arise in the desire to assist Nature; they are simply an
attempt at the rigid formulation of natural impulses. The evil of them
only lies in the fact that, like all things that become rigid and dead,
they tend to persist beyond the period when they were a beneficial vital
reaction to the environment. They thus provoke new forms of ideal
morality; and practical morals develops new structures, in accordance with
new vital relationships, to replace older and desiccated traditions.
There is clearly an intimate relationship between theoretical morals and
practical morals or morality proper. For not only is theoretical morality
the outcome in consciousness of realized practices embodied in the
general life of the community, but, having thus become conscious, it
reacts on those practices and tends to support them or, by its own
spontaneous growth, to modify them. This action is diverse, according as
we are dealing with one or the other of the strongly marked divisions of
theoretical morality: traditional and posterior morality, retarding the
vital growth of moral practice, or ideal and anterior morality,
stimulating the vital growth of moral practice. Practical morality, or
morals proper, may be said to stand between these two divisions of
theoretical morality. Practice is perpetually following after anterior
theoretical morality, in so far of course as ideal morality really is
anterior and not, as so often happens, astray up a blind alley. Posterior
or traditional morality always follows after practice. The result is that
while the actual morality, in practice at any time or place, is always
closely related to theoretical morality, it can never exactly correspond
to either of its forms. It always fails to catch up with ideal morality;
it is always outgrowing traditional morality.
It has been necessary at this point to formulate definitely the three
chief forms in which the word "moral" is used, although under one shape or
another they cannot but be familiar to the reader. In the discussion of
prostitution it has indeed been easily possible to follow the usual custom
of allowing the special sense in which the word was used to be determined
by the context. But now, when we are, for the moment, directly concerned
with the specific question of the evolution of sexual morality, it is
necessary to be more precise in formulating the terms we use. In this
chapter, except when it is otherwise stated, we are concerned primarily
with morals proper, with actual conduct as it develops among the masses of
a community, and only secondarily with anterior morality or with posterior
morality.
Sexual morality, like all other kinds of morality, is necessarily
constituted by inherited traditions modified by new adaptations to the
changing social environment. If the influence of tradition becomes unduly
pronounced the moral life tends to decay and lose its vital adaptability.
If adaptability becomes too facile the moral life tends to become unstable
and to lose authority. It is only by a reasonable synthesis of structure
and function--of what is called the traditional with what is called the
ideal--that the moral life can retain its authority without losing its
reality. Many, even among those who call themselves moralists, have found
this hard to understand. In a vain desire for an impossible logicality
they have over-emphasized either the ideal influence on practical morals
or, still more frequently, the traditional influence, which has appealed
to them because of the impressive authority its _dicta_ seem to convey.
The results in the sphere we are here concerned with have often been
unfortunate, for no social impulse is so rebellious to decayed traditions,
so volcanically eruptive, as that of sex.
We are accustomed to identify our present marriage system with "morality"
in the abstract, and for many people, perhaps for most, it is difficult to
realize that the slow and insensible movement which is always affecting
social life at the present time, as at every other time, is profoundly
affecting our sexual morality. A transference of values is constantly
taking place; what was once the very standard of morality becomes immoral,
what was once without question immoral becomes a new standard. Such a
process is almost as bewildering as for the European world two thousand
years ago was the great struggle between the Roman city and the Christian
Church, when it became necessary to realize that what Marcus Aurelius, the
great pattern of morality, had sought to crush as without question
immoral,[265] was becoming regarded as the supreme standard of morality.
The classic world considered love and pity and self-sacrifice as little
better than weakness and sometimes worse; the Christian world not only
regarded them as moralities but incarnated them in a god. Our sexual
morality has likewise disregarded natural human emotions, and is incapable
of understanding those who declare that to retain unduly traditional laws
that are opposed to the vital needs of human societies is not a morality
but an immorality.
The reason why the gradual evolution of moral ideals, which is always
taking place, tends in the sexual sphere, at all events among ourselves,
to reach a stage in which there seems to be an opposition between
different standards lies in the fact that as yet we really have no
specific sexual morality at all.[266] That may seem surprising at first to
one who reflects on the immense weight which is usually attached to
"sexual morality." And it is undoubtedly true that we have a morality
which we apply to the sphere of sex. But that morality is one which
belongs mainly to the sphere of property and was very largely developed on
a property basis. All the historians of morals in general, and of marriage
in particular, have set forth this fact, and illustrated it with a wealth
of historical material. We have as yet no generally recognized sexual
morality which has been based on the specific sexual facts of life. That
becomes clear at once when we realize the central fact that the sexual
relationship is based on love, at the very least on sexual desire, and
that that basis is so deep as to be even physiological, for in the absence
of such sexual desire it is physiologically impossible for a man to effect
intercourse with a woman. Any specific sexual morality must be based on
that fact. But our so-called "sexual morality," so far from being based on
that fact, attempts to ignore it altogether. It makes contracts, it
arranges sexual relationships beforehand, it offers to guarantee
permanency of sexual inclinations. It introduces, that is, considerations
of a kind that is perfectly sound in the economic sphere to which such
considerations rightly belong, but ridiculously incongruous in the sphere
of sex to which they have solemnly been applied. The economic
relationships of life, in the large sense, are, as we shall see, extremely
important in the evolution of any sound sexual morality, but they belong
to the conditions of its development and do not constitute its basis.[267]
The fact that, from the legal point of view, marriage is
primarily an arrangement for securing the rights of property and
inheritance is well illustrated by the English divorce law
to-day. According to this law, if a woman has sexual intercourse
with any man beside her husband, he is entitled to divorce her;
if, however, the husband has intercourse with another woman
beside his wife, she is not entitled to a divorce; that is only
accorded if, in addition, he has also been cruel to her, or
deserted her, and from any standpoint of ideal morality such a
law is obviously unjust, and it has now been discarded in nearly
all civilized lands except England.
But from the standpoint of property and inheritance it is quite
intelligible, and on that ground it is still supported by the
majority of Englishmen. If the wife has intercourse with other
men there is a risk that the husband's property will be inherited
by a child who is not his own. But the sexual intercourse of the
husband with other women is followed by no such risk. The
infidelity of the wife is a serious offence against property; the
infidelity of the husband is no offence against property, and
cannot possibly, therefore, be regarded as a ground for divorce
from our legal point of view. The fact that his adultery
complicated by cruelty is such a ground, is simply a concession
to modern feeling. Yet, as Helena Stöcker truly points out
("Verschiedenheit im Liebesleben des Weibes und des Mannes,"
_Zeitschrift für Sexualwissenschaft_, Dec., 1908), a married man
who has an unacknowledged child with a woman outside of marriage,
has committed an act as seriously anti-social as a married woman
who has a child without acknowledging that the father is not her
husband. In the first case, the husband, and in the second case,
the wife, have placed an undue amount of responsibility on
another person. (The same point is brought forward by the author
of _The Question of English Divorce_, p. 56.)
I insist here on the economic element in our sexual morality,
because that is the element which has given it a kind of
stability and become established in law. But if we take a wider
view of our sexual morality, we cannot ignore the ancient element
of asceticism, which has given religious passion and sanction to
it. Our sexual morality is thus, in reality, a bastard born of
the union of property-morality with primitive ascetic morality,
neither in true relationship to the vital facts of the sexual
life. It is, indeed, the property element which, with a few
inconsistencies, has become finally the main concern of our law,
but the ascetic element (with, in the past, a wavering
relationship to law) has had an important part in moulding
popular sentiment and in creating an attitude of reprobation
towards sexual intercourse _per se_, although such intercourse is
regarded as an essential part of the property-based and
religiously sanctified institution of legal marriage.
The glorification of virginity led by imperceptible stages to the
formulation of "fornication" as a deadly sin, and finally as an
actual secular "crime." It is sometimes stated that it was not
until the Council of Trent that the Church formally anathematized
those who held that the state of marriage was higher than that of
virginity, but the opinion had been more or less formally held
from almost the earliest ages of Christianity, and is clear in
the epistles of Paul. All the theologians agree that fornication
is a mortal sin. Caramuel, indeed, the distinguished Spanish
theologian, who made unusual concessions to the demands of reason
and nature, held that fornication is only evil because it is
forbidden, but Innocent XI formally condemned that proposition.
Fornication as a mortal sin became gradually secularized into
fornication as a crime. Fornication was a crime in France even as
late as the eighteenth century, as Tarde found in his historical
investigations of criminal procedure in Périgord; adultery was
also a crime and severely punished quite independently of any
complaint from either of the parties (Tarde, "Archéologie
Criminelle en Périgord," _Archives de l'Anthropologie
Criminelle_, Nov. 15, 1898).
The Puritans of the Commonwealth days in England (like the
Puritans of Geneva) followed the Catholic example and adopted
ecclesiastical offences against chastity into the secular law. By
an Act passed in 1653 fornication became punishable by three
months' imprisonment inflicted on both parties. By the same Act
the adultery of a wife (nothing is said of a husband) was made
felony, both for her and her partner in guilt, and therefore
punishable by death (Scobell, _Acts and Ordinances_, p. 121).
The action of a pseudo-morality, such as our sexual morality has been, is
double-edged. On the one side it induces a secret and shamefaced laxity,
on the other it upholds a rigid and uninspiring theoretical code which so
few can consistently follow that theoretical morality is thereby degraded
into a more or less empty form. "The human race would gain much," said the
wise Sénancour, "if virtue were made less laborious. The merit would not
be so great, but what is the use of an elevation which can rarely be
sustained?"[268] At present, as a more recent moralist, Ellen Key, puts
it, we only have an immorality which favors vice and makes virtue
irrealizable, and, as she exclaims with pardonable extravagance, to preach
a sounder morality to the young, without at the same time condemning the
society which encourages the prevailing immorality, is "worse than folly,
it is crime."
It is on the lines along which Sénancour a century ago and Ellen Key
to-day are great pioneers that the new forms of anterior or ideal
theoretical morality are now moving, in advance, according to the general
tendency in morals, of traditional morality and even of practice.
There is one great modern movement of a definite kind which will serve to
show how clearly sexual morality is to-day moving towards a new
standpoint. This is the changing attitude of the bulk of the community
towards both State marriage and religious marriage, and the growing
tendency to disallow State interference with sexual relationships, apart
from the production of children.
There has no doubt always been a tendency among the masses of the
population in Europe to dispense with the official sanction of sexual
relationships until such relationships have been well established and the
hope of offspring has become justifiable. This tendency has been
crystallized into recognized customs among numberless rural communities
little touched either by the disturbing influences of the outside world or
the controlling influences of theological Christian conceptions. But at
the present day this tendency is not confined to the more primitive and
isolated communities of Europe among whom, on the contrary, it has tended
to die out. It is an unquestionable fact, says Professor Bruno Meyer, that
far more than the half of sexual intercourse now takes place outside legal
marriage.[269] It is among the intelligent classes and in prosperous and
progressive communities that this movement is chiefly marked. We see
throughout the world the practical common sense of the people shaping
itself in the direction which has been pioneered by the ideal moralists
who invariably precede the new growth of practical morality.
The voluntary childless marriages of to-day have served to show the
possibility of such unions outside legal marriage, and such free unions
are becoming, as Mrs. Parsons points out, "a progressive substitute for
marriage."[270] The gradual but steady rise in the age for entering on
legal marriage also points in the same direction, though it indicates not
merely an increase of free unions but an increase of all forms of normal
and abnormal sexuality outside marriage. Thus in England and Wales, in
1906, only 43 per 1,000 husbands and 146 per 1,000 wives were under age,
while the average age for husbands was 28.6 years and for wives 26.4
years. For men the age has gone up some eight months during the past forty
years, for women more than this. In the large cities, like London, where
the possibilities of extra-matrimonial relationships are greater, the age
for legal marriage is higher than in the country.
If we are to regard the age of legal marriage as, on the whole,
the age at which the population enters into sexual unions, it is
undoubtedly too late. Beyer, a leading German neurologist, finds
that there are evils alike in early and in late marriage, and
comes to the conclusion that in temperate zones the best age for
women to marry is the twenty-first year, and for men the
twenty-fifth year.
Yet, under bad economic conditions and with a rigid marriage law,
early marriages are in every respect disastrous. They are among
the poor a sign of destitution. The very poorest marry first, and
they do so through the feeling that their condition cannot be
worse. (Dr. Michael Ryan brought together much interesting
evidence concerning the causes of early marriage in Ireland in
his _Philosophy of Marriage_, 1837, pp. 58-72). Among the poor,
therefore, early marriage is always a misfortune. "Many good
people," says Mr. Thomas Holmes, Secretary of the Howard
Association and missionary at police courts (in an interview,
_Daily Chronicle_, Sept. 8, 1906), "advise boys and girls to get
married in order to prevent what they call a 'disgrace.' This I
consider to be absolutely wicked, and it leads to far greater
evils than it can possibly avert."
Early marriages are one of the commonest causes both of
prostitution and divorce. They lead to prostitution in
innumerable cases, even when no outward separation takes place.
The fact that they lead to divorce is shown by the significant
circumstance that in England, although only 146 per 1,000 women
are under twenty-one at marriage, of the wives concerned in
divorce cases, 280 per 1,000 were under twenty-one at marriage,
and this discrepancy is even greater than it appears, for in the
well-to-do class, which can alone afford the luxury of divorce,
the normal age at marriage is much higher than for the population
generally. Inexperience, as was long ago pointed out by Milton
(who had learnt this lesson to his cost), leads to shipwreck in
marriage. "They who have lived most loosely," he wrote, "prove
most successful in their matches, because their wild affections,
unsettling at will, have been so many divorces to teach them
experience."
Miss Clapperton, referring to the educated classes, advocates
very early marriage, even during student life, which might then
be to some extent carried on side by side (_Scientific
Meliorism_, Ch. XVII). Ellen Key, also, advocates early marriage.
But she wisely adds that it involves the necessity for easy
divorce. That, indeed, is the only condition which can render
early marriage generally desirable. Young people--unless they
possess very simple and inert natures--can neither foretell the
course of their own development and their own strongest needs,
nor estimate accurately the nature and quality of another
personality. A marriage formed at an early age very speedily
ceases to be a marriage in anything but name. Sometimes a young
girl applies for a separation from her husband even on the very
day after marriage.
The more or less permanent free unions formed among us in Europe are
usually to be regarded merely as trial-marriages. That is to say they are
a precaution rendered desirable both by uncertainty as to either the
harmony or the fruitfulness of union until actual experiment has been
made, and by the practical impossibility of otherwise rectifying any
mistake in consequence of the antiquated rigidity of most European divorce
laws. Such trial marriages are therefore demanded by prudence and caution,
and as foresight increases with the development of civilization, and
constantly grows among us, we may expect that there will be a parallel
development in the frequency of trial marriage and in the social attitude
towards such unions. The only alternative--that a radical reform in
European marriage laws should render the divorce of a legal marriage as
economical and as convenient as the divorce of a free marriage--cannot yet
be expected, for law always lags behind public opinion and public
practice.
If, however, we take a wider historical view, we find that we are in
presence of a phenomenon which, though favored by modern conditions, is
very ancient and widespread, dating, so far as Europe is concerned, from
the time when the Church first sought to impose ecclesiastical marriage,
so that it is practically a continuation of the ancient European custom of
private marriage.
Trial-marriages pass by imperceptible gradations into the group
of courtship customs which, while allowing the young couple to
spend the night together, in a position of more or less intimacy,
exclude, as a rule, actual sexual intercourse. Night-courtship
flourishes in stable and well-knit European communities not
liable to disorganization by contact with strangers. It seems to
be specially common in Teutonic and Celtic lands, and is known by
various names, as _Probenächte, fensterln, Kiltgang,
hand-fasting, bundling, sitting-up, courting on the bed, etc_. It
is well known in Wales; it is found in various English counties
as in Cheshire; it existed in eighteenth century Ireland
(according to Richard Twiss's _Travels_); in New England it was
known as _tarrying_; in Holland it is called _questing_. In
Norway, where it is called _night-running_, on account of the
long distance between the homesteads, I am told that it is
generally practiced, though the clergy preach against it; the
young girl puts on several extra skirts and goes to bed, and the
young man enters by door or window and goes to bed with her; they
talk all night, and are not bound to marry unless it should
happen that the girl becomes pregnant.
Rhys and Brynmor-Jones (_Welsh People_, pp. 582-4) have an
interesting passage on this night-courtship with numerous
references. As regards Germany see, e.g., Rudeck, _Geschichte der
öffentlichen Sittlichkeit_, pp. 146-154. With reference to
trial-marriage generally many facts and references are given by
M.A. Potter (_Sohrab and Rustem_, pp. 129-137).
The custom of free marriage unions, usually rendered legal before
or after the birth of children, seems to be fairly common in
many, or perhaps all, rural parts of England. The union is made
legal, if found satisfactory, even when there is no prospect of
children. In some counties it is said to be almost a universal
practice for the women to have sexual relationships before legal
marriage; sometimes she marries the first man whom she tries;
sometimes she tries several before finding the man who suits her.
Such marriages necessarily, on the whole, turn out better than
marriages in which the woman, knowing nothing of what awaits her
and having no other experiences for comparison, is liable to be
disillusioned or to feel that she "might have done better." Even
when legal recognition is not sought until after the birth of
children, it by no means follows that any moral deterioration is
involved. Thus in some parts of Staffordshire where it is the
custom of the women to have a child before marriage,
notwithstanding this "corruption," we are told (Burton, _City of
the Saints_, Appendix IV), the women are "very good neighbors,
excellent, hard-working, and affectionate wives and mothers."
"The lower social classes, especially peasants," remarks Dr.
Ehrhard ("Auch Ein Wort zur Ehereform," _Geschlecht und
Gesellschaft_, Jahrgang I, Heft 10), "know better than we that
the marriage bed is the foundation of marriage. On that account
they have retained the primitive custom of trial-marriage which,
in the Middle Ages, was still practiced even in the best circles.
It has the further advantage that the marriage is not concluded
until it has shown itself to be fruitful. Trial-marriage assumes,
of course, that virginity is not valued beyond its true worth."
With regard to this point it may be mentioned that in many parts
of the world a woman is more highly esteemed if she has had
intercourse before marriage (see, e.g., Potter, op. cit., pp. 163
et seq.). While virginity is one of the sexual attractions a
woman may possess, an attraction that is based on a natural
instinct (see "The Evolution of Modesty," in vol. i of these
_Studies_), yet an exaggerated attention to virginity can only be
regarded as a sexual perversion, allied to _paidophilia_, the
sexual attraction to children.
In very small coördinated communities the primitive custom of
trial-marriage tends to decay when there is a great invasion of
strangers who have not been brought up to the custom (which seems
to them indistinguishable from the license of prostitution), and
who fail to undertake the obligations which trial-marriage
involves. This is what happened in the case of the so-called
"island custom" of Portland, which lasted well on into the
nineteenth century; according to this custom a woman before
marriage lived with her lover until pregnant and then married
him; she was always strictly faithful to him while living with
him, but if no pregnancy occurred the couple might decide that
they were not meant for each other, and break off relations. The
result was that for a long period of years no illegitimate
children were born, and few marriages were childless. But when
the Portland stone trade was developed, the workmen imported from
London took advantage of the "island custom," but refused to
fulfil the obligation of marriage when pregnancy occurred. The
custom consequently fell into disuse (see, e.g., translator's
note to Bloch's _Sexual Life of Our Time_, p. 237, and the
quotation there given from Hutchins, _History and Antiquities of
Dorset_, vol. ii, p. 820).
It is, however, by no means only in rural districts, but in great
cities also that marriages are at the outset free unions. Thus in
Paris Després stated more than thirty years ago (_La Prostitution
à Paris_, p. 137) that in an average arrondissement nine out of
ten legal marriages are the consolidation of a free union;
though, while that was an average, in a few arrondissements it
was only three out of ten. Much the same conditions prevail in
Paris to-day; at least half the marriages, it is stated, are of
this kind.
In Teutonic lands the custom of free unions is very ancient and
well-established. Thus in Sweden, Ellen Key states (_Liebe und
Ehe_, p. 123), the majority of the population begin married life
in this way. The arrangement is found to be beneficial, and
"marital fidelity is as great as pre-marital freedom is
unbounded." In Denmark, also, a large number of children are
conceived before the unions of the parents are legalized (Rubin
and Westergaard, quoted by Gaedeken, _Archives d'Anthropologie
Criminelle_, Feb. 15, 1909).
In Germany not only is the proportion of illegitimate births very
high, since in Berlin it is 17 per cent., and in some towns very
much higher, but ante-nuptial conceptions take place in nearly
half the marriages, and sometimes in the majority. Thus in Berlin
more than 40 per cent, of all legitimate firstborn children are
conceived before marriage, while in some rural provinces (where
the proportion of illegitimate births is lower) the percentage of
marriages following ante-nuptial conceptions is much higher than
in Berlin. The conditions in rural Germany have been especially
investigated by a committee of Lutheran pastors, and were set
forth a few years ago in two volumes, _Die Geschlecht-sittlich
Verhältnisse im Deutschen Reiche_, which are full of instruction
concerning German sexual morality. In Hanover, it is said in this
work, the majority of authorities state that intercourse before
marriage is the rule. At the very least, a _probe_, or trial, is
regarded as a matter-of-course preliminary to a marriage, since
no one wishes "to buy a pig in a poke." In Saxony, likewise, we
are told, it is seldom that a girl fails to have intercourse
before marriage, or that her first child is not born, or at all
events conceived, outside marriage. This is justified as a proper
proving of a bride before taking her for good. "One does not buy
even a penny pipe without trying it," a German pastor was
informed. Around Stettin, in twelve districts (nearly half the
whole), sexual intercourse before marriage is a recognized
custom, and in the remainder, if not exactly a custom, it is very
common, and is not severely or even at all condemned by public
opinion. In some districts marriage immediately follows
pregnancy. In the Dantzig neighborhood, again, according to the
Lutheran Committee, intercourse before marriage occurs in more
than half the cases, but marriage by no means always follows
pregnancy. Nearly all the girls who go as servants have lovers,
and country people in engaging servants sometimes tell them that
at evening and night they may do as they like. This state of
things is found to be favorable to conjugal fidelity. The German
peasant girl, as another authority remarks (E.H. Meyer, _Deutsche
Volkskunde_, 1898, pp. 154, 164), has her own room; she may
receive her lover; it is no great shame if she gives herself to
him. The number of women who enter legal marriage still virgins
is not large (this refers more especially to Baden), but public
opinion protects them, and such opinion is unfavorable to the
disregard of the responsibilities involved by sexual
relationships. The German woman is less chaste before marriage
than her French or Italian sister. But, Meyer adds, she is
probably more faithful after marriage than they are.
It is assumed by many that this state of German morality as it
exists to-day is a new phenomenon, and the sign of a rapid
national degeneration. That is by no means the case. In this
connection we may accept the evidence of Catholic priests, who,
by the experience of the confessional, are enabled to speak with
authority. An old Bavarian priest thus writes (_Geschlecht und
Gesellschaft_, 1907, Bd. ii, Heft I): "At Moral Congresses we
hear laudation of 'the good old times' when, faith and morality
prevailed among the people. Whether that is correct is another
question. As a young priest I heard of as many and as serious
sins as I now hear of as an old man. The morality of the people
is not greater nor is it less. The error is the belief that
immorality goes out of the towns and poisons the country. People
talk as though the country were a pure Paradise of innocence. I
will by no means call our country people immoral, but from an
experience of many years I can say that in sexual respects there
is no difference between town and country. I have learnt to know
more than a hundred different parishes, and in the most various
localities, in the mountain and in the plain, on poor land and on
rich land. But everywhere I find the same morals and lack of
morals. There are everywhere the same men, though in the country
there are often better Christians than in the towns."
If, however, we go much farther back than the memories of a
living man it seems highly probable that the sexual customs of
the German people of the present day are not substantially
different--though it may well be that at different periods
different circumstances have accentuated them--from what they
were in the dawn of Teutonic history. This is the opinion of one
of the profoundest students of Indo-Germanic origins. In his
_Reallexicon_ (art. "Keuschheit") O. Schrader points out that the
oft-quoted Tacitus, strictly considered, can only be taken to
prove that women were chaste after marriage, and that no
prostitution existed. There can be no doubt, he adds, and the
earliest historical evidence shows, that women in ancient Germany
were not chaste before marriage. This fact has been disguised by
the tendency of the old classic writers to idealize the Northern
peoples.
Thus we have to realize that the conception of "German virtue,"
which has been rendered so familiar to the world by a long
succession of German writers, by no means involves any special
devotion to the virtue of chastity. Tacitus, indeed, in the
passage more often quoted in Germany than any other passage in
classic literature, while correctly emphasizing the late puberty
of the Germans and their brutal punishment of conjugal infidelity
on the part of the wife, seemed to imply that they were also
chaste. But we have always to remark that Tacitus wrote as a
satirizing moralist as well as a historian, and that, as he
declaimed concerning the virtues of the German barbarians, he had
one eye on the Roman gallery whose vices he desired to lash. Much
the same perplexing confusion has been created by Gildas, who, in
describing the results of the Saxon Conquest of Britain, wrote as
a preacher as well as a historian, and the same moral purpose (as
Dill has pointed out) distorts Salvian's picture of the vices of
fifth century Gaul. (I may add that some of the evidence in favor
of the sexual freedom involved by early Teutonic faiths and
customs is brought together in the study of "Sexual Periodicity"
in the first volume of these _Studies_; cf. also, Rudeck,
_Geschichte der öffentlichen Sittlichkeit in Deutschland_, 1897,
pp. 146 et seq.).
The freedom and tolerance of Russian sexual customs is fairly
well-known. As a Russian correspondent writes to me, "the
liberalism of Russian manners enables youths and girls to enjoy
complete independence. They visit each other alone, they walk out
alone, and they return home at any hour they please. They have a
liberty of movement as complete as that of grown-up persons; some
avail themselves of it to discuss politics and others to make
love. They are able also to procure any books they please; thus
on the table of a college girl I knew I saw the _Elements of
Social Science_, then prohibited in Russia; this girl lived with
her aunt, but she had her own room, which only her friends were
allowed to enter: her aunt or other relations never entered it.
Naturally, she went out and came back at what hours she pleased.
Many other college girls enjoy the same freedom in their
families. It is very different in Italy, where girls have no
freedom of movement, and can neither go out alone nor receive
gentlemen alone, and where, unlike Russia, a girl who has sexual
intercourse outside marriage is really 'lost' and 'dishonored'"
(cf. _Sexual-Probleme_, Aug., 1908, p. 506).
It would appear that freedom of sexual relationships in
Russia--apart from the influence of ancient custom--has largely
been rendered necessary by the difficulty of divorce. Married
couples, who were unable to secure divorce, separated and found
new partners without legal marriage. In 1907, however, an attempt
was made to remedy this defect in the law; a liberal divorce law
has been introduced, mutual consent with separation for a period
of over a year being recognized as adequate ground for divorce
(Beiblatt to _Geschlecht und Gesellschaft_, Bd. ii, Heft 5, p.
145).
During recent years there has developed among educated young men
and women in Russia a movement of sexual license, which, though
it is doubtless supported by the old traditions of sexual
freedom, must by no means be confused with that freedom, since it
is directly due to causes of an entirely different order. The
strenuous revolutionary efforts made during the last years of the
past century to attain political freedom absorbed the younger and
more energetic section of the educated classes, involved a high
degree of mental tension, and were accompanied by a tendency to
asceticism. The prospect of death was constantly before their
eyes, and any pre-occupation with sexual matters would have been
felt as out of harmony with the spirit of revolution. But during
the present century revolutionary activity has largely ceased. It
has been, to a considerable extent, replaced by a movement of
interest in sexual problems and of indulgence in sexual
unrestraint, often taking on a somewhat licentious and sensual
character. "Free love" unions have been formed by the students of
both sexes for the cultivation of these tendencies. A novel,
Artzibascheff's _Ssanin_, has had great influence in promoting
these tendencies. It is not likely that this movement, in its
more extravagant forms, will be of long duration. (For some
account of this movement, see, e.g., Werner Daya, "Die Sexuelle
Bewegung in Russland," _Zeitschrift für Sexualwissenschaft_,
Aug., 1908; also, "Les Associations Erotiques en Russe," _Journal
du Droit International Privé_, Jan., 1909, fully summarized in
_Revue des Idées_, Feb., 1909.)
The movement of sexual freedom in Russia lies much deeper,
however, than this fashion of sensual license; it is found in
remote and uncontaminated parts of the country, and is connected
with very ancient customs.
There is considerable interest in realizing the existence of
long-continued sexual freedom--by some incorrectly termed
"immorality," for what is in accordance with the customs or
_mores_ of a people cannot be immoral--among peoples so virile
and robust, so eminently capable of splendid achievements, as the
Germans and the Russians. There is, however, a perhaps even
greater interest in tracing the development of the same tendency
among new prosperous and highly progressive communities who have
either not inherited the custom of sexual freedom or are now only
reviving it. We may, for instance, take the case of Australia and
New Zealand. This development may not, indeed, be altogether
recent. The frankness of sexual freedom in Australia and the
tolerance in regard to it were conspicuous thirty years ago to
those who came from England to live in the Southern continent,
and were doubtless equally visible at an earlier date. It seems,
however, to have developed with the increase of self-conscious
civilization. "After careful inquiry," says the Rev. H.
Northcote, who has lived for many years in the Southern
hemisphere (_Christianity and Sex Problems_, Ch. VIII), "the
writer finds sufficient evidence that of recent years intercourse
out of wedlock has tended towards an actual increase in parts of
Australia." Coghlan, the chief authority on Australian
statistics, states more precisely in his _Childbirth in New South
Wales_, published a few years ago: "The prevalence of births of
ante-nuptial conception--a matter hitherto little understood--has
now been completely investigated. In New South Wales, during six
years, there were 13,366 marriages, in respect of which there was
ante-nuptial conception, and, as the total number of marriages
was 49,641, at least twenty-seven marriages in a hundred followed
conception. During the same period the illegitimate births
numbered 14,779; there were, therefore, 28,145 cases of
conception amongst unmarried women; in 13,366 instances marriage
preceded the birth of the child, so that the children were
legitimatized in rather more than forty-seven cases out of one
hundred. A study of the figures of births of ante-nuptial
conception makes it obvious that in a very large number of
instances pre-marital intercourse is not an anticipation of
marriage already arranged, but that the marriages are forced upon
the parties, and would not be entered into were it not for the
condition of the woman" (cf. Powys, _Biometrika_, vol. i, 1901-2,
p. 30). That marriage should be, as Coghlan puts it, "forced upon
the parties," is not, of course, desirable in the general moral
interests, and it is also a sign of imperfect moral
responsibility in the parties themselves.
The existence of such a state of things, in a young country
belonging to a part of the world where the general level of
prosperity, intelligence, morality and social responsibility may
perhaps be said to be higher than in any other region inhabited
by people of white race, is a fact of the very first significance
when we are attempting to forecast the direction in which
civilized morality is moving.
It is sometimes said, or at least implied, that in this movement women are
taking only a passive part, and that the initiative lies with men who are
probably animated by a desire to escape the responsibilities of marriage.
This is very far from being the case.
The active part taken by German girls in sexual matters is
referred to again and again by the Lutheran pastors in their
elaborate and detailed report. Of the Dantzig district it is said
"the young girls give themselves to the youths, or even seduce
them." The military manoeuvres are frequently a source of
unchastity in rural districts. "The fault is not merely with the
soldiers, but chiefly with the girls, who become half mad as soon
as they see a soldier," it is reported from the Dresden district.
And in summarizing conditions in East Germany the report states:
"In sexual wantonness girls are not behind the young men; they
allow themselves to be seduced only too willingly; even grown-up
girls often go with half-grown youths, and girls frequently give
themselves to several men, one after the other. It is by no means
always the youth who effects the seduction, it is very frequently
the girls who entice the youth to sexual intercourse; they do not
always wait till the men come to their rooms, but will go to the
men's rooms and await them in their beds. With this inclination
to sexual intercourse, it is not surprising that many believe
that after sixteen no girl is a virgin. Unchastity among the
rural laboring classes is universal, and equally pronounced in
both sexes" (op. cit., vol. i, 218).
Among women of the educated classes the conditions are somewhat
different. Restraints, both internal and external, are very much
greater. Virginity, at all events in its physical fact, is
retained, for the most part, till long past girlhood, and when it
is lost that loss is concealed with a scrupulous care and
prudence unknown to the working-classes. Yet the fundamental
tendencies remain the same. So far as England is concerned,
Geoffrey Mortimer quite truly writes (_Chapters on Human Love_,
1898, p. 117) that the two groups of (1) women who live in
constant secret association with a single lover, and (2) women
who give themselves to men, without fear, from the force of their
passions, are "much larger than is generally supposed. In all
classes of society there are women who are only virgins by
repute. Many have borne children without being even suspected of
cohabitation; but the majority adopt methods of preventing
conception. A doctor in a small provincial town declared to me
that such irregular intimacies were the rule, and not by any
means the exception in his district." As regards Germany, a lady
doctor, Frau Adams-Lehmann, states in a volume of the
Transactions of the German Society for Combating Venereal Disease
(_Sexualpädagogik_, p. 271): "I can say that during consultation
hours I see very few virgins over thirty. These women," she adds,
"are sensible, courageous and natural, often the best of their
sex; and we ought to give them our moral support. They are
working towards a new age."
It is frequently stated that the pronounced tendency witnessed at the
present time to dispense as long as possible with the formal ceremony of
binding marriage is unfortunate because it places women in a
disadvantageous position. In so far as the social environment in which she
lives views with disapproval sexual relationship without formal marriage,
the statement is obviously to that extent true, though it must be
remarked, on the other hand, that when social opinion strongly favors
legal marriage it acts as a compelling force in the direction of
legitimating free unions. But if the absence of the formal marriage bond
constituted a real and intrinsic disadvantage to women in sexual relations
they would not show themselves so increasingly ready to dispense with it.
And, as a matter of fact, those who are intimately acquainted with the
facts declare that the absence of formal marriage tends to give increased
consideration to women and is even favorable to fidelity and to the
prolongation of the union. This seems to be true as regards people of the
most different social classes and even of different races. It is probably
based on fundamental psychological facts, for the sense of compulsion
always tends to produce a movement of exasperation and revolt. We are not
here concerned with the question as to how far formal marriage also is
based on natural facts; that is a question which will come up for
discussion at a later stage.
The advantage for women of free sexual unions over compulsory
marriage is well recognized in the case of the working classes of
London, among whom sexual relationships before marriage are not
unusual, and are indulgently regarded. It is, for instance,
clearly asserted in the monumental work of C. Booth, _Life and
Labour of the People_. "It is even said of rough laborers," we
read, for instance, in the final volume of this work (p. 41),
"that they behave best if not married to the woman with whom they
live." The evidence on this point is often the more impressive
because brought forward by people who are very far indeed from
being anxious to base any general conclusions on it. Thus in the
same volume a clergyman is quoted as saying: "These people manage
to live together fairly peaceably so long as they are not
married, but if they marry it always seems to lead to blows and
rows."
It may be said that in such a case we witness not so much the
operation of a natural law as the influences of a great centre of
civilization exerting its moralizing effects even on those who
stand outside the legally recognized institution of marriage.
That contention may, however, be thrust aside. We find exactly
the same tendency in Jamaica where the population is largely
colored, and the stress of a high civilization can scarcely be
said to exist. Legal marriage is here discarded to an even
greater extent than in London, for little care is taken to
legitimate children by marriage. It was found by a committee
appointed to inquire into the marriage laws of Jamaica, that
three out of every five births are illegitimate, that is to say
that legal illegitimacy has ceased to be immoral, having become
the recognized custom of the majority of the inhabitants. There
is no social feeling against illegitimacy. The men approve of the
decay of legal marriage, because they say the women work better
in the house when they are not married; the women approve of it,
because they say that men are more faithful when not bound by
legal marriage. This has been well brought out by W.P.
Livingstone in his interesting book, _Black Jamaica_ (1899). The
people recognize, he tells us (p. 210), that "faithful living
together constitutes marriage;" they say that they are "married
but not parsoned." One reason against legal marriage is that they
are disinclined to incur the expense of the official sanction.
(In Venezuela, it may be added, where also the majority of births
take place outside official marriage, the chief reason is stated
to be, not moral laxity, but the same disinclination to pay the
expenses of legal weddings.) Frequently in later life, sometimes
when they have grown up sons and daughters, couples go through
the official ceremony. (In Abyssinia, also, it is stated by
Hugues Le Roux, where the people are Christian and marriage is
indissoluble and the ceremony expensive, it is not usual for
married couples to make their unions legal until old age is
coming on, _Sexual-Probleme_, April, 1908, p. 217.) It is
significant that this condition of things in Jamaica, as
elsewhere, is associated with the superiority of women. "The
women of the peasant class," remarks Livingstone (p. 212), "are
still practically independent of the men, and are frequently
their superiors, both in physical and mental capacity." They
refuse to bind themselves to a man who may turn out to be good
for nothing, a burden instead of a help and protection. So long
as the unions are free they are likely to be permanent. If made
legal, the risk is that they will become intolerable, and cease
by one of the parties leaving the other. "The necessity for
mutual kindness and forbearance establishes a condition that is
the best guarantee of permanency" (p. 214). It is said, however,
that under the influence of religious and social pressure the
people are becoming more anxious to adopt "respectable" ideas of
sexual relationships, though it seems evident, in view of
Livingstone's statement, that such respectability is likely to
involve a decrease of real morality. Livingstone points out,
however, one serious defect in the present conditions which makes
it easy for immoral men to escape paternal responsibilities, and
this is the absence of legal provision for the registration of
the father's name on birth certificates (p. 256). In every
country where the majority of births are illegitimate it is an
obvious social necessity that the names of both parents should be
duly registered on all birth certificates. It has been an
unpardonable failure on the part of the Jamaican Government to
neglect the simple measure needed to give "each child born in the
country a legal father" (p. 258).
We thus see that we have to-day reached a position in which--partly owing
to economic causes and partly to causes which are more deeply rooted in
the tendencies involved by civilization--women are more often detached
than of old from legal sexual relationship with men and both sexes are
less inclined than in earlier stages of civilization to sacrifice their
own independence even when they form such relationships. "I never heard of
a woman over sixteen years of age who, prior to the breakdown of
aboriginal customs after the coming of the whites, had not a husband,"
wrote Curr of the Australian Blacks.[271] Even as regards some parts of
Europe, it is still possible to-day to make almost the same statement. But
in all the richer, more energetic, and progressive countries very
different conditions prevail. Marriage is late and a certain proportion of
men, and a still larger proportion of women (who exceed the men in the
general population) never marry at all.[272]
Before we consider the fateful significance of this fact of the growing
proportion of adult unmarried women whose sexual relationships are
unrecognized by the state and largely unrecognized altogether, it may be
well to glance summarily at the two historical streams of tendency, both
still in action among us, which affect the status of women, the one
favoring the social equality of the sexes, the other favoring the social
subjection of women. It is not difficult to trace these two streams both
in conduct and opinion, in practical morality and in theoretical morality.
At one time it was widely held that in early states of society, before the
establishment of the patriarchal stage which places women under the
protection of men, a matriarchal stage prevailed in which women possessed
supreme power.[273] Bachofen, half a century ago, was the great champion
of this view. He found a typical example of a matriarchal state among the
ancient Lycians of Asia Minor with whom, Herodotus stated, the child takes
the name of the mother, and follows her status, not that of the
father.[274] Such peoples, Bachofen believed, were gynæcocratic; power was
in the hands of women. It can no longer be said that this opinion, in the
form held by Bachofen, meets with any considerable support. As to the
widespread prevalence of descent through the mother, there is no doubt
whatever that it has prevailed very widely. But such descent through the
mother, it has become recognized, by no means necessarily involves the
power of the mother, and mother-descent may even be combined with a
patriarchal system.[275] There has even been a tendency to run to the
opposite extreme from Bachofen and to deny that mother-descent conferred
any special claim for consideration on women. That, however, seems
scarcely in accordance with the evidence and even in the absence of
evidence could scarcely be regarded as probable. It would seem that we may
fairly take as a type of the matriarchal family that based on the _ambil
anak_ marriage of Sumatra, in which the husband lives in the wife's
family, paying nothing and occupying a subordinate position. The example
of the Lycians is here in point, for although, as reported by Herodotus,
there is nothing to show that there was anything of the nature of a
gynæcocracy in Lycia, we know that women in all these regions of Asia
Minor enjoyed high consideration and influence, traces of which may be
detected in the early literature and history of Christianity. A decisive
and better known example of the favorable influence of mother-descent on
the status of woman is afforded by the _beena_ marriage of early Arabia.
Under such a system the wife is not only preserved from the subjection
involved by purchase, which always casts upon her some shadow of the
inferiority belonging to property, but she herself is the owner of the
tent and the household property, and enjoys the dignity always involved by
the possession of property and the ability to free herself from her
husband.[276]
It is also impossible to avoid connecting the primitive tendency to
mother-descent, and the emphasis it involved on maternal rather than
paternal generative energy, with the tendency to place the goddess rather
than the god in the forefront of primitive pantheons, a tendency which
cannot possibly fail to reflect honor on the sex to which the supreme
deity belongs, and which may be connected with the large part which
primitive women often play in the functions of religion. Thus, according
to traditions common to all the central tribes of Australia, the woman
formerly took a much greater share in the performance of sacred ceremonies
which are now regarded as coming almost exclusively within the masculine
province, and in at least one tribe which seems to retain ancient
practices the women still actually take part in these ceremonies.[277] It
seems to have been much the same in Europe. We observe, too, both in the
Celtic pantheon and among Mediterranean peoples, that while all the
ancient divinities have receded into the dim background yet the goddesses
loom larger than the gods.[278] In Ireland, where ancient custom and
tradition have always been very tenaciously preserved, women retained a
very high position, and much freedom both before and after marriage.
"Every woman," it was said, "is to go the way she willeth freely," and
after marriage she enjoyed a better position and greater freedom of
divorce than was afforded either by the Christian Church or the English
common law.[279] There is less difficulty in recognizing that
mother-descent was peculiarly favorable to the high status of women when
we realize that even under very unfavorable conditions women have been
able to exert great pressure on the men and to resist successfully the
attempts to tyrannize over them.[280]
If we consider the status of woman in the great empires of antiquity we
find on the whole that in their early stage, the stage of growth, as well
as in their final stage, the stage of fruition, women tend to occupy a
favorable position, while in their middle stage, usually the stage of
predominating military organization on a patriarchal basis, women occupy a
less favorable position. This cyclic movement seems to be almost a natural
law of the development of great social groups. It was apparently well
marked in the very stable and orderly growth of Babylonia. In the earliest
times a Babylonian woman had complete independence and equal rights with
her brothers and her husband; later (as shown by the code of Hamurabi) a
woman's rights, though not her duties, were more circumscribed; in the
still later Neo-Babylonian periods, she again acquired equal rights with
her husband.[281]
In Egypt the position of women stood highest at the end, but it seems to
have been high throughout the whole of the long course of Egyptian
history, and continuously improving, while the fact that little regard was
paid to prenuptial chastity and that marriage contracts placed no stress
on virginity indicate the absence of the conception of women as property.
More than three thousand five hundred years ago men and women were
recognized as equal in Egypt. The high position of the Egyptian woman is
significantly indicated by the fact that her child was never illegitimate;
illegitimacy was not recognized even in the case of a slave woman's
child.[282] "It is the glory of Egyptian morality," says Amélineau, "to
have been the first to express the Dignity of Woman."[283] The idea of
marital authority was altogether unknown in Egypt. There can be no doubt
that the high status of woman in two civilizations so stable, so vital, so
long-lived, and so influential on human culture as Babylonia and Egypt, is
a fact of much significance.
Among the Jews there seems to have been no intermediate stage of
subordination of women, but instead a gradual progress throughout
from complete subjection of the woman as wife to ever greater
freedom. At first the husband could repudiate his wife at will
without cause. (This was not an extension of patriarchal
authority, but a purely marital authority.) The restrictions on
this authority gradually increased, and begin to be observable
already in the Book of Deuteronomy. The Mishnah went further and
forbade divorce whenever the wife's condition inspired pity (as
in insanity, captivity, etc.). By A.D. 1025, divorce was no
longer possible except for legitimate reasons or by the wife's
consent. At the same time, the wife also began to acquire the
right of divorce in the form of compelling the husband to
repudiate her on penalty of punishment in case of refusal. On
divorce the wife became an independent woman in her own right,
and was permitted to carry off the dowry which her husband gave
her on marriage. Thus, notwithstanding Jewish respect for the
letter of the law, the flexible jurisprudence of the Rabbis, in
harmony with the growth of culture, accorded an ever-growing
measure of sexual justice and equality to women (D.W. Amram, _The
Jewish Law of Divorce_).
Among the Arabs the tendency of progress has also been favorable
to women in many respects, especially as regards inheritance.
Before Mahommed, in accordance with the system prevailing at
Medina, women had little or no right of inheritance. The
legislation of the Koran modified this rule, without entirely
abolishing it, and placed women in a much better position. This
is attributed largely to the fact that Mahommed belonged not to
Medina, but to Mecca, where traces of matriarchal custom still
survived (W. Marçais, _Des Parents et des Alliés Successibles en
Droit Musulman_).
It may be pointed out--for it is not always realized--that even
that stage of civilization--when it occurs--which involves the
subordination and subjection of woman and her rights really has
its origin in the need for the protection of women, and is
sometimes even a sign of the acquirement of new privileges by
women. They are, as it were, locked up, not in order to deprive
them of their rights, but in order to guard those rights. In the
later more stable phase of civilization, when women are no longer
exposed to the same dangers, this motive is forgotten and the
guardianship of woman and her rights seems, and indeed has really
become, a hardship rather than an advantage.
Of the status of women at Rome in the earliest periods we know little or
nothing; the patriarchal system was already firmly established when Roman
history begins to become clear and it involved unusually strict
subordination of the woman to her father first and then to her husband.
But nothing is more certain than that the status of women in Rome rose
with the rise of civilization, exactly in the same way as in Babylonia and
in Egypt. In the case of Rome, however, the growing refinement of
civilization, and the expansion of the Empire, were associated with the
magnificent development of the system of Roman law, which in its final
forms consecrated the position of women. In the last days of the Republic
women already began to attain the same legal level as men, and later the
great Antonine jurisconsults, guided by their theory of natural law,
reached the conception of the equality of the sexes as a principle of the
code of equity. The patriarchal subordination of women fell into complete
discredit, and this continued until, in the days of Justinian, under the
influence of Christianity, the position of women began to suffer.[284] In
the best days the older forms of Roman marriage gave place to a form
(apparently old but not hitherto considered reputable) which amounted in
law to a temporary deposit of the woman by her family. She was independent
of her husband (more especially as she came to him with her own dowry) and
only nominally dependent on her family. Marriage was a private contract,
accompanied by a religious ceremony if desired, and being a contract it
could be dissolved, for any reason, in the presence of competent
witnesses and with due legal forms, after the advice of the family council
had been taken. Consent was the essence of this marriage and no shame,
therefore, attached to its dissolution. Nor had it any evil effect either
on the happiness or the morals of Roman women.[285] Such a system is
obviously more in harmony with modern civilized feeling than any system
that has ever been set up in Christendom.
In Rome, also, it is clear that this system was not a mere legal invention
but the natural outgrowth of an enlightened public feeling in favor of the
equality of men and women, often even in the field of sexual morality.
Plautus, who makes the old slave Syra ask why there is not the same law in
this respect for the husband as for the wife,[286] had preceded the legist
Ulpian who wrote: "It seems to be very unjust that a man demands chastity
of his wife while he himself shows no example of it."[287] Such demands
lie deeper than social legislation, but the fact that these questions
presented themselves to typical Roman men indicates the general attitude
towards women. In the final stage of Roman society the bond of the
patriarchal system so far as women were concerned dwindled to a mere
thread binding them to their fathers and leaving them quite free face to
face with their husbands. "The Roman matron of the Empire," says Hobhouse,
"was more fully her own mistress than the married woman of any earlier
civilization, with the possible exception of a certain period of Egyptian
history, and, it must be added, than the wife of any later civilization
down to our own generation."[288]
On the strength of the statements of two satirical writers,
Juvenal and Tacitus, it has been supposed by many that Roman
women of the late period were given up to license. It is,
however, idle to seek in satirists any balanced picture of a
great civilization. Hobhouse (loc. cit., p. 216) concludes that
on the whole, Roman women worthily retained the position of their
husbands' companions, counsellors and friends which they had
held when an austere system placed them legally in his power.
Most authorities seem now to be of this opinion, though at an
earlier period Friedländer expressed himself more dubiously. Thus
Dill, in his judicious _Roman Society_ (p. 163), states that the
Roman woman's position, both in law and in fact, rose during the
Empire; without being less virtuous or respected, she became far
more accomplished and attractive; with fewer restraints she had
greater charm and influence, even in public affairs, and was more
and more the equal of her husband. "In the last age of the
Western Empire there is no deterioration in the position and
influence of women." Principal Donaldson, also, in his valuable
historical sketch, _Woman_, considers (p. 113) that there was no
degradation of morals in the Roman Empire; "the licentiousness of
Pagan Rome is nothing to the licentiousness of Christian Africa,
Rome, and Gaul, if we can put any reliance on the description of
Salvian." Salvian's description of Christendom is probably
exaggerated and one-sided, but exactly the same may be said in an
even greater degree of the descriptions of ancient Rome left by
clever Pagan satirists and ascetic Christian preachers.
It thus becomes necessary to leap over considerably more than a thousand
years before we reach a stage of civilization in any degree approaching in
height the final stage of Roman society. In the eighteenth and nineteenth
centuries, at first in France, then in England, we find once more the
moral and legal movement tending towards the equalization of women with
men. We find also a long series of pioneers of that movement foreshadowing
its developments: Mary Astor, "Sophia, a Lady of Quality," Ségur, Mrs.
Wheeler, and very notably Mary Wollstonecraft in _A Vindication of the
Rights of Woman_, and John Stuart Mill in _The Subjection of Women_.[289]
The main European stream of influences in this matter within historical
times has involved, we can scarcely doubt when we take into consideration
its complex phenomena as a whole, the maintenance of an inequality to the
disadvantage of women. The fine legacy of Roman law to Europe was indeed
favorable to women, but that legacy was dispersed and for the most part
lost in the more predominating influence of tenacious Teutonic custom
associated with the vigorously organized Christian Church. Notwithstanding
that the facts do not all point in the same direction, and that there is
consequently some difference of opinion, it seems evident that on the
whole both Teutonic custom and Christian religion were unfavorable to the
equality of women with men. Teutonic custom in this matter was determined
by two decisive factors: (1) the existence of marriage by purchase which
although, as Crawley has pointed out, it by no means necessarily involves
the degradation of women, certainly tends to place them in an inferior
position, and (2) pre-occupation with war which is always accompanied by a
depreciation of peaceful and feminine occupations and an indifference to
love. Christianity was at its origin favorable to women because it
liberated and glorified the most essentially feminine emotions, but when
it became an established and organized religion with definitely ascetic
ideals, its whole emotional tone grew unfavorable to women. It had from
the first excluded them from any priestly function. It now regarded them
as the special representatives of the despised element of sex in
life.[290] The eccentric Tertullian had once declared that woman was
_janua Diaboli_; nearly seven hundred years later, even the gentle and
philosophic Anselm wrote: _Femina fax est Satanæ_.[291]
Thus among the Franks, with whom the practice of monogamy
prevailed, a woman was never free; she could not buy or sell or
inherit without the permission of those to whom she belonged. She
passed into the possession of her husband by acquisition, and
when he fixed the wedding day he gave her parents coins of small
money as _arrha_, and the day after the wedding she received from
him a present, the _morgengabe_. A widow belonged to her parents
again (Bedollière, _Histoire de Moeurs des Français_,
vol. i, p. 180). It is true that the Salic law ordained a
pecuniary fine for touching a woman, even for squeezing her
finger, but it is clear that the offence thus committed was an
offence against property, and by no means against the sanctity of
a woman's personality. The primitive German husband could sell
his children, and sometimes his wife, even into slavery. In the
eleventh century cases of wife-selling are still heard of, though
no longer recognized by law.
The traditions of Christianity were more favorable to sexual
equality than were Teutonic customs, but in becoming amalgamated
with those customs they added their own special contribution as
to woman's impurity. This spiritual inferiority of woman was
significantly shown by the restrictions sometimes placed on women
in church, and even in the right to enter a church; in some
places they were compelled to remain in the narthex, even in
non-monastic churches (see for these rules, Smith and Cheetham,
_Dictionary of Christian Antiquities_, art. "Sexes, Separation
of").
By attempting to desexualize the idea of man and to oversexualize
the idea of woman, Christianity necessarily degraded the position
of woman and the conception of womanhood. As Donaldson well
remarks, in pointing this out (op. cit., p. 182), "I may define
man as a male human being and woman as a female human being....
What the early Christians did was to strike the 'male' out of the
definition of man, and 'human being' out of the definition of
woman." Religion generally appears to be a powerfully depressing
influence on the position of woman notwithstanding the appeal
which it makes to woman. Westermarck considers, indeed (_Origin
and Development of the Moral Ideas_, vol. i, p. 669), that
religion "has probably been the most persistent cause of the
wife's subjection to her husband's rule."
It is sometimes said that the Christian tendency to place women
in an inferior spiritual position went so far that a church
council formally denied that women have souls. This foolish story
has indeed been repeated in a parrot-like fashion by a number of
writers. The source of the story is probably to be found in the
fact, recorded by Gregory of Tours, in his history (lib. viii,
cap. XX), that at the Council of Mâcon, in 585, a bishop was in
doubt as to whether the term "man" included woman, but was
convinced by the other members of the Council that it did. The
same difficulty has presented itself to lawyers in more modern
times, and has not always been resolved so favorably to woman as
by the Christian Council of Mâcon.
The low estimate of women that prevailed even in the early Church
is admitted by Christian scholars. "We cannot but notice," writes
Meyrick (art. "Marriage," Smith and Cheetham, _Dictionary of
Christian Antiquities_), "even in the greatest of the Christian
fathers a lamentably low estimate of woman, and consequently of
the marriage relationship. Even St. Augustine can see no
justification for marriage, except in a grave desire deliberately
adopted of having children; and in accordance with this view, all
married intercourse, except for this single purpose, is harshly
condemned. If marriage is sought after for the sake of children,
it is justifiable; if entered into as a _remedium_ to avoid worse
evils, it is pardonable; the idea of the mutual society, help,
and comfort that the one ought to have of the other, both in
prosperity and adversity, hardly existed, and could hardly yet
exist."
From the woman's point of view, Lily Braun, in her important work
on the woman question (_Die Frauenfrage_, 1901, pp. 28 et seq.)
concludes that, in so far as Christianity was favorable to women,
we must see that favorable influence in the placing of women on
the same moral level as men, as illustrated in the saying of
Jesus, "Let him who is without sin amongst you cast the first
stone," implying that each sex owes the same fidelity. It
reached, she adds, no further than this. "Christianity, which
women accepted as a deliverance with so much enthusiasm, and died
for as martyrs, has not fulfilled their hopes."
Even as regards the moral equality of the sexes in marriage, the
position of Christian authorities was sometimes equivocal. One of
the greatest of the Fathers, St. Basil, in the latter half of the
fourth century, distinguished between adultery and fornication as
committed by a married man; if with a married woman, it was
adultery; if with an unmarried woman, it was merely fornication.
In the former case, a wife should not receive her husband back;
in the latter case, she should (art. "Adultery," Smith and
Cheetham, _Dictionary of Christian Antiquities_). Such a
decision, by attaching supreme importance to a distinction which
could make no difference to the wife, involved a failure to
recognize her moral personality. Many of the Fathers in the
Western Church, however, like Jerome, Augustine, and Ambrose,
could see no reason why the moral law should not be the same for
the husband as for the wife, but as late Roman feeling both on
the legal and popular side was already approximating to that
view, the influence of Christianity was scarcely required to
attain it. It ultimately received formal sanction in the Roman
Canon Law, which decreed that adultery is equally committed by
either conjugal party in two degrees: (1) _simplex_, of the
married with the unmarried, and (2) _duplex_, of the married with
the married.
It can scarcely be said, however, that Christianity succeeded in
attaining the inclusion of this view of the moral equality of the
sexes into actual practical morality. It was accepted in theory;
it was not followed in practice. W.G. Sumner, discussing this
question (_Folkways_, pp. 359-361), concludes: "Why are these
views not in the _mores?_ Undoubtedly it is because they are
dogmatic in form, invented or imposed by theological authority or
philosophical speculation. They do not grow out of the experience
of life, and cannot be verified by it. The reasons are in
ultimate physiological facts, by virtue of which one is a woman
and the other is a man." There is, however, more to be said on
this point later.
It was probably, however, not so much the Church as Teutonic customs and
the development of the feudal system, with the masculine and military
ideals it fostered, that was chiefly decisive in fixing the inferior
position of women in the mediæval world. Even the ideas of chivalry, which
have often been supposed to be peculiarly favorable to women, so far as
they affected women seem to have been of little practical significance.
In his great work on chivalry Gautier brings forward much
evidence to show that the feudal spirit, like the military spirit
always and everywhere, on the whole involved at bottom a disdain
for women, even though it occasionally idealized them. "Go into
your painted and gilded rooms," we read in _Renaus de Montauban_,
"sit in the shade, make yourselves comfortable, drink, eat, work
tapestry, dye silk, but remember that you must not occupy
yourselves with our affairs. Our business is to strike with the
steel sword. Silence!" And if the woman insists she is struck on
the face till the blood comes. The husband had a legal right to
beat his wife, not only for adultery, but even for contradicting
him. Women were not, however, entirely without power, and in a
thirteenth century collection of _Coutumes_, it is set down that
a husband must only beat his wife reasonably, _resnablement_. (As
regards the husband's right to chastise his wife, see also
Hobhouse, _Morals in Evolution_, vol. i, p. 234. In England it
was not until the reign of Charles II, from which so many modern
movements date, that the husband was deprived of this legal
right.)
In the eyes of a feudal knight, it may be added, the beauty of a
horse competed, often successfully, with the beauty of a woman.
In _Girbers de Metz_, two knights, Garin and his cousin Girbert,
ride by a window at which sits a beautiful girl with the face of
a rose and the white flesh of a lily. "Look, cousin Girbert,
look! By Saint Mary, a beautiful woman!" "Ah," Girbert replies,
"a beautiful beast is my horse!" "I have never seen anything so
charming as that young girl with her fresh color and her dark
eyes," says Garin. "I know no steed to compare with mine,"
retorts Girbert. When the men were thus absorbed in the things
that pertain to war, it is not surprising that amorous advances
were left to young girls to make. "In all the _chansons de
geste_," Gautier remarks, "it is the young girls who make the
advances, often with effrontery," though, he adds, wives are
represented as more virtuous (L. Gautier, _La Chevalerie_, pp.
236-8, 348-50).
In England Pollock and Maitland (_History of English Law_, vol.
ii, p. 437) do not believe that a life-long tutela of women ever
existed as among other Teutonic peoples. "From the Conquest
onwards," Hobhouse states (op. cit., vol. i, p. 224), "the
unmarried English woman, on attaining her majority, becomes
fully equipped with all legal and civil rights, as much a legal
personality as the Babylonian woman had been three thousand years
before." But the developed English law more than made up for any
privileges thus accorded to the unmarried by the inconsistent
manner in which it swathed up the wife in endless folds of
irresponsibility, except when she committed the supreme offence
of injuring her lord and master. The English wife, as Hobhouse
continues (loc. cit.) was, if not her husband's slave, at any
rate his liege subject; if she killed him it was "petty treason,"
the revolt of a subject against a sovereign in a miniature
kingdom, and a more serious offence than murder. Murder she could
not commit in his presence, for her personality was merged in
him; he was responsible for most of her crimes and offences (it
was that fact which gave him the right to chastise her), and he
could not even enter into a contract with her, for that would be
entering into a contract with himself. "The very being and legal
existence of a woman is suspended during marriage," said
Blackstone, "or at least is incorporated and consolidated into
that of her husband, under whose wing, protection and cover she
performs everything. So great a favorite," he added, "is the
female sex of the laws of England." "The strength of woman," says
Hobhouse, interpreting the sense of the English law, "was her
weakness. She conquered by yielding. Her gentleness had to be
guarded from the turmoil of the world, her fragrance to be kept
sweet and fresh, away from the dust and the smoke of battle.
Hence her need of a champion and guardian."
In France the wife of the mediæval and Renaissance periods
occupied much the same position in her husband's house. He was
her absolute master and lord, the head and soul of "the feminine
and feeble creature" who owed to him "perfect love and
obedience." She was his chief servant, the eldest of his
children, his wife and subject; she signed herself "your humble
obedient daughter and friend," when she wrote to him. The
historian, De Maulde la Clavière, who has brought together
evidence on this point in his _Femmes de la Renaissance_, remarks
that even though the husband enjoyed this lofty and superior
position in marriage, it was still generally he, and not the
wife, who complained of the hardships of marriage.
Law and custom assumed that a woman should be more or less under the
protection of a man, and even the ideals of fine womanhood which arose in
this society, during feudal and later times, were necessarily tinged by
the same conception. It involved the inequality of women as compared with
men, but under the social conditions of a feudal society such inequality
was to woman's advantage. Masculine force was the determining factor in
life and it was necessary that every woman should have a portion of this
force on her side. This sound and reasonable idea naturally tended to
persist even after the growth of civilization rendered force a much less
decisive factor in social life. In England in Queen Elizabeth's time no
woman must be masterless, although the feminine subjects of Queen
Elizabeth had in their sovereign the object lesson of a woman who could
play a very brilliant and effective part in life and yet remain absolutely
masterless. Still later, in the eighteenth century, even so fine a
moralist as Shaftesbury, in his _Characteristics_, refers to lovers of
married women as invaders of property. If such conceptions still ruled
even in the best minds, it is not surprising that in the same century,
even in the following century, they were carried out into practice by less
educated people who frankly bought and sold women.
Schrader, in his _Reallexicon_ (art. "Brautkauf"), points out
that, originally, the purchase of a wife was the purchase of her
person, and not merely of the right of protecting her. The
original conception probably persisted long in Great Britain on
account of its remoteness from the centres of civilization. In
the eleventh century Gregory VII desired Lanfranc to stop the
sale of wives in Scotland and elsewhere in the island of the
English (Pike, _History of Crime in England_, vol. i, p. 99). The
practice never quite died out, however, in remote country
districts.
Such transactions have taken place even in London. Thus in the
_Annual Register_ for 1767 (p. 99) we read: "About three weeks
ago a bricklayer's laborer at Marylebone sold a woman, whom he
had cohabited with for several years, to a fellow-workman for a
quarter guinea and a gallon of beer. The workman went off with
the purchase, and she has since had the good fortune to have a
legacy of £200, and some plate, left her by a deceased uncle in
Devonshire. The parties were married last Friday."
The Rev. J. Edward Vaux (_Church Folk-lore_, second edition, p.
146) narrates two authentic cases in which women had been bought
by their husbands in open market in the nineteenth century. In
one case the wife, with her own full consent, was brought to
market with a halter round her neck, sold for half a crown, and
led to her new home, twelve miles off by the new husband who had
purchased her; in the other case a publican bought another man's
wife for a two-gallon jar of gin.
It is the same conception of woman as property which, even to the
present, has caused the retention in many legal codes of clauses
rendering a man liable to pay pecuniary damages to a woman,
previously a virgin, whom he has intercourse with and
subsequently forsakes (Natalie Fuchs, "Die Jungfernschaft im
Recht und Sitte," _Sexual-Probleme_, Feb., 1908). The woman is
"dishonored" by sexual intercourse, depreciated in her market
value, exactly as a new garment becomes "second-hand," even if it
has but once been worn. A man, on the other hand, would disdain
the idea that his personal value could be diminished by any
number of acts of sexual intercourse.
This fact has even led some to advocate the "abolition of
physical virginity." Thus the German authoress of _Una
Poenitentium_ (1907), considering that the protection of a woman
is by no means so well secured by a little piece of membrane as
by the presence of a true and watchful soul inside, advocates the
operation of removal of the hymen in childhood. It is undoubtedly
true that the undue importance attached to the hymen has led to a
false conception of feminine "honor," and to an unwholesome
conception of feminine purity.
Custom and law are slowly changing in harmony with changed social
conditions which no longer demand the subjection of women either in their
own interests or in the interests of the community. Concomitantly with
these changes a different ideal of womanly personality is developing. It
is true that the ancient ideal of the lordship of the husband over the
wife is still more or less consciously affirmed around us. The husband
frequently dictates to the wife what avocations she may not pursue, what
places she may not visit, what people she may not know, what books she may
not read. He assumes to control her, even in personal matters having no
direct concern with himself, by virtue of the old masculine prerogative of
force which placed a woman under the hand, as the ancient patriarchal
legists termed it, of a man. It is, however, becoming more and more widely
recognized that such a part is not suited to the modern man. The modern
man, as Rosa Mayreder has pointed out in a thoughtful essay,[292] is no
longer equipped to play this domineering part in relation to his wife. The
"noble savage," leading a wild life on mountain and in forest, hunting
dangerous beasts and scalping enemies when necessary, may occasionally
bring his club gently and effectively on to the head of his wife, even, it
may be, with grateful appreciation on her part.[293] But the modern man,
who for the most part spends his days tamely at a desk, who has been
trained to endure silently the insults and humiliations which superior
officials or patronizing clients may inflict upon him, this typical modern
man is no longer able to assume effectually the part of the "noble savage"
when he returns to his home. He is indeed so unfitted for the part that
his wife resents his attempts to play it. He is gradually recognizing
this, even apart from any consciousness of the general trend of
civilization. The modern man of ideas recognizes that, as a matter of
principle, his wife is entitled to equality with himself; the modern man
of the world feels that it would be both ridiculous and inconvenient not
to accord his wife much the same kind of freedom which he himself
possesses. And, moreover, while the modern man has to some extent acquired
feminine qualities, the modern woman has to a corresponding extent
acquired masculine qualities.
Brief and summary as the preceding discussion has necessarily been, it
will have served to bring us face to face with the central fact in the
sexual morality which the growth of civilization has at the present day
rendered inevitable: personal responsibility. "The responsible human
being, man or woman, is the centre of modern ethics as of modern law;"
that is the conclusion reached by Hobhouse in his discussion of the
evolution of human morality.[294] The movement which is taking place among
us to liberate sexual relationships from an excessive bondage to fixed and
arbitrary regulations would have been impossible and mischievous but for
the concomitant growth of a sense of personal responsibility in the
members of the community. It could not indeed have subsisted for a single
year without degenerating into license and disorder. Freedom in sexual
relations involves mutual trust and that can only rest on a basis of
personal responsibility. Where there can be no reliance on personal
responsibility there can be no freedom. In most fields of moral action
this sense of personal responsibility is acquired at a fairly early stage
of social progress. Sexual morality is the last field of morality to be
brought within the sphere of personal responsibility. The community
imposes the most varied, complicated, and artificial codes of sexual
morality on its members, especially its feminine members, and, naturally
enough, it is always very suspicious of their ability to observe these
codes, and is careful to allow them, so far as possible, no personal
responsibility in the matter. But a training in restraint, when carried
through a long series of generations, is the best preparation for freedom.
The law laid on the earlier generations, as old theology stated the
matter, has been the schoolmaster to bring the later generations to
Christ; or, as new science expresses exactly the same idea, the later
generations have become immunized and have finally acquired a certain
degree of protection against the virus which would have destroyed the
earlier generations.
The process by which a people acquires the sense of personal
responsibility is slow, and perhaps it cannot be adequately
acquired at all by races lacking a high grade of nervous
organization. This is especially the case as regards sexual
morality, and has often been illustrated on the contact of a
higher with a lower civilization. It has constantly happened that
missionaries--entirely against their own wishes, it need not be
said--by overthrowing the strict moral system they have found
established, and by substituting the freedom of European customs
among people entirely unprepared for such freedom, have exerted
the most disastrous effects on morality. This has been the case
among the formerly well-organized and highly moral Baganda of
Central Africa, as recorded in an official report by Colonel
Lambkin (_British Medical Journal_, Oct. 3, 1908).
As regards Polynesia, also, R.L. Stevenson, in his interesting
book, _In the South Seas_ (Ch. V), pointed out that, while before
the coming of the whites the Polynesians were, on the whole,
chaste, and the young carefully watched, now it is far otherwise.
Even in Fiji, where, according to Lord Stanmore--who was High
Commissioner of the Pacific, and an independent
critic--missionary effort has been "wonderfully successful,"
where all own at least nominal allegiance to Christianity, which
has much modified life and character, yet chastity has suffered.
This was shown by a Royal Commission on the condition of the
native races in Fiji. Mr. Fitchett, commenting on this report
(Australasian _Review of Reviews_, Oct., 1897) remarks: "Not a
few witnesses examined by the commission declare that the moral
advance in Fiji is of a curiously patchy type. The abolition of
polygamy, for example, they say, has not told at every point in
favor of women. The woman is the toiler in Fiji; and when the
support of the husband was distributed over four wives, the
burden on each wife was less than it is now, when it has to be
carried by one. In heathen times female chastity was guarded by
the club; a faithless wife, an unmarried mother, was summarily
put to death. Christianity has abolished club-law, and purely
moral restraints, or the terror of the penalties of the next
world, do not, to the limited imagination of the Fijian, quite
take its place. So the standard of Fijian chastity is
distressingly low."
It must always be remembered that when the highly organized
primitive system of mixed spiritual and physical restraints is
removed, chastity becomes more delicately and unstably poised.
The controlling power of personal responsibility, valuable and
essential as it is, cannot permanently and unremittingly restrain
the volcanic forces of the passion of love even in high
civilizations. "No perfection of moral constitution in a woman,"
Hinlon has well said, "no power of will, no wish and resolution
to be 'good,' no force of religion or control of custom, can
secure what is called the virtue of woman. The emotion of
absolute devotion with which some man may inspire her will sweep
them all away. Society, in choosing to erect itself on that
basis, chooses inevitable disorder, and so long as it continues
to choose it will continue to have that result."
It is necessary to insist for a while on this personal responsibility in
matters of sexual morality, in the form in which it is making itself felt
among us, and to search out its implications. The most important of these
is undoubtedly economic independence. That is indeed so important that
moral responsibility in any fine sense can scarcely be said to have any
existence in its absence. Moral responsibility and economic independence
are indeed really identical; they are but two sides of the same social
fact. The responsible person is the person who is able to answer for his
actions and, if need be, to pay for them. The economically dependent
person can accept a criminal responsibility; he can, with an empty purse,
go to prison or to death. But in the ordinary sphere of everyday morality
that large penalty is not required of him; if he goes against the wishes
of his family or his friends or his parish, they may turn their backs on
him but they cannot usually demand against him the last penalties of the
law. He can exert his own personal responsibility, he can freely choose to
go his own way and to maintain himself in it before his fellowmen on one
condition, that he is able to pay for it. His personal responsibility has
little or no meaning except in so far as it is also economic independence.
In civilized societies as they attain maturity, the women tend to acquire
a greater and greater degree alike of moral responsibility and economic
independence. Any freedom and seeming equality of women, even when it
actually assumes the air of superiority, which is not so based, is unreal.
It is only on sufferance; it is the freedom accorded to the child, because
it asks for it so prettily or may scream if it is refused. This is merely
parasitism.[295] The basis of economic independence ensures a more real
freedom. Even in societies which by law and custom hold women in strict
subordination, the woman who happens to be placed in possession of
property enjoys a high degree alike of independence and of
responsibility.[296] The growth of a high civilization seems indeed to be
so closely identified with the economic freedom and independence of women
that it is difficult to say which is cause and which effect. Herodotus, in
his fascinating account of Egypt, a land which he regarded as admirable
beyond all other lands, noted with surprise that, totally unlike the
fashion of Greece, women left the men at home to the management of the
loom and went to market to transact the business of commerce.[297] It is
the economic factor in social life which secures the moral responsibility
of women and which chiefly determines the position of the wife in relation
to her husband.[298] In this respect in its late stages civilization
returns to the same point it had occupied at the beginning, when, as has
already been noted, we find greater equality with men and at the same time
greater economic independence.[299]
In all the leading modern civilized countries, for a century past, custom
and law have combined to give an ever greater economic independence to
women. In some respects England took the lead by inaugurating the great
industrial movement which slowly swept women into its ranks,[300] and made
inevitable the legal changes which, by 1882, insured to a married woman
the possession of her own earnings. The same movement, with its same
consequences, is going on elsewhere. In the United States, just as in
England, there is a vast army of five million women, rapidly increasing,
who earn their own living, and their position in relation to men workers
is even better than in England. In France from twenty-five to seventy-five
per cent. of the workers in most of the chief industries--the liberal
professions, commerce, agriculture, factory industries--are women, and in
some of the very largest, such as home industries and textile industries,
more women are employed than men. In Japan, it is said, three-fifths of
the factory workers are women, and all the textile industries are in the
hands of women.[301] This movement is the outward expression of the modern
conception of personal rights, personal moral worth, and personal
responsibility, which, as Hobhouse has remarked, has compelled women to
take their lives into their own hands, and has at the same time rendered
the ancient marriage laws an anachronism, and the ancient ideals of
feminine innocence shrouded from the world a mere piece of false
sentiment.[302]
There can be no doubt that the entrance of women into the field
of industrial work, in rivalry with men and under somewhat the
same conditions as men, raises serious questions of another
order. The general tendency of civilization towards the economic
independence and the moral responsibility of women is
unquestionable. But it is by no means absolutely clear that it is
best for women, and, therefore, for the community, that women
should exercise all the ordinary avocations and professions of
men on the same level as men. Not only have the conditions of the
avocations and professions developed in accordance with the
special aptitudes of men, but the fact that the sexual processes
by which the race is propagated demand an incomparably greater
expenditure of time and energy on the part of women than of men,
precludes women in the mass from devoting themselves so
exclusively as men to industrial work. For some biologists,
indeed, it seems clear that outside the home and the school women
should not work at all. "Any nation that works its women is
damned," says Woods Hutchinson (_The Gospel According to Darwin_,
p. 199). That view is extreme. Yet from the economic side, also,
Hobson, in summing up this question, regards the tendency of
machine-industry to drive women away from the home as "a tendency
antagonistic to civilization." The neglect of the home, he
states, is, "on the whole, the worst injury modern industry has
inflicted on our lives, and it is difficult to see how it can be
compensated by any increase of material products. Factory life
for women, save in extremely rare cases, saps the physical and
moral health of the family. The exigencies of factory life are
inconsistent with the position of a good mother, a good wife, or
the maker of a home. Save in extreme circumstances, no increase
of the family wage can balance these losses, whose values stand
upon a higher qualitative level" (J.A. Hobson, _Evolution of
Modern Capitalism_, Ch. XII; cf. what has been said in Ch. I of
the present volume). It is now beginning to be recognized that
the early pioneers of the "woman's movement" in working to remove
the "subjection of woman" were still dominated by the old ideals
of that subjection, according to which the masculine is in all
main respects the superior sex. Whatever was good for man, they
thought, must be equally good for woman. That has been the source
of all that was unbalanced and unstable, sometimes both a little
pathetic and a little absurd, in the old "woman's movement."
There was a failure to perceive that, first of all, women must
claim their right to their own womanhood as mothers of the race,
and thereby the supreme law-givers in the sphere of sex and the
large part of life dependent on sex. This special position of
woman seems likely to require a readjustment of economic
conditions to their needs, though it is not likely that such
readjustment would be permitted to affect their independence or
their responsibility. We have had, as Madame Juliette Adam has
put it, the rights of men sacrificing women, followed by the
rights of women sacrificing the child; that must be followed by
the rights of the child reconstituting the family. It has already
been necessary to touch on this point in the first chapter of
this volume, and it will again be necessary in the last chapter.
The question as to the method by which the economic independence of women
will be completely insured, and the part which the community may be
expected to take in insuring it, on the ground of woman's special
child-bearing functions, is from the present point of view subsidiary.
There can be no doubt, however, as to the reality of the movement in that
direction, whatever doubt there may be as to the final adjustment of the
details. It is only necessary in this place to touch on some of the
general and more obvious respects in which the growth of woman's
responsibility is affecting sexual morality.
The first and most obvious way in which the sense of moral responsibility
works is in an insistence on reality in the relationships of sex. Moral
irresponsibility has too often combined with economic dependence to induce
a woman to treat the sexual event in her life which is biologically of
most fateful gravity as a merely gay and trivial event, at the most an
event which has given her a triumph over her rivals and over the superior
male, who, on his part, willingly condescends, for the moment, to assume
the part of the vanquished. "Gallantry to the ladies," we are told of the
hero of the greatest and most typical of English novels, "was among his
principles of honor, and he held it as much incumbent on him to accept a
challenge to love as if it had been a challenge to fight;" he heroically
goes home for the night with a lady of title he meets at a masquerade,
though at the time very much in love with the girl whom he eventually
marries.[303] The woman whose power lies only in her charms, and who is
free to allow the burden of responsibility to fall on a man's
shoulder,[304] could lightly play the seducing part, and thereby exert
independence and authority in the only shapes open to her. The man on his
part, introducing the misplaced idea of "honor" into the field from which
the natural idea of responsibility has been banished, is prepared to
descend at the lady's bidding into the arena, according to the old legend,
and rescue the glove, even though he afterwards flings it contemptuously
in her face. The ancient conception of gallantry, which Tom Jones so well
embodies, is the direct outcome of a system involving the moral
irresponsibility and economic dependence of women, and is as opposed to
the conceptions, prevailing in the earlier and later civilized stages, of
approximate sexual equality as it is to the biological traditions of
natural courtship in the world generally.
In controlling her own sexual life, and in realizing that her
responsibility for such control can no longer be shifted on to the
shoulders of the other sex, women will also indirectly affect the sexual
lives of men, much as men already affect the sexual lives of women. In
what ways that influence will in the main be exerted it is still premature
to say. According to some, just as formerly men bought their wives and
demanded prenuptial virginity in the article thus purchased, so nowadays,
among the better classes, women are able to buy their husbands, and in
their turn are disposed to demand continence.[305] That, however, is too
simple-minded a way of viewing the question. It is enough to refer to the
fact that women are not attracted to virginal innocence in men and that
they frequently have good ground for viewing such innocence with
suspicion.[306] Yet it may well be believed that women will more and more
prefer to exert a certain discrimination in the approval of their
husbands' past lives. However instinctively a woman may desire that her
husband shall be initiated in the art of making love to her, she may often
well doubt whether the finest initiation is to be secured from the average
prostitute. Prostitution, as we have seen, is ultimately as incompatible
with complete sexual responsibility as is the patriarchal marriage system
with which it has been so closely associated. It is an arrangement mainly
determined by the demands of men, to whatever extent it may have
incidentally subserved various needs of women. Men arranged that one group
of women should be set apart to minister exclusively to their sexual
necessities, while another group should be brought up in asceticism as
candidates for the privilege of ministering to their household and family
necessities. That this has been in many respects a most excellent
arrangement is sufficiently proved by the fact that it has nourished for
so long a period, notwithstanding the influences that are antagonistic to
it. But it is obviously only possible during a certain stage of
civilization and in association with a certain social organization. It is
not completely congruous with a democratic stage of civilization involving
the economic independence and the sexual responsibility of both sexes
alike in all social classes. It is possible that women may begin to
realize this fact earlier than men.
It is also believed by many that women will realize that a high degree of
moral responsibility is not easily compatible with the practice of
dissimulation and that economic independence will deprive deceit--which is
always the resort of the weak--of whatever moral justification it may
possess. Here, however, it is necessary to speak with caution or we may be
unjust to women. It must be remarked that in the sphere of sex men also
are often the weak, and are therefore apt to resort to the refuge of the
weak. With the recognition of that fact we may also recognize that
deception in women has been the cause of much of the age-long blunders of
the masculine mind in the contemplation of feminine ways. Men have
constantly committed the double error of overlooking the dissimulation of
women and of over-estimating it. This fact has always served to render
more difficult still the inevitably difficult course of women through the
devious path of sexual behavior. Pepys, who represents so vividly and so
frankly the vices and virtues of the ordinary masculine mind, tells how
one day when he called to see Mrs. Martin her sister Doll went out for a
bottle of wine and came back indignant because a Dutchman had pulled her
into a stable and tumbled and tossed her. Pepys having been himself often
permitted to take liberties with her, it seemed to him that her
indignation with the Dutchman was "the best instance of woman's falseness
in the world."[307] He assumes without question that a woman who has
accorded the privilege of familiarity to a man she knows and, one hopes,
respects, would be prepared to accept complacently the brutal attentions
of the first drunken stranger she meets in the street.
It was the assumption of woman's falseness which led the ultra-masculine
Pepys into a sufficiently absurd error. At this point, indeed, we
encounter what has seemed to some a serious obstacle to the full moral
responsibility of women. Dissimulation, Lombroso and Ferrero argue, is in
woman "almost physiological," and they give various grounds for this
conclusion.[308] The theologians, on their side, have reached a similar
conclusion. "A confessor must not immediately believe a woman's words,"
says Father Gury, "for women are habitually inclined to lie."[309] This
tendency, which seems to be commonly believed to affect women as a sex,
however free from it a vast number of individual women are, may be said,
and with truth, to be largely the result of the subjection of women and
therefore likely to disappear as that subjection disappears. In so far,
however, as it is "almost physiological," and based on radical feminine
characters, such as modesty, affectability, and sympathy, which have an
organic basis in the feminine constitution and can therefore never
altogether be changed, feminine dissimulation seems scarcely likely to
disappear. The utmost that can be expected is that it should be held in
check by the developed sense of moral responsibility, and, being reduced
to its simply natural proportions, become recognizably intelligible.
It is unnecessary to remark that there can be no question here as
to any inherent moral superiority of one sex over the other. The
answer to that question was well stated many years ago by one of
the most subtle moralists of love. "Taken altogether," concluded
Sénancour (_De l'Amour_, vol. ii, p. 85), "we have no reason to
assert the moral superiority of either sex. Both sexes, with
their errors and their good intentions, very equally fulfil the
ends of nature. We may well believe that in either of the two
divisions of the human species the sum of evil and that of good
are about equal. If, for instance, as regards love, we oppose the
visibly licentious conduct of men to the apparent reserve of
women, it would be a vain valuation, for the number of faults
committed by women with men is necessarily the same as that of
men with women. There exist among us fewer scrupulous men than
perfectly honest women, but it is easy to see how the balance is
restored. If this question of the moral preëminence of one sex
over the other were not insoluble it would still remain very
complicated with reference to the whole of the species, or even
the whole of a nation, and any dispute here seems idle."
This conclusion is in accordance with the general compensatory
and complementary relationship of women to men (see, e.g.,
Havelock Ellis, _Man and Woman_, fourth edition, especially pp.
448 et seq.).
In a recent symposium on the question whether women are morally
inferior to men, with special reference to aptitude for loyalty
(_La Revue_, Jan. 1, 1909), to which various distinguished French
men and women contributed their opinions, some declared that
women are usually superior; others regarded it as a question of
difference rather than of superiority or inferiority; all were
agreed that when they enjoy the same independence as men, women
are quite as loyal as men.
It is undoubtedly true that--partly as a result of ancient traditions and
education, partly of genuine feminine characteristics--many women are
diffident as to their right to moral responsibility and unwilling to
assume it. And an attempt is made to justify their attitude by asserting
that woman's part in life is naturally that of self-sacrifice, or, to put
the statement in a somewhat more technical form, that women are naturally
masochistic; and that there is, as Krafft-Ebing argues, a natural "sexual
subjection" of woman. It is by no means clear that this statement is
absolutely true, and if it were true it would not serve to abolish the
moral responsibility of women.
Bloch (_Beiträge zur Ætiologie der Psychopathia Sexualis_, Part
II, p. 178), in agreement with Eulenburg, energetically denies
that there is any such natural "sexual subjection" of women,
regarding it as artificially produced, the result of the socially
inferior position of women, and arguing that such subjection is
in much higher degree a physiological characteristic of men than
of women. (It has been necessary to discuss this question in
dealing with "Love and Pain" in the third volume of these
_Studies_.) It seems certainly clear that the notion that women
are especially prone to self-sacrifice has little biological
validity. Self-sacrifice by compulsion, whether physical or moral
compulsion, is not worthy of the name; when it is deliberate it
is simply the sacrifice of a lesser good for the sake of a
greater good. Doubtless a man who eats a good dinner may be said
to "sacrifice" his hunger. Even within the sphere of traditional
morality a woman who sacrifices her "honor" for the sake of her
love to a man has, by her "sacrifice," gained something that she
values more. "What a triumph it is to a woman," a woman has said,
"to give pleasure to a man she loves!" And in a morality on a
sound biological basis no "sacrifice" is here called for. It may
rather be said that the biological laws of courtship
fundamentally demand self-sacrifice of the male rather than of
the female. Thus the lioness, according to Gérard the
lion-hunter, gives herself to the most vigorous of her lion
wooers; she encourages them to fight among themselves for
superiority, lying on her belly to gaze at the combat and lashing
her tail with delight. Every female is wooed by many males, but
she only accepts one; it is not the female who is called upon for
erotic self-sacrifice, but the male. That is indeed part of the
divine compensation of Nature, for since the heavier part of the
burden of sex rests on the female, it is fitting that she should
be less called upon for renunciation.
It thus seems probable that the increase of moral responsibility may tend
to make a woman's conduct more intelligible to others;[310] it will in any
case certainly tend to make it less the concern of others. This is
emphatically the case as regards the relations of sex. In the past men
have been invited to excel in many forms of virtue; only one virtue has
been open to women. That is no longer possible. To place upon a woman the
main responsibility for her own sexual conduct is to deprive that conduct
of its conspicuously public character as a virtue or a vice. Sexual union,
for a woman as much as for a man, is a physiological fact; it may also be
a spiritual fact; but it is not a social act. It is, on the contrary, an
act which, beyond all other acts, demands retirement and mystery for its
accomplishment. That indeed is a general human, almost zoölogical, fact.
Moreover, this demand of mystery is more especially made by woman in
virtue of her greater modesty which, we have found reason to believe, has
a biological basis. It is not until a child is born or conceived that the
community has any right to interest itself in the sexual acts of its
members. The sexual act is of no more concern to the community than any
other private physiological act. It is an impertinence, if not an outrage,
to seek to inquire into it. But the birth of a child is a social act. Not
what goes into the womb but what comes out of it concerns society. The
community is invited to receive a new citizen. It is entitled to demand
that that citizen shall be worthy of a place in its midst and that he
shall be properly introduced by a responsible father and a responsible
mother. The whole of sexual morality, as Ellen Key has said, revolves
round the child.
At this final point in our discussion of sexual morality we may perhaps be
able to realize the immensity of the change which has been involved by the
development in women of moral responsibility. So long as responsibility
was denied to women, so long as a father or a husband, backed up by the
community, held himself responsible for a woman's sexual behavior, for
her "virtue," it was necessary that the whole of sexual morality should
revolve around the entrance to the vagina. It became absolutely essential
to the maintenance of morality that all eyes in the community should be
constantly directed on to that point, and the whole marriage law had to be
adjusted accordingly. That is no longer possible. When a woman assumes her
own moral responsibility, in sexual as in other matters, it becomes not
only intolerable but meaningless for the community to pry into her most
intimate physiological or spiritual acts. She is herself directly
responsible to society as soon as she performs a social act, and not
before.
In relation to the fact of maternity the realization of all that is
involved in the new moral responsibility of women is especially
significant. Under a system of morality by which a man is left free to
accept the responsibility for his sexual acts while a woman is not equally
free to do the like, a premium is placed on sexual acts which have no end
in procreation, and a penalty is placed on the acts which lead to
procreation. The reason is that it is the former class of acts in which
men find chief gratification; it is the latter class in which women find
chief gratification. For the tragic part of the old sexual morality in its
bearing on women was that while it made men alone morally responsible for
sexual acts in which both a man and a woman took part, women were rendered
both socially and legally incapable of availing themselves of the fact of
masculine responsibility unless they had fulfilled conditions which men
had laid down for them, and yet refrained from imposing upon themselves.
The act of sexual intercourse, being the sexual act in which men found
chief pleasure, was under all circumstances an act of little social
gravity; the act of bringing a child into the world, which is for women
the most massively gratifying of all sexual acts, was counted a crime
unless the mother had before fulfilled the conditions demanded by man.
That was perhaps the most unfortunate and certainly the most unnatural of
the results of the patriarchal regulation of society. It has never existed
in any great State where women have possessed some degree of regulative
power.
It has, of course, been said by abstract theorists that women
have the matter in their own hands. They must never love a man
until they have safely locked him up in the legal bonds of
matrimony. Such an argument is absolutely futile, for it ignores
the fact that, while love and even monogamy are natural, legal
marriage is merely an external form, with a very feeble power of
subjugating natural impulses, except when those impulses are
weak, and no power at all of subjugating them permanently.
Civilization involves the growth of foresight, and of
self-control in both sexes; but it is foolish to attempt to place
on these fine and ultimate outgrowths of civilization a strain
which they could never bear. How foolish it is has been shown,
once and for all, by Lea in his admirable _History of Sacerdotal
Celibacy_.
Moreover, when we compare the respective aptitudes of men and
women in this particular region, it must be remembered that men
possess a greater power of forethought and self-control than
women, notwithstanding the modesty and reserve of women. The
sexual sphere is immensely larger in women, so that when its
activity is once aroused it is much more difficult to master or
control. (The reasons were set out in detail in the discussion of
"The Sexual Impulse in Women" in volume iii of these _Studies_.)
It is, therefore, unfair to women, and unduly favors men, when
too heavy a premium is placed on forethought and self-restraint
in sexual matters. Since women play the predominant part in the
sexual field their natural demands, rather than those of men,
must furnish the standard.
With the realization of the moral responsibility of women the natural
relations of life spring back to their due biological adjustment.
Motherhood is restored to its natural sacredness. It becomes the concern
of the woman herself, and not of society nor of any individual, to
determine the conditions under which the child shall be conceived. Society
is entitled to require that the father shall in every case acknowledge the
fact of his paternity, but it must leave the chief responsibility for all
the circumstances of child-production to the mother. That is the point of
view which is now gaining ground in all civilized lands both in theory and
in practice.[311]
FOOTNOTES:
[257] E.g., E. Belfort Bax, _Outspoken Essays_, p. 6.
[258] Such reasons are connected with communal welfare. "All immoral acts
result in communal unhappiness, all moral acts in communal happiness," as
Prof. A. Mathews remarks, "Science and Morality," _Popular Science
Monthly_, March, 1909.
[259] See Westermarck, _Origin and Development of the Moral Ideas_, vol.
i, pp. 386-390, 522.
[260] Westermarck, _Origin and Development of the Moral Ideas_, pp. 9,
159; also the whole of Ch. VII. Actions that are in accordance with custom
call forth public approval, actions that are opposed to custom call forth
public resentment, and Westermarck powerfully argues that such approval
and such resentment are the foundation of moral judgments.
[261] This is well recognized by legal writers (e.g., E.A. Schroeder, _Das
Recht in der Geschlechtlichen Ordnung_, p. 5).
[262] W.G. Sumner (_Folkways_, p. 418) even considers it desirable to
change the form of the word in order to emphasize the real and fundamental
meaning of morals, and proposes the word _mores_ to indicate "popular
usages and traditions conducive to societal reform." "'Immoral,'" he
points out, "never means anything but contrary to the _mores_ of the time
and place." There is, however, no need whatever to abolish or to
supplement the good old ancient word "morality," so long as we clearly
realize that, on the practical side, it means essentially custom.
[263] Westermarck, op. cit., vol. i, p. 19.
[264] See, e.g., "Exogamy and the Mating of Cousins," in _Essays Presented
to E.B. Tylor_, 1907, p. 53. "In many departments of primitive life we
find a naïve desire to, as it were, assist Nature, to affirm what is
normal, and later to confirm it by the categorical imperative of custom
and law. This tendency still flourishes in our civilized communities, and,
as the worship of the normal, is often a deadly foe to the abnormal and
eccentric, and too often paralyzes originality."
[265] The spirit of Christianity, as illustrated by Paulinus, in his
_Epistle XXV_, was from the Roman point of view, as Dill remarks (_Roman
Society_, p. 11), "a renunciation, not only of citizenship, but of all the
hard-won fruits of civilization and social life."
[266] It thus happens that, as Lecky said in his _History of European
Morals_, "of all the departments of ethics the questions concerning the
relations of the sexes and the proper position of woman are those upon the
future of which there rests the greatest uncertainty." Some progress has
perhaps been made since these words were written, but they still hold true
for the majority of people.
[267] Concerning economic marriage as a vestigial survival, see, e.g.,
Bloch, _The Sexual Life of Our Time_, p. 212.
[268] Sénancour, _De l'Amour_, vol. ii, p. 233. The author of _The
Question of English Divorce_ attributes the absence of any widespread
feeling against sexual license to the absurd rigidity of the law.
[269] Bruno Meyer, "Etwas von Positiver Sexualreform," _Sexual-Probleme_,
Nov., 1908.
[270] Elsie Clews Parsons, _The Family_, p. 351. Dr. Parsons rightly
thinks such unions a social evil when they check the development of
personality.
[271] For evidence regarding the general absence of celibacy among both
savage and barbarous peoples, see, e.g., Westermarck, _History of Human
Marriage_, Ch. VII.
[272] There are, for instance, two millions of unmarried women in France,
while in Belgium 30 per cent, of the women, and in Germany sometimes even
50 per cent, are unmarried.
[273] Such a position would not be biologically unreasonable, in view of
the greatly preponderant part played by the female in the sexual process
which insures the conservation of the race. "If the sexual instinct is
regarded solely from the physical side," says D.W.H. Busch (_Das
Geschlechtsleben des Weibes_, 1839, vol. i, p. 201), "the woman cannot be
regarded as the property of the man, but with equal and greater reason the
man may be regarded as the property of the woman."
[274] Herodotus, Bk. i, Ch. CLXXIII.
[275] That power and relationship are entirely distinct was pointed out
many years ago by L. von Dargun, _Mutterrecht und Vaterrecht_, 1892.
Westermarck (_Origin and Development of the Moral Ideas_, vol. i, p. 655),
who is inclined to think that Steinmetz has not proved conclusively that
mother-descent involves less authority of husband over wife, makes the
important qualification that the husband's authority is impaired when he
lives among his wife's kinsfolk.
[276] Robertson Smith, _Kinship and Marriage in Early Arabia_; J.G. Frazer
has pointed out (_Academy_, March 27, 1886) that the partially Semitic
peoples on the North frontier of Abyssinia, not subjected to the
revolutionary processes of Islam, preserve a system closely resembling
_beena_ marriage, as well as some traces of the opposite system, by
Robertson Smith called _ba'al_ marriage, in which the wife is acquired by
purchase and becomes a piece of property.
[277] Spencer and Gillen, _Northern Tribes of Central Australia_, p. 358.
[278] Rhys and Brynmor-Jones, _The Welsh People_, pp. 55-6; cf. Rhys,
_Celtic Heathendom_, p. 93.
[279] Rhys and Brynmor-Jones, op. cit., p. 214.
[280] Crawley (_The Mystic Rose_, p. 41 et seq.) gives numerous instances.
[281] Revillout, "La Femme dans l'Antiquité," _Journal Asiatique_, 1906,
vol. vii, p. 57. See, also, Victor Marx, _Beiträge zur Assyriologie_,
1899, Bd. iv, Heft 1.
[282] Donaldson, _Woman_, pp. 196, 241 et seq. Nietzold, (_Die Ehe in_
"_Agypten_," p. 17), thinks the statement of Diodorus that no children
were illegitimate, needs qualification, but that certainly the
illegitimate child in Egypt was at no social disadvantage.
[283] Amélineau, _La Morale Egyptienne_, p. 194; Hobhouse, _Morals in
Evolution_, vol. i, p. 187; Flinders Petrie, _Religion and Conscience in
Ancient Egypt_, pp. 131 et seq.
[284] Maine, _Ancient Law_, Ch. V.
[285] Donaldson, _Woman_, pp. 109, 120.
[286] _Mercator_, iv, 5.
[287] Digest XLVIII, 13, 5.
[288] Hobhouse, _Morals in Evolution_, vol. i, p. 213.
[289] For an account of the work of some of the less known of these
pioneers, see a series of articles by Harriet McIlquham in the
_Westminster Review_, especially Nov., 1898, and Nov., 1903.
[290] The influence of Christianity on the position of women has been well
discussed by Lecky, _History of European Morals_, vol. ii, pp. 316 et
seq., and more recently by Donaldson, _Woman_, Bk. iii.
[291] Migne, _Patrologia_, vol. clviii, p. 680.
[292] Rosa Mayreder, "Einiges über die Starke Faust," _Zur Kritik der
Weiblichkeit_, 1905.
[293] Rasmussen (_People of the Polar North_, p. 56), describes a
ferocious quarrel between husband and wife, who each in turn knocked the
other down. "Somewhat later, when I peeped in, they were lying
affectionately asleep, with their arms around each other."
[294] Hobhouse, _Morals in Evolution_, vol. ii, p. 367. Dr. Stöcker, in
_Die Liebe und die Frauen_, also insists on the significance of this
factor of personal responsibility.
[295] Olive Schreiner has especially emphasized the evils of parasitism
for women. "The increased wealth of the male," she remarks ("The Woman's
Movement of Our Day," _Harper's Bazaar_, Jan., 1902), "no more of
necessity benefits and raises the female upon whom he expends it, than the
increased wealth of his mistress necessarily benefits, mentally or
physically, a poodle, because she can then give him a down cushion in
place of one of feathers, and chicken in place of beef." Olive Schreiner
believes that feminine parasitism is a danger which really threatens
society at the present time, and that if not averted "the whole body of
females in civilized societies must sink into a state of more or less
absolute dependence."
[296] In Rome and in Japan, Hobhouse notes (op. cit., vol. i, pp. 169,
176), the patriarchal system reached its fullest extension, yet the laws
of both these countries placed the husband in a position of practical
subjugation to a rich wife.
[297] Herodotus, Bk. ii, Ch. XXXV. Herodotus noted that it was the woman
and not the man on whom the responsibility for supporting aged parents
rested. That alone involved a very high economic position of women. It is
not surprising that to some observers, as to Diodorus Siculus, it seemed
that the Egyptian woman was mistress over her husband.
[298] Hobhouse (loc. cit.), Hale, and also Grosse, believe that good
economic position of a people involves high position of women. Westermarck
(_Moral Ideas_, vol. i, p. 661), here in agreement with Olive Schreiner,
thinks this statement cannot be accepted without modification, though
agreeing that agricultural life has a good effect on woman's position,
because they themselves become actively engaged in it. A good economic
position has no real effect in raising woman's position, unless women
themselves take a real and not merely parasitic part in it.
[299] Westermarck (_Moral Ideas_, vol. i, Ch. XXVI, vol. ii, p. 29) gives
numerous references with regard to the considerable proprietary and other
privileges of women among savages which tend to be lost at a somewhat
higher stage of culture.
[300] The steady rise in the proportion of women among English workers in
machine industries began in 1851. There are now, it is estimated, three
and a half million women employed in industrial occupations, beside a
million and a half domestic servants. (See for details, James Haslam, in a
series of papers in the _Englishwoman_ 1909.)
[301] See, e.g., J.A. Hobson, _The Evolution of Modern Capitalism_, second
edition, 1907, Ch. XII, "Women in Modern Industry."
[302] Hobhouse, op. cit., vol. i, p. 228.
[303] Fielding, _Tom Jones_, Bk. iii, Ch. VII.
[304] Even the Church to some extent adopted this allotment of the
responsibility, and "solicitation," i.e., the sin of a confessor in
seducing his female penitent, is constantly treated as exclusively the
confessor's sin.
[305] Adolf Gerson, _Sexual-Probleme_, Sept., 1908, p. 547.
[306] It has already been necessary to refer to the unfortunate results
which may follow the ignorance of husbands (see, e.g., "The Sexual Impulse
in Women," vol. iii of these _Studies_), and will be necessary again in
Ch. XI of the present volume.
[307] Pepys, _Diary_, ed. Wheatley, vol. vii, p. 10.
[308] Lombroso and Ferrero, _La Donna Delinquente_; cf. Havelock Ellis,
_Man and Woman_, fourth edition, p. 196.
[309] Gury, _Théologie Morale_, art. 381.
[310] "Men will not learn what women are," remarks Rosa Mayreder (_Zur
Kritik der Weiblichkeit_, p. 199), "until they have left off prescribing
what they ought to be."
[311] It has been set out, for instance, by Professor Wahrmund in _Ehe und
Eherecht_, 1908. I need scarcely refer again to the writings of Ellen Key,
which may be said to be almost epoch-making in their significance,
especially (in German translation) _Ueber Liebe und Ehe_ (also French
translation), and (in English translation, Putnam, 1909), the valuable,
though less important work, _The Century of the Child_. See also Edward
Carpenter, _Love's Coming of Age_; Forel, _Die Sexuelle Frage_ (English
translation, abridged, _The Sexual Question_, Rebman, 1908); Bloch,
_Sexualleben unsere Zeit_ (English translation, _The Sexual Life of Our
Time_, Rebman, 1908); Helene Stöcker, _Die Liebe und die Frauen_, 1906;
and Paul Lapie, _La Femme dans la Famille_, 1908.
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