Studies in the Psychology of Sex, Volume 6
CHAPTER VI.
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THE PROBLEM OF SEXUAL ABSTINENCE.
The Influence of Tradition--The Theological Conception of Lust--Tendency
of These Influences to Degrade Sexual Morality--Their Result in Creating
the Problem of Sexual Abstinence--The Protests Against Sexual
Abstinence--Sexual Abstinence and Genius--Sexual Abstinence in Women--The
Advocates of Sexual Abstinence--Intermediate Attitude--Unsatisfactory
Nature of the Whole Discussion--Criticism of the Conception of Sexual
Abstinence--Sexual Abstinence as Compared to Abstinence from Food--No
Complete Analogy--The Morality of Sexual Abstinence Entirely Negative--Is
It the Physician's Duty to Advise Extra-Conjugal Sexual
Intercourse?--Opinions of Those Who Affirm or Deny This Duty--The
Conclusion Against Such Advice--The Physician Bound by the Social and
Moral Ideas of His Age--The Physician as Reformer--Sexual Abstinence and
Sexual Hygiene--Alcohol--The Influence of Physical and Mental
Exercise--The Inadequacy of Sexual Hygiene in This Field--The Unreal
Nature of the Conception of Sexual Abstinence--The Necessity of Replacing
It by a More Positive Ideal.
When we look at the matter from a purely abstract or even purely
biological point of view, it might seem that in deciding that asceticism
and chastity are of high value for the personal life we have said all that
is necessary to say. That, however, is very far from being the case. We
soon realize here, as at every point in the practical application of
sexual psychology, that it is not sufficient to determine the abstractly
right course along biological lines. We have to harmonize our biological
demands with social demands. We are ruled not only by natural instincts
but by inherited traditions, that in the far past were solidly based on
intelligible grounds, and that even still, by the mere fact of their
existence, exert a force which we cannot and ought not to ignore.
In discussing the valuation of the sexual impulse we found that we had
good ground for making a very high estimate of love. In discussing
chastity and asceticism we found that they also are highly to be valued.
And we found that, so far from any contradiction being here involved,
love and chastity are intertwined in all their finest developments, and
that there is thus a perfect harmony in apparent opposition. But when we
come to consider the matter in detail, in its particular personal
applications, we find that a new factor asserts itself. We find that our
inherited social and religious traditions exert a pressure, all on one
side, which makes it impossible to place the relations of love and
chastity simply on the basis of biology and reason. We are confronted at
the outset by our traditions. On the one side these traditions have
weighted the word "lust"--considered as expressing all the manifestations
of the sexual impulse which are outside marriage or which fail to have
marriage as their direct and ostentatious end--with deprecatory and
sinister meanings. And on the other side these traditions have created the
problem of "sexual abstinence," which has nothing to do with either
asceticism or chastity as these have been defined in the previous chapter,
but merely with the purely negative pressure on the sexual impulse,
exerted, independently of the individual's wishes, by his religious and
social environment.
The theological conception of "lust," or "libido," as sin, followed
logically the early Christian conception of "the flesh," and became
inevitable as soon as that conception was firmly established. Not only,
indeed, had early Christian ideals a degrading influence on the estimation
of sexual desire _per se_, but they tended to depreciate generally the
dignity of the sexual relationship. If a man made sexual advances to a
woman outside marriage, and thus brought her within the despised circle of
"lust," he was injuring her because he was impairing her religious and
moral value.[92] The only way he could repair the damage done was by
paying her money or by entering into a forced and therefore probably
unfortunate marriage with her. That is to say that sexual relationships
were, by the ecclesiastical traditions, placed on a pecuniary basis, on
the same level as prostitution. By its well-meant intentions to support
the theological morality which had developed on an ascetic basis, the
Church was thus really undermining even that form of sexual relationship
which it sanctified.
Gregory the Great ordered that the seducer of a virgin shall
marry her, or, in case of refusal, be severely punished
corporally and shut up in a monastery to perform penance.
According to other ecclesiastical rules, the seducer of a virgin,
though held to no responsibility by the civil forum, was required
to marry her, or to find a husband and furnish a dowry for her.
Such rules had their good side, and were especially equitable
when seduction had been accomplished by deceit. But they largely
tended in practice to subordinate all questions of sexual
morality to a money question. The reparation to the woman, also,
largely became necessary because the ecclesiastical conception of
lust caused her value to be depreciated by contact with lust, and
the reparation might be said to constitute a part of penance.
Aquinas held that lust, in however slight a degree, is a mortal
sin, and most of the more influential theologians took a view
nearly or quite as rigid. Some, however, held that a certain
degree of delectation is possible in these matters without mortal
sin, or asserted, for instance, that to feel the touch of a soft
and warm hand is not mortal sin so long as no sexual feeling is
thereby aroused. Others, however, held that such distinctions are
impossible, and that all pleasures of this kind are sinful. Tomás
Sanchez endeavored at much length to establish rules for the
complicated problems of delectation that thus arose, but he was
constrained to admit that no rules are really possible, and that
such matters must be left to the judgment of a prudent man. At
that point casuistry dissolves and the modern point of view
emerges (see, e.g., Lea, _History of Auricular Confession_, vol.
ii, pp. 57, 115, 246, etc.).
Even to-day the influence of the old traditions of the Church still
unconsciously survives among us. That is inevitable as regards religious
teachers, but it is found also in men of science, even in Protestant
countries. The result is that quite contradictory dogmas are found side by
side, even in the same writer. On the one hand, the manifestations of the
sexual impulse are emphatically condemned as both unnecessary and evil; on
the other hand, marriage, which is fundamentally (whatever else it may
also be) a manifestation of the sexual impulse, receives equally emphatic
approval as the only proper and moral form of living.[93] There can be no
reasonable doubt whatever that it is to the surviving and pervading
influence of the ancient traditional theological conception of _libido_
that we must largely attribute the sharp difference of opinions among
physicians on the question of sexual abstinence and the otherwise
unnecessary acrimony with which these opinions have sometimes been stated.
On the one side, we find the emphatic statement that sexual intercourse is
necessary and that health cannot be maintained unless the sexual
activities are regularly exercised.
"All parts of the body which are developed for a definite use are kept in
health, and in the enjoyment of fair growth and of long youth, by the
fulfilment of that use, and by their appropriate exercise in the
employment to which they are accustomed." In that statement, which occurs
in the great Hippocratic treatise "On the Joints," we have the classic
expression of the doctrine which in ever varying forms has been taught by
all those who have protested against sexual abstinence. When we come down
to the sixteenth century outbreak of Protestantism we find that Luther's
revolt against Catholicism was in part a protest against the teaching of
sexual abstinence. "He to whom the gift of continence is not given," he
said in his _Table Talk_, "will not become chaste by fasting and vigils.
For my own part I was not excessively tormented [though elsewhere he
speaks of the great fires of lust by which he had been troubled], but all
the same the more I macerated myself the more I burnt." And three hundred
years later, Bebel, the would-be nineteenth century Luther of a different
Protestantism, took the same attitude towards sexual abstinence, while
Hinton the physician and philosopher, living in a land of rigid sexual
conventionalism and prudery, and moved by keen sympathy for the sufferings
he saw around him, would break into passionate sarcasm when confronted by
the doctrine of sexual abstinence. "There are innumerable ills--terrible
destructions, madness even, the ruin of lives--for which the embrace of
man and woman would be a remedy. No one thinks of questioning it.
Terrible evils and a remedy in a delight and joy! And man has chosen so to
muddle his life that he must say: 'There, that would be a remedy, but I
cannot use it. I _must be virtuous!_'"
If we confine ourselves to modern times and to fairly precise
medical statements, we find in Schurig's _Spermatologia_ (1720,
pp. 274 et seq.), not only a discussion of the advantages of
moderate sexual intercourse in a number of disorders, as
witnessed by famous authorities, but also a list of
results--including anorexia, insanity, impotence, epilepsy, even
death--which were believed to have been due to sexual abstinence.
This extreme view of the possible evils of sexual abstinence
seems to have been part of the Renaissance traditions of medicine
stiffened by a certain opposition between religion and science.
It was still rigorously stated by Lallemand early in the
nineteenth century. Subsequently, the medical statements of the
evil results of sexual abstinence became more temperate and
measured, though still often pronounced. Thus Gyurkovechky
believes that these results may be as serious as those of sexual
excess. Krafft-Ebing showed that sexual abstinence could produce
a state of general nervous excitement (_Jahrbuch für
Psychiatrie_, Bd. viii, Heft 1 and 2). Schrenck-Notzing regards
sexual abstinence as a cause of extreme sexual hyperæsthesia and
of various perversions (in a chapter on sexual abstinence in his
_Kriminalpsychologische und Psychopathologische Studien_, 1902,
pp. 174-178). He records in illustration the case of a man of
thirty-six who had masturbated in moderation as a boy, but
abandoned the practice entirely, on moral grounds, twenty years
ago, and has never had sexual intercourse, feeling proud to enter
marriage a chaste man, but now for years has suffered greatly
from extreme sexual hyperæsthesia and concentration of thought on
sexual subjects, notwithstanding a strong will and the resolve
not to masturbate or indulge in illicit intercourse. In another
case a vigorous and healthy man, not inverted, and with strong
sexual desires, who remained abstinent up to marriage, suffers
from psychic impotence, and his wife remains a virgin
notwithstanding all her affection and caresses. Ord considered
that sexual abstinence might produce many minor evils. "Most of
us," he wrote (_British Medical Journal_, Aug. 2, 1884) "have, no
doubt, been consulted by men, chaste in act, who are tormented by
sexual excitement. They tell one stories of long-continued local
excitement, followed by intense muscular weariness, or by severe
aching pain in the back and legs. In some I have had complaints
of swelling and stiffness in the legs, and of pains in the
joints, particularly in the knees;" he gives the case of a man
who suffered after prolonged chastity from inflammatory
conditions of knees and was only cured by marriage. Pearce
Gould, it may be added, finds that "excessive ungratified sexual
desire" is one of the causes of acute orchitis. Remondino ("Some
Observations on Continence as a Factor in Health and Disease,"
_Pacific Medical Journal_, Jan., 1900) records the case of a
gentleman of nearly seventy who, during the prolonged illness of
his wife, suffered from frequent and extreme priapism, causing
insomnia. He was very certain that his troubles were not due to
his continence, but all treatment failed and there were no
spontaneous emissions. At last Remondino advised him to, as he
expresses it, "imitate Solomon." He did so, and all the symptoms
at once disappeared. This case is of special interest, because
the symptoms were not accompanied by any conscious sexual desire.
It is no longer generally believed that sexual abstinence tends
to produce insanity, and the occasional cases in which prolonged
and intense sexual desire in young women is followed by insanity
will usually be found to occur on a basis of hereditary
degeneration. It is held by many authorities, however, that minor
mental troubles, of a more or less vague character, as well as
neurasthenia and hysteria, are by no means infrequently due to
sexual abstinence. Thus Freud, who has carefully studied
angstneurosis, the obsession of anxiety, finds that it is a
result of sexual abstinence, and may indeed be considered as a
vicarious form of such abstinence (Freud, _Sammlung Kleiner
Schriften zur Neurosenlehre_, 1906, pp. 76 et seq.).
The whole subject of sexual abstinence has been discussed at
length by Nyström, of Stockholm, in _Das Geschlechtsleben und
seine Gesetze_, Ch. III. He concludes that it is desirable that
continence should be preserved as long as possible in order to
strengthen the physical health and to develop the intelligence
and character. The doctrine of permanent sexual abstinence,
however, he regards as entirely false, except in the case of a
small number of religious or philosophic persons. "Complete
abstinence during a long period of years cannot be borne without
producing serious results both on the body and the mind....
Certainly, a young man should repress his sexual impulses as long
as possible and avoid everything that may artificially act as a
sexual stimulant. If, however, he has done so, and still suffers
from unsatisfied normal sexual desires, and if he sees no
possibility of marriage within a reasonable time, no one should
dare to say that he is committing a sin if, with mutual
understanding, he enters into sexual relations with a woman
friend, or forms temporary sexual relationships, provided, that
is, that he takes the honorable precaution of begetting no
children, unless his partner is entirely willing to become a
mother, and he is prepared to accept all the responsibilities of
fatherhood." In an article of later date ("Die Einwirkung der
Sexuellen Abstinenz auf die Gesundheit," _Sexual-Probleme_, July,
1908) Nyström vigorously sums up his views. He includes among the
results of sexual abstinence orchitis, frequent involuntary
seminal emissions, impotence, neurasthenia, depression, and a
great variety of nervous disturbances of vaguer character,
involving diminished power of work, limited enjoyment of life,
sleeplessness, nervousness, and pre-occupation with sexual
desires and imaginations. More especially there is heightened
sexual irritability with erections, or even seminal emissions on
the slightest occasion, as on gazing at an attractive woman or in
social intercourse with her, or in the presence of works of art
representing naked figures. Nyström has had the opportunity of
investigating and recording ninety cases of persons who have
presented these and similar symptoms as the result, he believes,
of sexual abstinence. He has published some of these cases
(_Zeitschrift für Sexualwissenschaft_, Oct., 1908), but it may be
added that Rohleder ("Die Abstinentia Sexualis," ib., Nov., 1908)
has criticized these cases, and doubts whether any of them are
conclusive. Rohleder believes that the bad results of sexual
abstinence are never permanent, and also that no anatomically
pathological states (such as orchitis) can be thereby produced.
But he considers, nevertheless, that even incomplete and
temporary sexual abstinence may produce fairly serious results,
and especially neurasthenic disturbances of various kinds, such
as nervous irritability, anxiety, depression, disinclination for
work; also diurnal emissions, premature ejaculations, and even a
state approaching satyriasis; and in women hysteria,
hystero-epilepsy, and nymphomaniacal manifestations; all these
symptoms may, however, he believes, be cured when the abstinence
ceases.
Many advocates of sexual abstinence have attached importance to
the fact that men of great genius have apparently been completely
continent throughout life. This is certainly true (see _ante_, p.
173). But this fact can scarcely be invoked as an argument in
favor of the advantages of sexual abstinence among the ordinary
population. J.F. Scott selects Jesus, Newton, Beethoven, and Kant
as "men of vigor and mental acumen who have lived chastely as
bachelors." It cannot, however, be said that Dr. Scott has been
happy in the four figures whom he has been able to select from
the whole history of human genius as examples of life-long sexual
abstinence. We know little with absolute certainty of Jesus, and
even if we reject the diagnosis which Professor Binet-Sanglé (in
his _Folie de Jesus_) has built up from a minute study of the
Gospels, there are many reasons why we should refrain from
emphasizing the example of his sexual abstinence; Newton, apart
from his stupendous genius in a special field, was an incomplete
and unsatisfactory human being who ultimately reached a condition
very like insanity; Beethoven was a thoroughly morbid and
diseased man, who led an intensely unhappy existence; Kant, from
first to last, was a feeble valetudinarian. It would probably be
difficult to find a healthy normal man who would voluntarily
accept the life led by any of these four, even as the price of
their fame. J.A. Godfrey (_Science of Sex_, pp. 139-147)
discusses at length the question whether sexual abstinence is
favorable to ordinary intellectual vigor, deciding that it is
not, and that we cannot argue from the occasional sexual
abstinence of men of genius, who are often abnormally
constituted, and physically below the average, to the normally
developed man. Sexual abstinence, it may be added, is by no means
always a favorable sign, even in men who stand intellectually
above the average. "I have not obtained the impression," remarks
Freud (_Sexual-Probleme_, March, 1908), "that sexual abstinence
is helpful to energetic and independent men of action or original
thinkers, to courageous liberators or reformers. The sexual
conduct of a man is often symbolic of his whole method of
reaction in the world. The man who energetically grasps the
object of his sexual desire may be trusted to show a similarly
relentless energy in the pursuit of other aims."
Many, though not all, who deny that prolonged sexual abstinence is
harmless, include women in this statement. There are some authorities
indeed who believe that, whether or not any conscious sexual desire is
present, sexual abstinence is less easily tolerated by women than by
men.[94]
Cabanis, in his famous and pioneering work, _Rapports du Physique
et du Moral_, said in 1802, that women not only bear sexual
excess more easily than men, but sexual privations with more
difficulty, and a cautious and experienced observer of to-day,
Löwenfeld (_Sexualleben und Nervenleiden_, 1899, p. 53), while
not considering that normal women bear sexual abstinence less
easily than men, adds that this is not the case with women of
neuropathic disposition, who suffer much more from this cause,
and either masturbate when sexual intercourse is impossible or
fall into hystero-neurasthenic states. Busch stated (_Das
Geschlechtsleben des Weibes_, 1839, vol. i, pp. 69, 71) that not
only is the working of the sexual functions in the organism
stronger in women than in men, but that the bad results of sexual
abstinence are more marked in women. Sir Benjamin Brodie said
long ago that the evils of continence to women are perhaps
greater than those of incontinence, and to-day Hammer (_Die
Gesundheitlichen Gefahren der Geschlechtlichen Enthaltsamkeit_,
1904) states that, so far as reasons of health are concerned,
sexual abstinence is no more to be recommended to women than to
men. Nyström is of the same opinion, though he thinks that women
bear sexual abstinence better than men, and has discussed this
special question at length in a section of his _Geschlechtsleben
und seine Gesetze_. He agrees with the experienced Erb that a
large number of completely chaste women of high character, and
possessing distinguished qualities of mind and heart, are more or
less disordered through their sexual abstinence; this is
specially often the case with women married to impotent men,
though it is frequently not until they approach the age of
thirty, Nyström remarks, that women definitely realize their
sexual needs.
A great many women who are healthy, chaste, and modest, feel at
times such powerful sexual desire that they can scarcely resist
the temptation to go into the street and solicit the first man
they meet. Not a few such women, often of good breeding, do
actually offer themselves to men with whom they may have perhaps
only the slightest acquaintance. Routh records such cases
(_British Gynæcological Journal_, Feb., 1887), and most men have
met with them at some time. When a woman of high moral character
and strong passions is subjected for a very long period to the
perpetual strain of such sexual craving, especially if combined
with love for a definite individual, a chain of evil results,
physical and moral, may be set up, and numerous distinguished
physicians have recorded such cases, which terminated at once in
complete recovery as soon as the passion was gratified. Lauvergne
long since described a case. A fairly typical case of this kind
was reported in detail by Brachet (_De l'Hypochondrie_, p. 69)
and embodied by Griesinger in his classic work on "Mental
Pathology." It concerned a healthy married lady, twenty-six years
old, having three children. A visiting acquaintance completely
gained her affections, but she strenuously resisted the seducing
influence, and concealed the violent passion that he had aroused
in her. Various serious symptoms, physical and mental, slowly
began to appear, and she developed what seemed to be signs of
consumption. Six months' stay in the south of France produced no
improvement, either in the bodily or mental symptoms. On
returning home she became still worse. Then she again met the
object of her passion, succumbed, abandoned her husband and
children, and fled with him. Six months later she was scarcely
recognizable; beauty, freshness and plumpness had taken the place
of emaciation; while the symptoms of consumption and all other
troubles had entirely disappeared. A somewhat similar case is
recorded by Camill Lederer, of Vienna (_Monatsschrift für
Harnkrankheiten und Sexuelle Hygiene_, 1906, Heft 3). A widow, a
few months after her husband's death, began to cough, with
symptoms of bronchial catarrh, but no definite signs of lung
disease. Treatment and change of climate proved entirely
unavailing to effect a cure. Two years later, as no signs of
disease had appeared in the lungs, though the symptoms continued,
she married again. Within a very few weeks all symptoms had
disappeared, and she was entirely fresh and well.
Numerous distinguished gynæcologists have recorded their belief
that sexual excitement is a remedy for various disorders of the
sexual system in women, and that abstinence is a cause of such
disorders. Matthews Duncan said that sexual excitement is the
only remedy for amenorrhoea; "the only emmenagogue medicine that
I know of," he wrote (_Medical Times_, Feb. 2, 1884), "is not to
be found in the Pharmacopoeia: it is erotic excitement. Of the
value of erotic excitement there is no doubt." Anstie, in his
work on _Neuralgia_, refers to the beneficial effect of sexual
intercourse on dysmenorrhoea, remarking that the necessity of the
full natural exercise of the sexual function is shown by the
great improvement in such cases after marriage, and especially
after childbirth. (It may be remarked that not all authorities
find dysmenorrhoea benefited by marriage, and some consider that
the disease is often thereby aggravated; see, e.g., Wythe Cook,
_American Journal Obstetrics_, Dec., 1893.) The distinguished
gynæcologist, Tilt, at a somewhat earlier date (_On Uterine and
Ovarian Inflammation_, 1862, p. 309), insisted on the evil
results of sexual abstinence in producing ovarian irritation, and
perhaps subacute ovaritis, remarking that this was specially
pronounced in young widows, and in prostitutes placed in
penitentiaries. Intense desire, he pointed out, determines
organic movements resembling those required for the gratification
of the desire. These burning desires, which can only be quenched
by their legitimate satisfaction, are still further heightened by
the erotic influence of thoughts, books, pictures, music, which
are often even more sexually stimulating than social intercourse
with men, but the excitement thus produced is not relieved by
that natural collapse which should follow a state of vital
turgescence. After referring to the biological facts which show
the effect of psychic influences on the formative powers of the
ovario-uterine organs in animals, Tilt continues: "I may fairly
infer that similar incitements on the mind of females may have a
stimulating effect on the organs of ovulation. I have frequently
known menstruation to be irregular, profuse, or abnormal in type
during courtship in women in whom nothing similar had previously
occurred, and that this protracted the treatment of chronic
ovaritis and of uterine inflammation." Bonnifield, of Cincinnati
(_Medical Standard_, Dec., 1896), considers that unsatisfied
sexual desire is an important cause of catarrhal endometritis. It
is well known that uterine fibroids bear a definite relation to
organic sexual activity, and that sexual abstinence, more
especially the long-continued deprivation of pregnancy, is a very
important cause of the disease. This is well shown by an analysis
by A.E. Giles (_Lancet_, March 2, 1907) of one hundred and fifty
cases. As many as fifty-six of these cases, more than a third,
were unmarried women, though nearly all were over thirty years of
age. Of the ninety-four married women, thirty-four had never been
pregnant; of those who had been pregnant, thirty-six had not been
so for at least ten years. Thus eighty-four per cent, had either
not been pregnant at all, or had had no pregnancy for at least
ten years. It is, therefore, evident that deprivation of sexual
function, whether or not involving abstinence from sexual
intercourse, is an important cause of uterine fibroid tumors.
Balls-Headley, of Victoria (_Evolution of the Diseases of Women_,
1894, and "Etiology of Diseases of Female Genital Organs,"
Allbutt and Playfair, _System of Gynæcology_,) believes that
unsatisfied sexual desire is a factor in very many disorders of
the sexual organs in women. "My views," he writes in a private
letter, "are founded on a really special gynæcological practice
of twenty years, during which I have myself taken about seven
thousand most careful records. The normal woman is sexually
well-formed and her sexual feelings require satisfaction in the
direction of the production of the next generation, but under the
restrictive and now especially abnormal conditions of
civilization some women undergo hereditary atrophy, and the
uterus and sexual feelings are feeble; in others of good average
local development the feeling is in restraint; in others the
feelings, as well as the organs, are strong, and if normal use be
withheld evils ensue. Bearing in mind these varieties of
congenital development in relation to the respective condition of
virginity, or sterile or parous married life, the mode of
occurrence and of progress of disease grows on the physician's
mind, and there is no more occasion for bewilderment than to the
mathematician studying conic sections, when his knowledge has
grown from the basis of the science. The problem is suggested:
Has a crowd of unassociated diseases fallen as through a sieve on
woman, or have these affections almost necessarily ensued from
the circumstances of her unnatural environment?" It may be added
that Kisch (_Sexual Life of Woman_), while protesting against any
exaggerated estimate of the effects of sexual abstinence,
considers that in women it may result, not only in numerous local
disorders, but also in nervous disturbance, hysteria, and even
insanity, while in neurasthenic women "regulated sexual
intercourse has an actively beneficial effect which is often
striking."
It is important to remark that the evil results of sexual
abstinence in women, in the opinion of many of those who insist
upon their importance, are by no means merely due to unsatisfied
sexual desire. They may be pronounced even when the woman herself
has not the slightest consciousness of sexual needs. This was
clearly pointed out forty years ago by the sagacious Anstie (_op.
cit._) In women, especially, he remarks, "a certain restless
hyperactivity of mind, and perhaps of body also, seems to be the
expression of Nature's unconscious resentment of the _neglect of
sexual functions_." Such women, he adds, have kept themselves
free from masturbation "at the expense of a perpetual and almost
fierce activity of mind and muscle." Anstie had found that some
of the worst cases of the form of nervosity and neurasthenia
which he termed "spinal irritation," often accompanied by
irritable stomach and anæmia, get well on marriage. "There can be
no question," he continues, "that a very large proportion of
these cases in single women (who form by far the greater number
of subjects of spinal irritation) are due to this conscious or
unconscious irritation kept up by an unsatisfied sexual want. It
is certain that very many young persons (women more especially)
are tormented by the irritability of the sexual organs without
having the least consciousness of sexual desire, and present the
sad spectacle of a _vie manquée_ without ever knowing the true
source of the misery which incapacitates them for all the active
duties of life. It is a singular fact that in occasional
instances one may even see two sisters, inheriting the same kind
of nervous organization, both tormented with the symptoms of
spinal irritation and both probably suffering from repressed
sexual functions, but of whom one shall be pure-minded and
entirely unconscious of the real source of her troubles, while
the other is a victim to conscious and fruitless sexual
irritation." In this matter Anstie may be regarded as a
forerunner of Freud, who has developed with great subtlety and
analytic power the doctrine of the transformation of repressed
sexual instinct in women into morbid forms. He considers that the
nervosity of to-day is largely due to the injurious action on the
sexual life of that repression of natural instincts on which our
civilization is built up. (Perhaps the clearest brief statement
of Freud's views on the matter is to be found in a very
suggestive article, "Die 'Kulturelle' Sexualmoral und die Moderne
Nervosität," in _Sexual-Probleme_, March, 1908, reprinted in the
second series of Freud's _Sammlung Kleiner Schriften zur
Neurosenlehre_, 1909). We possess the aptitude, he says, of
sublimating and transforming our sexual activities into other
activities of a psychically related character, but non-sexual.
This process cannot, however, be carried out to an unlimited
extent any more than can the conversion of heat into mechanical
work in our machines. A certain amount of direct sexual
satisfaction is for most organizations indispensable, and the
renunciation of this individually varying amount is punished by
manifestations which we are compelled to regard as morbid. The
process of sublimation, under the influence of civilization,
leads both to sexual perversions and to psycho-neuroses. These
two conditions are closely related, as Freud views the process of
their development; they stand to each other as positive and
negative, sexual perversions being the positive pole and
psycho-neuroses the negative. It often happens, he remarks, that
a brother may be sexually perverse, while his sister, with a
weaker sexual temperament, is a neurotic whose symptoms are a
transformation of her brother's perversion; while in many
families the men are immoral, the women pure and refined but
highly nervous. In the case of women who have no defect of sexual
impulse there is yet the same pressure of civilized morality
pushing them into neurotic states. It is a terribly serious
injustice, Freud remarks, that the civilized standard of sexual
life is the same for all persons, because though some, by their
organization, may easily accept it, for others it involves the
most difficult psychic sacrifices. The unmarried girl, who has
become nervously weak, cannot be advised to seek relief in
marriage, for she must be strong in order to "bear" marriage,
while we urge a man on no account to marry a girl who is not
strong. The married woman who has experienced the deceptions of
marriage has usually no way of relief left but by abandoning her
virtue. "The more strenuously she has been educated, and the more
completely she has been subjected to the demands of civilization,
the more she fears this way of escape, and in the conflict
between her desires and her sense of duty, she also seeks
refuge--in neurosis. Nothing protects her virtue so surely as
disease." Taking a still wider view of the influence of the
narrow "civilized" conception of sexual morality on women, Freud
finds that it is not limited to the production of neurotic
conditions; it affects the whole intellectual aptitude of women.
Their education denies them any occupation with sexual problems,
although such problems are so full of interest to them, for it
inculcates the ancient prejudice that any curiosity in such
matters is unwomanly and a proof of wicked inclinations. They are
thus terrified from thinking, and knowledge is deprived of worth.
The prohibition to think extends, automatically and inevitably,
far beyond the sexual sphere. "I do not believe," Freud
concludes, "that there is any opposition between intellectual
work and sexual activity such as was supposed by Möbius. I am of
opinion that the unquestionable fact of the intellectual
inferiority of so many women is due to the inhibition of thought
imposed upon them for the purpose of sexual repression."
It is only of recent years that this problem has been realized
and faced, though solitary thinkers, like Hinton, have been
keenly conscious of its existence; for "sorrowing virtue," as
Mrs. Ella Wheeler Wilcox puts it, "is more ashamed of its woes
than unhappy sin, because the world has tears for the latter and
only ridicule for the former." "It is an almost cynical trait of
our age," Hellpach wrote a few years ago, "that it is constantly
discussing the theme of prostitution, of police control, of the
age of consent, of the 'white slavery,' and passes over the moral
struggle of woman's soul without an attempt to answer her burning
questions."
On the other hand we find medical writers not only asserting with much
moral fervor that sexual intercourse outside marriage is always and
altogether unnecessary, but declaring, moreover, the harmlessness or even
the advantages of sexual abstinence.
Ribbing, the Swedish professor, in his _Hygiène Sexuelle_,
advocates sexual abstinence outside marriage, and asserts its
harmlessness. Gilles de la Tourette, Féré, and Augagneur in
France agree. In Germany Fürbringer (Senator and Kaminer, _Health
and Disease in Relation to Marriage_, vol. i, p. 228) asserts
that continence is possible and necessary, though admitting that
it may, however, mean serious mischief in exceptional cases.
Eulenburg (_Sexuale Neuropathie_, p. 14) doubts whether anyone,
who otherwise lived a reasonable life, ever became ill, or more
precisely neurasthenic, through sexual abstinence. Hegar,
replying to the arguments of Bebel in his well-known book on
women, denies that sexual abstinence can ever produce satyriasis
or nymphomania. Näcke, who has frequently discussed the problem
of sexual abstinence (e.g., _Archiv für Kriminal-Anthropologie_,
1903, Heft 1, and _Sexual-Probleme_, June, 1908), maintains that
sexual abstinence can, at most, produce rare and slight
unfavorable results, and that it is no more likely to produce
insanity, even in predisposed individuals, than are the opposite
extremes of sexual excess and masturbation. He adds that, so far
as his own observations are concerned, the patients in asylums
suffer scarcely at all from their compulsory sexual abstinence.
It is in England, however, that the virtues of sexual abstinence
have been most loudly and emphatically proclaimed, sometimes
indeed with considerable lack of cautious qualification. Acton,
in his _Reproductive Organs_, sets forth the traditional English
view, as well as Beale in his _Morality and the Moral Question_.
A more distinguished representative of the same view was Paget,
who, in his lecture on "Sexual Hypochondriasis," coupled sexual
intercourse with "theft or lying." Sir William Gowers (_Syphilis
and the Nervous System_, 1892, p. 126) also proclaims the
advantages of "unbroken chastity," more especially as a method of
avoiding syphilis. He is not hopeful, however, even as regards
his own remedy, for he adds: "We can trace small ground for hope
that the disease will thus be materially reduced." He would
still, however, preach chastity to the individual, and he does so
with all the ascetic ardor of a mediæval monk. "With all the
force that any knowledge I possess, and any authority I have, can
give, I assert that no man ever yet was in the slightest degree
or way the worse for continence or better for incontinence. From
the latter all are worse morally; a clear majority are worse
physically; and in no small number the result is, and ever will
be, utter physical shipwreck on one of the many rocks, sharp,
jagged-edged, which beset the way, or on one of the many beds of
festering slime which no care can possibly avoid." In America the
same view widely prevails, and Dr. J.F. Scott, in his
_Sexual-Instinct_ (second edition, 1908, Ch. III), argues very
vigorously and at great length in favor of sexual abstinence. He
will not even admit that there are two sides to the question,
though if that were the case, the length and the energy of his
arguments would be unnecessary.
Among medical authorities who have discussed the question of
sexual abstinence at length it is not, indeed, usually possible
to find such unqualified opinions in its favor as those I have
quoted. There can be no doubt, however, that a large proportion
of physicians, not excluding prominent and distinguished
authorities, when casually confronted with the question whether
sexual abstinence is harmless, will at once adopt the obvious
path of least resistance and reply: Yes. In only a few cases will
they even make any qualification of this affirmative answer. This
tendency is very well illustrated by an inquiry made by Dr.
Ludwig Jacobsohn, of St. Petersburgh ("Die Sexuelle
Enthaltsamkeit im Lichte der Medizin," _St. Petersburger
Medicinische Wochenschrift_, March 17, 1907). He wrote to over
two hundred distinguished Russian and German professors of
physiology, neurology, psychiatry, etc., asking them if they
regarded sexual abstinence as harmless. The majority returned no
answer; eleven Russian and twenty-eight Germans replied, but four
of them merely said that "they had no personal experience," etc.;
there thus remained thirty-five. Of these E. Pflüger, of Bonn,
was skeptical of the advantage of any propaganda of abstinence:
"if all the authorities in the world declared the harmlessness of
abstinence that would have no influence on youth. Forces are here
in play that break through all obstacles." The harmlessness of
abstinence was affirmed by Kräpelin, Cramer, Gärtner, Tuczek,
Schottelius, Gaffky, Finkler, Selenew, Lassar, Seifert, Gruber;
the last, however, added that he knew very few abstinent young
men, and himself only considered abstinence good before full
development, and intercourse not dangerous in moderation even
before then. Brieger knew cases of abstinence without harmful
results, but himself thought that no general opinion could be
given. Jürgensen said that abstinence _in itself_ is not harmful,
but that in some cases intercourse exerts a more beneficial
influence. Hoffmann said that abstinence is harmless, adding that
though it certainly leads to masturbation, that is better than
gonorrhoea, to say nothing of syphilis, and is easily kept within
bounds. Strümpell replied that sexual abstinence is harmless, and
indirectly useful as preserving from the risk of venereal
disease, but that sexual intercourse, being normal, is always
more desirable. Hensen said that abstinence is not to be
unconditionally approved. Rumpf replied that abstinence was not
harmful for most before the age of thirty, but after that age
there was a tendency to mental obsessions, and marriage should
take place at twenty-five. Leyden also considered abstinence
harmless until towards thirty, when it leads to psychic
anomalies, especially states of anxiety, and a certain
affectation. Hein replied that abstinence is harmless for most,
but in some leads to hysterical manifestations and indirectly to
bad results from masturbation, while for the normal man
abstinence cannot be directly beneficial, since intercourse is
natural. Grützner thought that abstinence is almost never
harmful. Nescheda said it is harmless in itself, but harmful in
so far as it leads to unnatural modes of gratification. Neisser
believes that more prolonged abstinence than is now usual would
be beneficial, but admitted the sexual excitations of our
civilization; he added that of course he saw no harm for healthy
men in intercourse. Hoche replied that abstinence is quite
harmless in normal persons, but not always so in abnormal
persons. Weber thought it had a useful influence in increasing
will-power. Tarnowsky said it is good in early manhood, but
likely to be unfavorable after twenty-five. Orlow replied that,
especially in youth, it is harmless, and a man should be as
chaste as his wife. Popow said that abstinence is good at all
ages and preserves the energy. Blumenau said that in adult age
abstinence is neither normal nor beneficial, and generally leads
to masturbation, though not generally to nervous disorders; but
that even masturbation is better than syphilis. Tschiriew saw no
harm in abstinence up to thirty, and thought sexual weakness more
likely to follow excess than abstinence. Tschish regarded
abstinence as beneficial rather than harmful up to twenty-five or
twenty-eight, but thought it difficult to decide after that age
when nervous alterations seem to be caused. Darkschewitcz
regarded abstinence as harmless up to twenty-five. Fränkel said
it was harmless for most, but that for a considerable proportion
of people intercourse is a necessity. Erb's opinion is regarded
by Jacobsohn as standing alone; he placed the age below which
abstinence is harmless at twenty; after that age he regarded it
as injurious to health, seriously impeding work and capacity,
while in neurotic persons it leads to still more serious results.
Jacobsohn concludes that the general opinion of those answering
the inquiry may thus be expressed: "Youth should be abstinent.
Abstinence can in no way injure them; on the contrary, it is
beneficial. If our young people will remain abstinent and avoid
extra-conjugal intercourse they will maintain a high ideal of
love and preserve themselves from venereal diseases."
The harmlessness of sexual abstinence was likewise affirmed in
America in a resolution passed by the American Medical
Association in 1906. The proposition thus formally accepted was
thus worded: "Continence is not incompatible with health." It
ought to be generally realized that abstract propositions of this
kind are worthless, because they mean nothing. Every sane person,
when confronted by the demand to boldly affirm or deny the
proposition, "Continence is not incompatible with health," is
bound to affirm it. He might firmly believe that continence is
incompatible with the health of most people, and that prolonged
continence is incompatible with anyone's health, and yet, if he
is to be honest in the use of language, it would be impossible
for him to deny the vague and abstract proposition that
"Continence is not incompatible with health." Such propositions
are therefore not only without value, but actually misleading.
It is obvious that the more extreme and unqualified opinions in
favor of sexual abstinence are based not on medical, but on what
the writers regard as moral considerations. Moreover, as the same
writers are usually equally emphatic in regard to the advantages
of sexual intercourse in marriage, it is clear that they have
committed themselves to a contradiction. The same act, as Näcke
rightly points out, cannot become good or bad according as it is
performed in or out of marriage. There is no magic efficacy in a
few words pronounced by a priest or a government official.
Remondino (loc. cit.) remarks that the authorities who have
committed themselves to declarations in favor of the
unconditional advantages of sexual abstinence tend to fall into
three errors: (1) they generalize unduly, instead of considering
each case individually, on its own merits; (2) they fail to
realize that human nature is influenced by highly mixed and
complex motives and cannot be assumed to be amenable only to
motives of abstract morality; (3) they ignore the great army of
masturbators and sexual perverts who make no complaint of sexual
suffering, but by maintaining a rigid sexual abstinence, so far
as normal relationships are concerned, gradually drift into
currents whence there is no return.
Between those who unconditionally affirm or deny the harmlessness of
sexual abstinence we find an intermediate party of authorities whose
opinions are more qualified. Many of those who occupy this more guarded
position are men whose opinions carry much weight, and it is probable that
with them rather than with the more extreme advocates on either side the
greater measure of reason lies. So complex a question as this cannot be
adequately investigated merely in the abstract, and settled by an
unqualified negative or affirmative. It is a matter in which every case
requires its own special and personal consideration.
"Where there is such a marked opposition of opinion truth is not
exclusively on one side," remarks Löwenfeld (_Sexualleben und
Nervenleiden_, second edition, p. 40). Sexual abstinence is
certainly often injurious to neuropathic persons. (This is now
believed by a large number of authorities, and was perhaps first
decisively stated by Krafft-Ebing, "Ueber Neurosen durch
Abstinenz," _Jahrbuch für Psychiatrie_, 1889, p. 1). Löwenfeld
finds no special proclivity to neurasthenia among the Catholic
clergy, and when it does occur, there is no reason to suppose a
sexual causation. "In healthy and not hereditarily neuropathic
men complete abstinence is possible without injury to the nervous
system." Injurious effects, he continues, when they appear,
seldom occur until between twenty-four and thirty-six years of
age, and even then are not usually serious enough to lead to a
visit to a doctor, consisting mainly in frequency of nocturnal
emissions, pain in testes or rectum, hyperæsthesia in the
presence of women or of sexual ideas. If, however, conditions
arise which specially stimulate the sexual emotions, neurasthenia
may be produced. Löwenfeld agrees with Freud and Gattel that the
neurosis of anxiety tends to occur in the abstinent, careful
examination showing that the abstinence is a factor in its
production in both sexes. It is common among young women married
to much older men, often appearing during the first years of
marriage. Under special circumstances, therefore, abstinence can
be injurious, but on the whole the difficulties due to such
abstinence are not severe, and they only exceptionally call forth
actual disturbance in the nervous or psychic spheres. Moll takes
a similar temperate and discriminating view. He regards sexual
abstinence before marriage as the ideal, but points out that we
must avoid any doctrinal extremes in preaching sexual abstinence,
for such preaching will merely lead to hypocrisy. Intercourse
with prostitutes, and the tendency to change a woman like a
garment, induce loss of sensitiveness to the spiritual and
personal element in woman, while the dangers of sexual abstinence
must no more be exaggerated than the dangers of sexual
intercourse (Moll, _Libido Sexualis_, 1898, vol. i, p. 848; id.,
_Konträre Sexualempfindung_, 1899, p. 588). Bloch also (in a
chapter on the question of sexual abstinence in his _Sexualleben
unserer Zeit_, 1908) takes a similar standpoint. He advocates
abstention during early life and temporary abstention in adult
life, such abstention being valuable, not only for the
conservation and transformation of energy, but also to emphasize
the fact that life contains other matters to strive for beyond
the ends of sex. Redlich (_Medizinische Klinik_, 1908, No. 7)
also, in a careful study of the medical aspects of the question,
takes an intermediate standpoint in relation to the relative
advantages and disadvantages of sexual abstinence. "We may say
that sexual abstinence is not a condition which must, under all
circumstances and at any price, be avoided, though it is true
that for the majority of healthy adult persons regular sexual
intercourse is advantageous, and sometimes is even to be
recommended."
It may be added that from the standpoint of Christian religious
morality this same attitude, between the extremes of either
party, recognizing the advantages of sexual abstinence, but not
insisting that they shall be purchased at any price, has also
found representation. Thus, in England, an Anglican clergyman,
the Rev. H. Northcote (_Christianity and Sex Problems_, pp. 58,
60) deals temperately and sympathetically with the difficulties
of sexual abstinence, and is by no means convinced that such
abstinence is always an unmixed advantage; while in Germany a
Catholic priest, Karl Jentsch (_Sexualethik, Sexualjustiz,
Sexualpolizei_, 1900) sets himself to oppose the rigorous and
unqualified assertions of Ribbing in favor of sexual abstinence.
Jentsch thus expresses what he conceives ought to be the attitude
of fathers, of public opinion, of the State and the Church
towards the young man in this matter: "Endeavor to be abstinent
until marriage. Many succeed in this. If you can succeed, it is
good. But, if you cannot succeed, it is unnecessary to cast
reproaches on yourself and to regard yourself as a scoundrel or a
lost sinner. Provided that you do not abandon yourself to mere
enjoyment or wantonness, but are content with what is necessary
to restore your peace of mind, self-possession, and cheerful
capacity for work, and also that you observe the precautions
which physicians or experienced friends impress upon you."
When we thus analyze and investigate the the three main streams of expert
opinions in regard to this question of sexual abstinence--the opinions in
favor of it, the opinions in opposition to it, and the opinions which take
an intermediate course--we can scarcely fail to conclude how
unsatisfactory the whole discussion is. The state of "sexual abstinence"
is a completely vague and indefinite state. The indefinite and even
meaningless character of the expression "sexual abstinence" is shown by
the frequency with which those who argue about it assume that it can, may,
or even must, involve masturbation. That fact alone largely deprives it of
value as morality and altogether as abstinence. At this point, indeed, we
reach the most fundamental criticism to which the conception of "sexual
abstinence" lies open. Rohleder, an experienced physician and a recognized
authority on questions of sexual pathology, has submitted the current
views on "sexual abstinence" to a searching criticism in a lengthy and
important paper.[95] He denies altogether that strict sexual abstinence
exists at all. "Sexual abstinence," he points out, in any strict scenes of
the term, must involve abstinence not merely from sexual intercourse but
from auto-erotic manifestations, from masturbation, from homosexual acts,
from all sexually perverse practices. It must further involve a permanent
abstention from indulgence in erotic imaginations and voluptuous reverie.
When, however, it is possible thus to render the whole psychic field a
_tabula rasa_ so far as sexual activity is concerned--and if it fails to
be so constantly and consistently there is no strict sexual
abstinence--then, Rohleder points out, we have to consider whether we are
not in presence of a case of sexual anæsthesia, of _anaphrodisia
sexualis_. That is a question which is rarely, if ever, faced by those who
discuss sexual abstinence. It is, however, an extremely pertinent
question, because, as Rohleder insists, if sexual anæsthesia exists the
question of sexual abstinence falls to the ground, for we can only
"abstain" from actions that are in our power. Complete sexual anæsthesia
is, however, so rare a state that it may be practically left out of
consideration, and as the sexual impulse, if it exists, must by
physiological necessity sometimes become active in some shape--even if
only, according to Freud's view, by transformation into some morbid
neurotic condition--we reach the conclusion that "sexual abstinence" is
strictly impossible. Rohleder has met with a few cases in which there
seemed to him no escape from the conclusion that sexual abstinence
existed, but in all of these he subsequently found that he was mistaken,
usually owing to the practice of masturbation, which he believes to be
extremely common and very frequently accompanied by a persistent attempt
to deceive the physician concerning its existence. The only kind of
"sexual abstinence" that exists is a partial and temporary abstinence.
Instead of saying, as some say, "Permanent abstinence is unnatural and
cannot exist without physical and mental injury," we ought to say,
Rohleder believes, "Permanent abstinence is unnatural and has never
existed."
It is impossible not to feel as we contemplate this chaotic mass of
opinions, that the whole discussion is revolving round a purely negative
idea, and that fundamental fact is responsible for what at first seem to
be startling conflicts of statement. If indeed we were to eliminate what
is commonly regarded as the religious and moral aspect of the matter--an
aspect, be it remembered, which has no bearing on the essential natural
facts of the question--we cannot fail to perceive that these ostentatious
differences of conviction would be reduced within very narrow and trifling
limits.
We cannot strictly coordinate the impulse of reproduction with the impulse
of nutrition. There are very important differences between them, more
especially the fundamental difference that while the satisfaction of the
one impulse is absolutely necessary both to the life of the individual and
of the race, the satisfaction of the other is absolutely necessary only to
the life of the race. But when we reduce this question to one of "sexual
abstinence" we are obviously placing it on the same basis as that of
abstinence from food, that is to say at the very opposite pole to which we
place it when (as in the previous chapter) we consider it from the point
of view of asceticism and chastity. It thus comes about that on this
negative basis there really is an interesting analogy between nutritive
abstinence, though necessarily only maintained incompletely and for a
short time, and sexual abstinence, maintained more completely and for a
longer time. A patient of Janet's seems to bring out clearly this
resemblance. Nadia, whom Janet was able to study during five years, was a
young woman of twenty-seven, healthy and intelligent, not suffering from
hysteria nor from anorexia, for she had a normal appetite. But she had an
idea; she was anxious to be slim and to attain this end she cut down her
meals to the smallest size, merely a little soup and a few eggs. She
suffered much from the abstinence she thus imposed on herself, and was
always hungry, though sometimes her hunger was masked by the inevitable
stomach trouble caused by so long a persistence in this _régime_. At
times, indeed, she had been so hungry that she had devoured greedily
whatever she could lay her hands on, and not infrequently she could not
resist the temptation to eat a few biscuits in secret. Such actions caused
her horrible remorse, but, all the same, she would be guilty of them
again. She realized the great efforts demanded by her way of life, and
indeed looked upon herself as a heroine for resisting so long.
"Sometimes," she told Janet, "I passed whole hours in thinking about food,
I was so hungry. I swallowed my saliva, I bit my handkerchief, I rolled
on the ground, I wanted to eat so badly. I searched books for descriptions
of meals and feasts, I tried to deceive my hunger by imagining that I too
was enjoying all these good things. I was really famished, and in spite of
a few weaknesses for biscuits I know that I showed much courage."[96]
Nadia's motive idea, that she wished to be slim, corresponds to the
abstinent man's idea that he wishes to be "moral," and only differs from
it by having the advantage of being somewhat more positive and personal,
for the idea of the person who wishes to avoid sexual indulgence because
it is "not right" is often not merely negative but impersonal and imposed
by the social and religious environment. Nadia's occasional outbursts of
reckless greediness correspond to the sudden impulses to resort to
prostitution, and her secret weaknesses for biscuits, followed by keen
remorse, to lapses into the habit of masturbation. Her fits of struggling
and rolling on the ground are precisely like the outbursts of futile
desire which occasionally occur to young abstinent men and women in health
and strength. The absorption in thoughts about meals and in literary
descriptions of meals is clearly analogous to the abstinent man's
absorption in wanton thoughts and erotic books. Finally, Nadia's
conviction that she is a heroine corresponds exactly to the attitude of
self-righteousness which often marks the sexually abstinent.
If we turn to Freud's penetrating and suggestive study of the problem of
sexual abstinence in relation to "civilized" sexual morality, we find
that, though he makes no reference to the analogy with abstinence from
food, his words would for the most part have an equal application to both
cases. "The task of subduing so powerful an instinct as the sexual
impulse, otherwise than by giving it satisfaction," he writes, "is one
which may employ the whole strength of a man. Subjugation through
sublimation, by guiding the sexual forces into higher civilizational
paths, may succeed with a minority, and even with these only for a time,
least easily during the years of ardent youthful energy. Most others
become neurotic or otherwise come to grief. Experience shows that the
majority of people constituting our society are constitutionally unequal
to the task of abstinence. We say, indeed, that the struggle with this
powerful impulse and the emphasis the struggle involves on the ethical and
æsthetic forces in the soul's life 'steels' the character, and for a few
favorably organized natures this is true; it must also be acknowledged
that the differentiation of individual character so marked in our time
only becomes possible through sexual limitations. But in by far the
majority of cases the struggle with sensuality uses up the available
energy of character, and this at the very time when the young man needs
all his strength in order to win his place in the world."[97]
When we have put the problem on this negative basis of abstinence it is
difficult to see how we can dispute the justice of Freud's conclusions.
They hold good equally for abstinence from food and abstinence from sexual
love. When we have placed the problem on a more positive basis, and are
able to invoke the more active and fruitful motives of asceticism and
chastity this unfortunate fight against a natural impulse is abolished. If
chastity is an ideal of the harmonious play of all the organic impulses of
the soul and body, if asceticism, properly understood, is the athletic
striving for a worthy object which causes, for the time, an indifference
to the gratification of sexual impulses, we are on wholesome and natural
ground, and there is no waste of energy in fruitless striving for a
negative end, whether imposed artificially from without, as it usually is,
or voluntarily chosen by the individual himself.
For there is really no complete analogy between sexual desire and hunger,
between abstinence from sexual relations and abstinence from food. When we
put them both on the basis of abstinence we put them on a basis which
covers the impulse for food but only half covers the impulse for sexual
love. We confer no pleasure and no service on our food when we eat it. But
the half of sexual love, perhaps the most important and ennobling half,
lies in what we give and not in what we take. To reduce this question to
the low level of abstinence, is not only to centre it in a merely negative
denial but to make it a solely self-regarding question. Instead of asking:
How can I bring joy and strength to another? we only ask: How can I
preserve my empty virtue?
Therefore it is that from whatever aspect we consider the
question,--whether in view of the flagrant contradiction between the
authorities who have discussed this question, or of the illegitimate
mingling here of moral and physiological considerations, or of the merely
negative and indeed unnatural character of the "virtue" thus set up, or of
the failure involved to grasp the ennoblingly altruistic and mutual side
of sexual love,--from whatever aspect we approach the problem of "sexual
abstinence" we ought only to agree to do so under protest.
If we thus decide to approach it, and if we have reached the
conviction--which, in view of all the evidence we can scarcely
escape--that, while sexual abstinence in so far as it may be recognized as
possible is not incompatible with health, there are yet many adults for
whom it is harmful, and a very much larger number for whom when prolonged
it is undesirable, we encounter a serious problem. It is a problem which
confronts any person, and especially the physician, who may be called upon
to give professional advice to his fellows on this matter. If sexual
relationships are sometimes desirable for unmarried persons, or for
married persons who, for any reason, are debarred from conjugal union, is
a physician justified in recommending such sexual relationships to his
patient? This is a question that has frequently been debated and decided
in opposing senses.
Various distinguished physicians, especially in Germany, have
proclaimed the duty of the doctor to recommend sexual intercourse
to his patient whenever he considers it desirable. Gyurkovechky,
for instance, has fully discussed this question, and answered it
in the affirmative. Nyström (_Sexual-Probleme_, July, 1908, p.
413) states that it is the physician's duty, in some cases of
sexual weakness, when all other methods of treatment have failed,
to recommend sexual intercourse as the best remedy. Dr. Max
Marcuse stands out as a conspicuous advocate of the unconditional
duty of the physician to advocate sexual intercourse in some
cases, both to men and to women, and has on many occasions argued
in this sense (e.g., _Darf der Arzt zum Ausserehelichen
Geschlechtsverkehr raten?_ 1904). Marcuse is strongly of opinion
that a physician who, allowing himself to be influenced by moral,
sociological, or other considerations, neglects to recommend
sexual intercourse when he considers it desirable for the
patient's health, is unworthy of his profession, and should
either give up medicine or send his patients to other doctors.
This attitude, though not usually so emphatically stated, seems
to be widely accepted. Lederer goes even further when he states
(_Monatsschrift für Harnkrankheiten und Sexuelle Hygiene_, 1906,
Heft 3) that it is the physician's duty in the case of a woman
who is suffering from her husband's impotence, to advise her to
have intercourse with another man, adding that "whether she does
so with her husband's consent is no affair of the physician's,
for he is not the guardian of morality, but the guardian of
health." The physicians who publicly take this attitude are,
however, a small minority. In England, so far as I am aware, no
physician of eminence has openly proclaimed the duty of the
doctor to advise sexual intercourse outside marriage, although,
it is scarcely necessary to add, in England, as elsewhere, it
happens that doctors, including women doctors, from time to time
privately point out to their unmarried and even married patients,
that sexual intercourse would probably be beneficial.
The duty of the physician to recommend sexual intercourse has
been denied as emphatically as it has been affirmed. Thus
Eulenburg (_Sexuale Neuropathie_, p. 43), would by no means
advise extra-conjugal relations to his patient; "such advice is
quite outside the physician's competence." It is, of course,
denied by those who regard sexual abstinence as always harmless,
if not beneficial. But it is also denied by many who consider
that, under some circumstances, sexual intercourse would do good.
Moll has especially, and on many occasions, discussed the duty of
the physician in relation to the question of advising sexual
intercourse outside marriage (e.g., in his comprehensive work,
_Aerztliche Ethik_, 1902; also _Zeitschrift für Aerztliche
Fortbildung_, 1905, Nos. 12-15; _Mutterschutz_, 1905, Heft 3;
_Geschlecht und Gesellschaft_, vol. ii, Heft 8). At the outset
Moll had been disposed to assert the right of the physician to
recommend sexual intercourse under some circumstances; "so long
as marriage is unduly delayed and sexual intercourse outside
marriage exists," he wrote (_Die Conträre Sexualempfindung_,
second edition, p. 287), "so long, I think, we may use such
intercourse therapeutically, provided that the rights of no third
person (husband or wife) are injured." In all his later writings,
however, Moll ranges himself clearly and decisively on the
opposite side. He considers that the physician has no right to
overlook the possible results of his advice in inflicting
venereal disease, or, in the case of a woman, pregnancy, on his
patient, and he believes that these serious results are far more
likely to happen than is always admitted by those who defend the
legitimacy of such advice. Nor will Moll admit that the physician
is entitled to overlook the moral aspects of the question. A
physician may know that a poor man could obtain many things good
for his health by stealing, but he cannot advise him to steal.
Moll takes the case of a Catholic priest who is suffering from
neurasthenia due to sexual abstinence. Even although the
physician feels certain that the priest may be able to avoid all
the risks of disease as well as of publicity, he is not entitled
to urge him to sexual intercourse. He has to remember that in
thus causing a priest to break his vows of chastity he may induce
a mental conflict and a bitter remorse which may lead to the
worst results, even on his patient's physical health. Similar
results, Moll remarks, may follow such advice when given to a
married man or woman, to say nothing of possible divorce
proceedings and accompanying evils.
Rohleder (_Vorlesungen über Geschlechtstrieb und Gesamtes
Geschlechtsleben der Menschen_) adopts a somewhat qualified
attitude in this matter. As a general rule he is decidedly
against recommending sexual intercourse outside marriage to those
who are suffering from partial or temporary abstinence (the only
form of abstinence he recognizes), partly on the ground that the
evils of abstinence are not serious or permanent, and partly
because the patient is fairly certain to exercise his own
judgment in the matter. But in some classes of cases he
recommends such intercourse, and notably to bisexual persons, on
the ground that he is thus preserving his patient from the
criminal risks of homosexual practices.
It seems to me that there should be no doubt whatever as to the correct
professional attitude of the physician in relation to this question of
advice concerning sexual intercourse. The physician is never entitled to
advise his patient to adopt sexual intercourse outside marriage nor any
method of relief which is commonly regarded as illegitimate. It is said
that the physician has nothing to do with considerations of conventional
morality. If he considers that champagne would be good for a poor patient
he ought to recommend him to take champagne; he is not called upon to
consider whether the patient will beg, borrow, or steal the champagne.
But, after all, even if that be admitted, it must still be said that the
physician knows that the champagne, however obtained, is not likely to be
poisonous. When, however, he prescribes sexual intercourse, with the same
lofty indifference to practical considerations, he has no such knowledge.
In giving such a prescription the physician has in fact not the slightest
knowledge of what he may be prescribing. He may be giving his patient a
venereal disease; he may be giving the anxieties and responsibilities of
an illegitimate child; the prescriber is quite in the dark. He is in the
same position as if he had prescribed a quack medicine of which the
composition was unknown to him, with the added disadvantage that the
medicine may turn out to be far more potently explosive than is the case
with the usually innocuous patent medicine. The utmost that a physician
can properly permit himself to do is to put the case impartially before
his patient and to present to him all the risks. The solution must be for
the patient himself to work out, as best he can, for it involves social
and other considerations which, while they are indeed by no means outside
the sphere of medicine, are certainly entirely outside the control of the
individual private practitioner of medicine.
Moll also is of opinion that this impartial presentation of the
case for and against sexual intercourse corresponds to the
physician's duty in the matter. It is, indeed, a duty which can
scarcely be escaped by the physician in many cases. Moll points
out that it can by no means be assimilated, as some have
supposed, with the recommendation of sexual intercourse. It is,
on the contrary, he remarks, much more analogous to the
physician's duty in reference to operations. He puts before the
patient the nature of the operation, its advantages and its
risks, but he leaves it to the patient's judgment to accept or
reject the operation. Lewitt also (_Geschlechtliche
Enthaltsamkeit und Gesundheitsstörungen_, 1905), after discussing
the various opinions on this question, comes to the conclusion
that the physician, if he thinks that intercourse outside
marriage might be beneficial, should explain the difficulties and
leave the patient himself to decide.
There is another reason why, having regard to the prevailing moral
opinions at all events among the middle classes, a physician should
refrain from advising extra-conjugal intercourse: he places himself in a
false relation to his social environment. He is recommending a remedy the
nature of which he could not publicly avow, and so destroying the public
confidence in himself. The only physician who is morally entitled to
advise his patients to enter into extra-conjugal relationships is one who
openly acknowledges that he is prepared to give such advice. The doctor
who is openly working for social reform has perhaps won the moral right to
give advice in accordance with the tendency of his public activity, but
even then his advice may be very dubiously judicious, and he would be
better advised to confine his efforts at social reform to his public
activities. The voice of the physician, as Professor Max Flesch of
Frankfort observes, is more and more heard in the development and new
growth of social institutions; he is a natural leaders in such movements,
and proposals for reform properly come from him. "But," as Flesch
continues, "publicly to accept the excellence of existing institutions and
in the privacy of the consulting-room to give advice which assumes the
imperfection of those institutions is illogical and confusing. It is the
physician's business to give advice which is in accordance with the
interests of the community as a whole, and those interests require that
sexual relationships should be entered into between healthy men and women
who are able and willing to accept the results of their union. That should
be the physician's rule of conduct. Only so can he become, what to-day he
is often proclaimed to be, the leader of the nation."[98] This view is
not, as we see, entirely in accord with that which assumes that the
physician's duty is solely and entirely to his patient, without regard to
the bearing of his advice on social conduct. The patient's interests are
primary, but they are not entitled to be placed in antagonism to the
interests of society. The advice given by the wise physician must always
be in harmony with the social and moral tone of his age. Thus it is that
the tendency among the younger generation of physicians to-day to take an
active interest in raising that tone and in promoting social reform--a
tendency which exists not only in Germany where such interests have long
been acute, but also in so conservative a land as England--is full of
promise for the future.
The physician is usually content to consider his duty to his patient in
relationship to sexual abstinence as sufficiently fulfilled when he
attempts to allay sexual hyperæsthesia by medical or hygienic treatment.
It can scarcely be claimed, however, that the results of such treatment
are usually satisfactory, and sometimes indeed the treatment has a result
which is the reverse of that intended. The difficulty generally is that in
order to be efficacious the treatment must be carried to an extreme which
exhausts or inhibits not only the genital activities alone but the
activities of the whole organism, and short of that it may prove a
stimulant rather than a sedative. It is difficult and usually impossible
to separate out a man's sexual activities and bring influence to bear on
these activities alone. Sexual activity is so closely intertwined with the
other organic activities, erotic exuberance is so much a flower which is
rooted in the whole organism, that the blow which crushes it may strike
down the whole man. The bromides are universally recognized as powerful
sexual sedatives, but their influence in this respect only makes itself
felt when they have dulled all the finest energies of the organism.
Physical exercise is universally recommended to sexually hyperæsthetic
patients. Yet most people, men and women, find that physical exercise is a
positive stimulus to sexual activity. This is notably so as regards
walking, and exuberantly energetic young women who are troubled by the
irritant activity of their healthy sexual emotions sometimes spend a large
part of their time in the vain attempt to lull their activity by long
walks. Physical exercise only proves efficacious in this respect when it
is carried to an extent which produces general exhaustion. Then indeed the
sexual activity is lulled; but so are all the mental and physical
activities. It is undoubtedly true that exercises and games of all sorts
for young people of both sexes have a sexually hygienic as well as a
generally hygienic influence which is undoubtedly beneficial. They are, on
all grounds, to be preferred to prolonged sedentary occupations. But it is
idle to suppose that games and exercises will suppress the sexual
impulses, for in so far as they favor health, they favor all the impulses
that are the result of health. The most that can be expected is that they
may tend to restrain the manifestations of sex by dispersing the energy
they generate.
There are many physical rules and precautions which are advocated, not
without reason, as tending to inhibit or diminish sexual activity. The
avoidance of heat and the cultivation of cold is one of the most important
of these. Hot climates, a close atmosphere, heavy bed-clothing, hot baths,
all tend powerfully to excite the sexual system, for that system is a
peripheral sensory organ, and whatever stimulates the skin generally,
stimulates the sexual system.[99] Cold, which contracts the skin, also
deadens the sexual feelings, a fact which the ascetics of old knew and
acted upon. The garments and the posture of the body are not without
influence. Constriction or pressure in the neighborhood of the sexual
region, even tight corsets, as well as internal pressure, as from a
distended bladder, are sources of sexual irritation. Sleeping on the back,
which congests the spinal centres, also acts in the same way, as has long
been known by those who attend to sexual hygiene; thus it is stated that
in the Franciscan order it is prohibited to lie on the back. Food and
drink are, further, powerful sexual stimulants. This is true even of the
simplest and most wholesome nourishment, but it is more especially true of
flesh meat, and, above all, of alcohol in its stronger forms such as
spirits, liqueurs, sparkling and heavy wines, and even many English beers.
This has always been clearly realized by those who cultivate asceticism,
and it is one of the powerful reasons why alcohol should not be given in
early youth. As St. Jerome wrote, when telling Eustochium that she must
avoid wine like poison, "wine and youth are the two fires of lust. Why
add oil to the flame?"[100] Idleness, again, especially when combined with
rich living, promotes sexual activity, as Burton sets forth at length in
his _Anatomy of Melancholy_, and constant occupation, on the other hand,
concentrates the wandering activities.
Mental exercise, like physical exercise, has sometimes been advocated as a
method of calming sexual excitement, but it seems to be equally equivocal
in its action. If it is profoundly interesting and exciting it may stir up
rather than lull the sexual emotions. If it arouses little interest it is
unable to exert any kind of influence. This is true even of mathematical
occupations which have been advocated by various authorities, including
Broussais, as aids to sexual hygiene.[101] "I have tried mechanical mental
work," a lady writes, "such as solving arithmetical or algebraic problems,
but it does no good; in fact it seems only to increase the excitement." "I
studied and especially turned my attention to mathematics," a clergyman
writes, "with a view to check my sexual tendencies. To a certain extent I
was successful. But at the approach of an old friend, a voice or a touch,
these tendencies came back again with renewed strength. I found
mathematics, however, the best thing on the whole to take off my attention
from women, better than religious exercises which I tried when younger
(twenty-two to thirty)." At the best, however, such devices are of merely
temporary efficacy.
It is easier to avoid arousing the sexual impulses than to impose silence
on them by hygienic measures when once they are aroused. It is,
therefore, in childhood and youth that all these measures may be most
reasonably observed in order to avoid any premature sexual excitement. In
one group of stolidly normal children influences that might be expected to
act sexually pass away unperceived. At the other extreme, another group of
children are so neurotically and precociously sensitive that no
precautions will preserve them from such influences. But between these
groups there is another, probably much the largest, who resist slight
sexual suggestions but may succumb to stronger or longer influences, and
on these the cares of sexual hygiene may profitably be bestowed.[102]
After puberty, when the spontaneous and inner voice of sex may at any
moment suddenly make itself heard, all hygienic precautions are liable to
be flung to the winds, and even the youth or maiden most anxious to retain
the ideals of chastity can often do little but wait till the storm has
passed. It sometimes happens that a prolonged period of sexual storm and
stress occurs soon after puberty, and then dies away although there has
been little or no sexual gratification, to be succeeded by a period of
comparative calm. It must be remembered that in many, and perhaps most,
individuals, men and women, the sexual appetite, unlike hunger or thirst,
can after a prolonged struggle, be reduced to a more or less quiescent
state which, far from injuring, may even benefit the physical and psychic
vigor generally. This may happen whether or not sexual gratification has
been obtained. If there has never been any such gratification, the
struggle is less severe and sooner over, unless the individual is of
highly erotic temperament. If there has been gratification, if the mind
is filled not merely with desires but with joyous experience to which the
body also has grown accustomed, then the struggle is longer and more
painfully absorbing. The succeeding relief, however, if it comes, is
sometimes more complete and is more likely to be associated with a state
of psychic health. For the fundamental experiences of life, under normal
conditions, bring not only intellectual sanity, but emotional
pacification. A conquest of the sexual appetites which has never at any
period involved a gratification of these appetites seldom produces results
that commend themselves as rich and beautiful.
In these combats there are, however, no permanent conquests. For a very
large number of people, indeed, though there may be emotional changes and
fluctuations dependent on a variety of circumstances, there can scarcely
be said to be any conquest at all. They are either always yielding to the
impulses that assail them, or always resisting those impulses, in the
first case with remorse, in the second with dissatisfaction. In either
case much of their lives, at the time when life is most vigorous, is
wasted. With women, if they happen to be of strong passions and reckless
impulses to abandonment, the results may be highly enervating, if not
disastrous to the general psychic life. It is to this cause, indeed, that
some have been inclined to attribute the frequent mediocrity of women's
work in artistic and intellectual fields. Women of intellectual force are
frequently if not generally women of strong passions, and if they resist
the tendency to merge themselves in the duties of maternity their lives
are often wasted in emotional conflict and their psychic natures
impoverished.[103]
The extent to which sexual abstinence and the struggles it
involves may hamper and absorb the individual throughout life is
well illustrated in the following case. A lady, vigorous, robust,
and generally healthy, of great intelligence and high character,
has reached middle life without marrying, or ever having sexual
relationships. She was an only child, and when between three and
four years of age, a playmate some six years older, initiated her
into the habit of playing with her sexual parts. She was,
however, at this age quite devoid of sexual feelings, and the
habit dropped naturally, without any bad effects, as soon as she
left the neighborhood of this girl a year or so later. Her health
was good and even brilliant, and she developed vigorously at
puberty. At the age of sixteen, however, a mental shock caused
menstruation to diminish in amount during some years, and
simultaneously with this diminution persistent sexual excitement
appeared spontaneously, for the first time. She regarded such
feelings as abnormal and unhealthy, and exerted all her powers of
self-control in resisting them. But will power had no effect in
diminishing the feelings. There was constant and imperious
excitement, with the sense of vibration, tension, pressure,
dilatation and tickling, accompanied, it may be, by some ovarian
congestion, for she felt that on the left side there was a
network of sexual nerves, and retroversion of the uterus was
detected some years later. Her life was strenuous with many
duties, but no occupation could be pursued without this
undercurrent of sexual hyperæsthesia involving perpetual
self-control. This continued more or less acutely for many years,
when menstruation suddenly stopped altogether, much before the
usual period of the climacteric. At the same time the sexual
excitement ceased, and she became calm, peaceful, and happy.
Diminished menstruation was associated with sexual excitement,
but abundant menstruation and its complete absence were both
accompanied by the relief of excitement. This lasted for two
years. Then, for the treatment of a trifling degree of anæmia,
she was subjected to a long, and, in her case, injudicious course
of hypodermic injections of strychnia. From that time, five years
ago, up to the present, there has been constant sexual
excitement, and she has always to be on guard lest she should be
overtaken by a sexual spasm. Her torture is increased by the fact
that her traditions make it impossible for her (except under very
exceptional circumstances) to allude to the cause of her
sufferings. "A woman is handicapped," she writes. "She may never
speak to anyone on such a subject. She must live her tragedy
alone, smiling as much as she can under the strain of her
terrible burden." To add to her trouble, two years ago, she felt
impelled to resort to masturbation, and has done so about once a
month since; this not only brings no real relief, and leaves
irritability, wakefulness, and dark marks under the eyes, but is
a cause of remorse to her, for she regards masturbation as
entirely abnormal and unnatural. She has tried to gain benefit,
not merely by the usual methods of physical hygiene, but by
suggestion, Christian Science, etc., but all in vain. "I may
say," she writes, "that it is the most passionate desire of my
heart to be freed from this bondage, that I may relax the
terrible years-long tension of resistance, and be happy in my own
way. If I had this affliction once a month, once a week, even
twice a week, to stand against it would be child's play. I should
scorn to resort to unnatural means, however moderately. But
self-control itself has its revenges, and I sometimes feel as if
it is no longer to be borne."
Thus while it is an immense benefit in physical and psychic development if
the eruption of the disturbing sexual emotions can be delayed until
puberty or adolescence, and while it is a very great advantage, after that
eruption has occurred, to be able to gain control of these emotions, to
crush altogether the sexual nature would be a barren, if not, indeed, a
perilous victory, bringing with it no satisfaction. "If I had only had
three weeks' happiness," said a woman, "I would not quarrel with Fate, but
to have one's whole life so absolutely empty is horrible." If such vacuous
self-restraint may, by courtesy, be termed a virtue, it is but a negative
virtue. The persons who achieve it, as the result of congenitally feeble
sexual aptitudes, merely (as Gyurkovechky, Fürbringer, and Löwenfeld have
all alike remarked) made a virtue of their weakness. Many others, whose
instincts were less weak, when they disdainfully put to flight the desires
of sex in early life, have found that in later life that foe returns in
tenfold force and perhaps in unnatural shapes.[104]
The conception of "sexual abstinence" is, we see, an entirely false and
artificial conception. It is not only ill-adjusted to the hygienic facts
of the case but it fails even to invoke any genuinely moral motive, for it
is exclusively self-regarding and self-centred. It only becomes genuinely
moral, and truly inspiring, when we transform it into the altruistic
virtue of self-sacrifice. When we have done so we see that the element of
abstinence in it ceases to be essential, "Self-sacrifice," writes the
author of a thoughtful book on the sexual life, "is acknowledged to be the
basis of virtue; the noblest instances of self-sacrifice are those
dictated by sexual affection. Sympathy is the secret of altruism; nowhere
is sympathy more real and complete than in love. Courage, both moral and
physical, the love of truth and honor, the spirit of enterprise, and the
admiration of moral worth, are all inspired by love as by nothing else in
human nature. Celibacy denies itself that inspiration or restricts its
influence, according to the measure of its denial of sexual intimacy. Thus
the deliberate adoption of a consistently celibate life implies the
narrowing down of emotional and moral experience to a degree which is,
from the broad scientific standpoint, unjustified by any of the advantages
piously supposed to accrue from it."[105]
In a sane natural order all the impulses are centred in the fulfilment of
needs and not in their denial. Moreover, in this special matter of sex, it
is inevitable that the needs of others, and not merely the needs of the
individual himself, should determine action. It is more especially the
needs of the female which are the determining factor; for those needs are
more various, complex and elusive, and in his attentiveness to their
gratification the male finds a source of endless erotic satisfaction. It
might be thought that the introduction of an altruistic motive here is
merely the claim of theoretical morality insisting that there shall be a
firm curb on animal instinct. But, as we have again and again seen
throughout the long course of these _Studies_, it is not so. The animal
instinct itself makes this demand. It is a biological law that rules
throughout the zoölogical world and has involved the universality of
courtship. In man it is only modified because in man sexual needs are not
entirely concentrated in reproduction, but more or less penetrate the
whole of life.
While from the point of view of society, as from that of Nature, the end
and object of the sexual impulse is procreation, and nothing beyond
procreation, that is by no means true for the individual, whose main
object it must be to fulfil himself harmoniously with that due regard for
others which the art of living demands. Even if sexual relationships had
no connection with procreation whatever--as some Central Australian tribes
believe--they would still be justifiable, and are, indeed, an
indispensable aid to the best moral development of the individual, for it
is only in so intimate a relationship as that of sex that the finest
graces and aptitudes of life have full scope. Even the saints cannot
forego the sexual side of life. The best and most accomplished saints from
Jerome to Tolstoy--even the exquisite Francis of Assisi--had stored up in
their past all the experiences that go to the complete realization of
life, and if it were not so they would have been the less saints.
The element of positive virtue thus only enters when the control of the
sexual impulse has passed beyond the stage of rigid and sterile abstinence
and has become not merely a deliberate refusal of what is evil in sex, but
a deliberate acceptance of what is good. It is only at that moment that
such control becomes a real part of the great art of living. For the art
of living, like any other art, is not compatible with rigidity, but lies
in the weaving of a perpetual harmony between refusing and accepting,
between giving and taking.[106]
The future, it is clear, belongs ultimately to those who are slowly
building up sounder traditions into the structure of life. The "problem of
sexual abstinence" will more and more sink into insignificance. There
remain the great solid fact of love, the great solid fact of chastity.
Those are eternal. Between them there is nothing but harmony. The
development of one involves the development of the other.
It has been necessary to treat seriously this problem of "sexual
abstinence" because we have behind us the traditions of two thousand years
based on certain ideals of sexual law and sexual license, together with
the long effort to build up practices more or less conditioned by those
ideals. We cannot immediately escape from these traditions even when we
question their validity for ourselves. We have not only to recognize their
existence, but also to accept the fact that for some time to come they
must still to a considerable extent control the thoughts and even in some
degree the actions of existing communities.
It is undoubtedly deplorable. It involves the introduction of an
artificiality into a real natural order. Love is real and positive;
chastity is real and positive. But sexual abstinence is unreal and
negative, in the strict sense perhaps impossible. The underlying feelings
of all those who have emphasized its importance is that a physiological
process can be good or bad according as it is or is not carried out under
certain arbitrary external conditions, which render it licit or illicit.
An act of sexual intercourse under the name of "marriage" is beneficial;
the very same act, under the name of "incontinence," is pernicious. No
physiological process, and still less any spiritual process, can bear such
restriction. It is as much as to say that a meal becomes good or bad,
digestible or indigestible, according as a grace is or is not pronounced
before the eating of it.
It is deplorable because, such a conception being essentially unreal, an
element of unreality is thus introduced into a matter of the gravest
concern alike to the individual and to society. Artificial disputes have
been introduced where no matter of real dispute need exist. A contest has
been carried on marked by all the ferocity which marks contests about
metaphysical or pseudo-metaphysical differences having no concrete basis
in the actual world. As will happen in such cases, there has, after all,
been no real difference between the disputants because the point they
quarreled over was unreal. In truth each side was right and each side was
wrong.
It is necessary, we see, that the balance should be held even. An absolute
license is bad; an absolute abstinence--even though some by nature or
circumstances are urgently called to adopt it--is also bad. They are both
alike away from the gracious equilibrium of Nature. And the force, we see,
which naturally holds this balance even is the biological fact that the
act of sexual union is the satisfaction of the erotic needs, not of one
person, but of two persons.
FOOTNOTES:
[92] This view was an ambiguous improvement on the view, universally
prevalent, as Westermarck has shown, among primitive peoples, that the
sexual act involves indignity to a woman or depreciation of her only in so
far as she is the property of another person who is the really injured
party.
[93] This implicit contradiction has been acutely pointed out from the
religious side by the Rev. H. Northcote, _Christianity and Sex Problems_,
p. 53.
[94] It has already been necessary to discuss this point briefly in "The
Sexual Impulse in Women," vol. iii of these _Studies_.
[95] "Die Abstinentia Sexualis," _Zeitschrift für Sexualwissenschaft_,
Nov., 1908.
[96] P. Janet, "La Maladie du Scrupule," _Revue Philosophique_, May, 1901.
[97] S. Freud, _Sexual-Probleme_, March, 1908. As Adele Schreiber also
points out (_Mutterschutz_, Jan., 1907, p. 30), it is not enough to prove
that abstinence is not dangerous; we have to remember that the spiritual
and physical energy used up in repressing this mighty instinct often
reduces a joyous and energetic nature to a weary and faded shadow.
Similarly, Helene Stöcker (_Die Liebe und die Frauen_, p. 105) says: "The
question whether abstinence is harmful is, to say the truth, a ridiculous
question. One needs to be no nervous specialist to know, as a matter of
course, that a life of happy love and marriage is the healthy life, and
its complete absence cannot fail to lead to severe psychic depression,
even if no direct physiological disturbances can be demonstrated."
[98] Max Flesch, "Ehe, Hygine und Sexuelle Moral," _Mutterschutz_, 1905,
Heft 7.
[99] See the Section on Touch in the fourth volume of these _Studies_.
[100] "I have had two years' close experience and connexion with the
Trappists," wrote Dr. Butterfield, of Natal (_British Medical Journal_,
Sept. 15, 1906, p. 668), "both as medical attendant and as being a
Catholic in creed myself. I have studied them and investigated their life,
habits and diet, and though I should be very backward in adopting it
myself, as not suited to me individually, the great bulk of them are in
absolute ideal health and strength, seldom ailing, capable of vast work,
mental and physical. Their life is very simple and very regular. A
healthier body of men and women, with perfect equanimity of temper--this
latter I lay great stress on--it would be difficult to find. Health beams
in their eyes and countenance and actions. Only in sickness or prolonged
journeys are they allowed any strong foods--meats, eggs, etc.--or any
alcohol."
[101] Féré, _L'Instinct Sexuel_, second edition, p. 332.
[102] Rural life, as we have seen when discussing its relation to sexual
precocity, _is_ on one side the reverse of a safeguard against sexual
influences. But, on the other hand, in so far as it involves hard work and
simple living under conditions that are not nervously stimulating, it is
favorable to a considerably delayed sexual activity in youth and to a
relative continence. Ammon, in the course of his anthropological
investigations of Baden conscripts, found that sexual intercourse was rare
in the country before twenty, and even sexual emissions during sleep rare
before nineteen or twenty. It is said, also, he repeats, that no one has a
right to run after girls who does not yet carry a gun, and the elder lads
sometimes brutally ill-treat any younger boy found going about with a
girl. No doubt this is often preliminary to much license later.
[103] The numerical preponderance which celibate women teachers have now
gained in the American school system has caused much misgiving among many
sagacious observers, and is said to be unsatisfactory in its results on
the pupils of both sexes. A distinguished authority, Professor McKeen
Cattell ("The School and the Family," _Popular Science Monthly_, Jan.,
1909), referring to this preponderance of "devitalized and unsexed
spinsters," goes so far as to say that "the ultimate result of letting the
celibate female be the usual teacher has been such as to make it a
question whether it would not be an advantage to the country if the whole
school plant could be scrapped."
[104] Corre (_Les Criminels_, p. 351) mentions that of thirteen priests
convicted of crime, six were guilty of sexual attempts on children, and of
eighty-three convicted lay teachers, forty-eight had committed similar
offenses. This was at a time when lay teachers were in practice almost
compelled to live a celibate life; altered conditions have greatly
diminished this class of offense among them. Without going so far as
crime, many moral and religious men, clergymen and others, who have led
severely abstinent lives in youth, sometimes experience in middle age or
later the eruption of almost uncontrollable sexual impulses, normal or
abnormal. In women such manifestations are apt to take the form of
obsessional thoughts of sexual character, as e.g., the case
(_Comptes-Rendus Congrès International de Médecine_, Moscow, 1897, vol.
iv, p. 27) of a chaste woman who was compelled to think about and look at
the sexual organs of men.
[105] J.A. Godfrey, _The Science of Sex_, p. 138.
[106] See, e.g., Havelock Ellis, "St. Francis and Others," _Affirmations_.
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